Testimony – God Restores a Broken Marriage

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One of the more frequent type of emails we have received over the years since we have been online is from married couples, where one of the spouses has left the other one for another partner. The one spouse who has been left behind then starts praying to God to bring their spouse back home.

The pain adultery causes in a marriage relationship is extreme and traumatic, as a broken heart is one of the worst kinds of pain you can go through. For those of you who have been on the receiving end of adultery, you know exactly what I am talking about. You feel like your whole world has been shattered and that you will never be able to trust your spouse again, even though you are asking God to bring your mate back to you as you cannot stand the pain of that broken heart.

For those of you who are still praying to the Lord for the restoration of your marriage, below is a powerful testimony we have just received from a woman by the name of Crystal. Crystal had what she thought was the perfect marriage when all of a sudden her husband tells her one day he wants out of the marriage, as he had been having an affair with a woman online.

As you will see when reviewing her testimony below, Crystal was determined she was not going to lose her good marriage over something like this, so she stormed the throne of God asking Him to move to bring her husband back. Here is her word-for-word testimony, and then I will point out a few key things she did to get God to move on this extreme situation.

My name is Crystal and I’m here to let you know that with man it may seem impossible……but with Almighty God…..NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE…

I made a promise to God and to myself that WHEN he restored my marriage, I would testify and tell the world….I would share EVERY single detail no matter how shameful and embarrassing it would be, in the hope and knowledge that I would someday be able to bring some kind of hope for a hurting wife or husband who would’ve been going through what I once was.

I’ll try to be as brief as possible but I really don’t want to leave any detail out….no matter how small, because it may be the very thing God wants to use to inspire and encourage a stander or prodigal spouse.

I don’t want to apportion blame too much here but suffice it to say we had some in-law issues which contributed greatly to our demise….but that is another story and I want to concentrate on how God showed up and showed off in the mist of my situation. Today is March 16th 2011…. My husband of 1 year and 5 months left me on November 30th, 2010… .BUT…. all thanks and all praise be to Almighty God, he is now back home and we are rebuilding a marriage that from all counts and to the naked eye in the natural realm was dead.

As far as I could see we were the perfect couple……went out together…….stayed home together……laughed, joked……..we were like two peas in a pod……of course we had our regular marital problems….no marriage is perfect……..in addition to the above we also….. argued and sometimes told each other some harsh words…….LIKE EVERY OTHER COUPLE……it isn’t right but it happens…..

In spite of all this , I believed he loved me just as much as I loved him……you could imagine my surprise and heart break when one day after a short disagreement……and I mean short….lasting no more that a few minutes…..my beloved husband packed his clothes and walked out of my life…….

All this happened on Nov 30th 2010…..I held off from calling him because I was still upset and I figured I didn’t do him any harm…..he was the one that stepped out in our marriage and on our marriage…..ours wasn’t a physical stepping as in outside sex….it was an on-going 5 month relationship on the internet, with someone he had been previously involved with.

The days went by and he didn’t call so on December 5th 2010….I called him…..he refused to take my calls so I texted him only to be told that he wasn’t interested in me and I should go on with my life….that I should never call or text him again……..that was like a dagger through my heart……I felt as though someone had literally ran a knife straight through my stomach and was twisting it repeatedly…..but that isn’t the worse yet…..

I persisted in calling him that same day and eventually he picked up the phone…he was as cold as ice……I felt frightened even listening to him……he told me….I NEVER LOVED YOU……I AM SORRY WE GOT MARRIED…..I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE…..I DON’T LOVE YOU LIKE A MAN SHOULD LOVE A WOMAN…..THE FEELINGS I HAVE FOR YOU IS THAT OF A “GOOD” FRIEND……I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU SHOULD GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE…..I’M
NOT COMING BACK…….

I have never felt pain like I did then in my entire life……..it is amazing when you are down on luck how quickly you remember that GOD does exists.

I was a regular church goer and I tithed but I still didn’t have that personal relationship with God…..well God has a way of getting our attention in ways unimaginable….and he got mine.

I cried DAILY AND HOURLY……I felt all hope was gone….I mean how do you get someone to love you again when that person is saying I never loved you at all…..YOU CANT….BUT GOD CAN……

I had built my life around my husband and now he was gone……I felt like I lost the better part of me…..I couldn’t eat….I couldn’t eat ….I didn’t want to socialize and I forced myself to go to work…..but God had a plan…….even though all seemed lost……God was turning my situation around even as I was hurting…..what the devil meant for evil God was turning around for good.

I enlisted the help of three persons…….a Prophetess, an Apostle, and a church Pastor…..these were all spiritual people I knew……and strong men and women of God……I knew I wasn’t strong in my spirit and my faith was way less than even that of a mustard seed.

I still cried every day but I also engaged in some radical and spiritual warfare for my husband…..I spoke the word of God over my marriage EVERYDAY and I prayed hedges of thorns around my husband EVERYDAY…..I pleaded the blood of Jesus over him and claimed my marriage in the name of Jesus.

Remember I wasn’t rooted in God so my prayers wasn’t as flowing as other people but everyday I gain more and more strength and my faith began to soar…..I prayed that God would soften my husband’s heart and remind him of the love we once shared……I asked God to send Godly people in his life to speak to him even when I couldn’t and God heard me….

I think I either bought or borrowed every book on marriage…warfare….prayer…you name it ….every website I could think of…….. And I just wrapped my husband up and prayed what ever pray I could even verbatim from some of those same books…….I became like a one man army…..

At times the devil whispered in my ears and unbelief and doubt settled in….I would call my prayer warriors for encouragement and go to God crying and in a few hours would be right as rain and ready again to go up against the gates of hell for my boo. To make a long story short……Sunday January 16th 2011….I got a text from my husband….who accidently had AGAIN on the 14th January 2011…..told me he felt the same way and I should go on with my life.

He said he wanted to talk and wanted to know if he could come by the house…he wanted to know if I could forgive him for what he did and for us to try again at our
marriage…

I had released my husband and my marriage to God and I knew God was going to do something…. but I thought it would be perhaps a Hi hello…how are you….or perhaps a few weeks down the line he might drop in a call or something……….I had no idea that MY GOD was bringing my husband home that day….that instant…

He told me that after he spoke to me on Thursday….he went to God himself and talked to him and asked him to speak and show him what he should do……..he said from the time he said that everything just went crazy…..everything he saw reminded him of me….. when he went to sleep his dreams were constant replays of our life together….. he started thinking about stuff that happened before and after our marriage that were nothing short of miraculous…..

In short…..God was speaking to him all along but he was too proud to just walk back and admit that he was wrong but he wanted to so much….. He wanted to give our marriage a chance and he loved me and wanted to be with ME.

I give all the thanks and praise to God for what he did……it doesn’t matter what your situation looks like….it doesn’t matter how impossible and dead it seems……it doesn’t matter what your husband or wife is planning……..we plan but God is also planning and he works EVERYTHING out together for those that love the LORD..

DO NOT GIVE UP….THE DEVIL AND EVEN YOUR OWN MIND IS GOING TO TRY TO TELL YOU TO MOVE ON…LEAVE HIM/HER ALONE…HE/SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU…..THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO…..THERE IS NO ONE THAT CAN HELP YOU NOW…..DO NOT LISTEN……even in your tears….cry out to God….when you don’t know what to say…..just say JESUS….nothing more……tears is a language God understands and he is going to work it out…..

This isn’t every single detail of what happened there are parts missing…but my short journey has been nothing but incredible and miraculous…but I want you to know that with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE…

Be encouraged

Notice several key things Crystal did to get God to move on her behalf.

1.  The first thing she did was to fully surrender the entire matter into God’s hand. Notice she said she had faith less than the size of a mustard seed when she first started to approach the Lord for His help.

As we have showed you in our article titled, “Bible Verses on Faith,” the Bible tells us that faith the size of a mustard seed will move mountains. This means that you do not have to have large amounts of faith with the Lord to get the show going with Him. God will take whatever level of faith you are operating at with Him and then move to help you out with your current situation as long as you are directly seeking after His help and are willing to fully surrender the entire matter into His hands.

2.  The next thing she did right was to enlist the aid of three powerful prayer warriors to help her with her prayers to the Lord. This is what is called the prayer of agreement. We already have an article on how powerful of a strategy this is with the Lord. The title of this article is, “Prayer Secret #6 – The Prayer of Agreement.”

3.  Also notice she went into a very heavy seeking mode by searching out every good book she could find on marriage, prayer, and spiritual warfare. The Bible says to “seek” and then you will find what you are looking for. And this woman went into a very heavy seeking mode. I believe when God sees this kind of intense seeking activity, He is really moved, and sometimes that is what will get Him to move to answer the prayer.

4.  Another thing she did when she went on the offensive was to plead the blood of Jesus around the situation. If you have a spouse that has left you for another person, it would be our recommendation to plead the blood of Jesus around them, and then plead the blood of Jesus against any demons who are trying to get in the middle of this, along with pleading the blood of Jesus directly against the person they are having the affair with.

All in all, as you read her incredible testimony, the thing that stands out is her fierce determination that she was not going to let her marriage go, and that she would take a hold of God and keep praying to Him until He brought her husband back home to her.

We want to personally thank Crystal for allowing us to release her testimony on our site, as it will help show others that God can move to restore broken marriages, no matter how hopeless things may look in the natural.

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  1. Your words give me hope that anything is possible even the restoration of a broken marriage. I am the cheating husband for years my wife wanted me back , truth is I wanted to be back but I couldn’t get over the shame and guilt of stepping out of our circle. I moved in with the other woman and we had a child together, all while still very much wishing I could go back to my wife. I actually tried twice to no avail, couldn’t handle the pressure and quickly returned to the other woman. The other woman knows that while I care for her she is not my heart. Recently I came to God and now know that I don’t have to be ashamed anymore, or carry that guilt but my ex-wife has said she can’t trust me and is now seeing someone else. I know she still loves me and wants nothing more than to be with me but she can’t let herself be hurt again. Jesus has changed my life and I believe that he will restore our marriage and we will be able to share with the world our story of how God can do anything even save a wayward man like me.( I love you Tamra )and thank God that she came into my life. I will spend the rest of my life loving her the way I should have all along and I know how now because Jesus is with us! Thank you Crystal for sharing that even the most crazy relationship trials are nothing to the power of Jesus. I BELIEVE!

    • Wow, I could have written most of this about myself. I was the adulterer and caused enough pain to last anyone a lifetime. God has since opened my eyes and heart and am working on restoring my marriage. I am ashamed of what I’ve done but wish for nothing more than to be the righteous person I once was and do right by my partner.

      Things are much better but there is still a long road ahead. I made a promise that once my marriage is fully restored, and it will be praise God, that I will leave testimonies wherever I can to the greatness of Almighty God. Hard part is having patience in His perfect timing.

      God Bless all that are standing for their marriage.

      • My marriage was broken and we even had a divorce and for 40 days. But Jesus restored what looked broken. True repentance and only through the power of the Holy Spirit that restored our marriage. Repentance and true forgiveness that led to reconciliation and remarriage to same Person. You must have your vertical relationship with Christ before your marriage can be restored.

  2. amazing!
    this gives me hope.
    my husband has been messaging an ex girlfriend as well
    but he says he cant stop
    and is on the phone for hours
    in front of me.
    but im not giving up
    i know the Lord is working in his time
    i just have to be patient and keep praying

  3. My wife left me 6 months ago and said she would never come back, unless God changes her mind completely.
    I have asked her insistently to come back and she’s been so rude to me.
    I just pray that God changes her thoughts and behavior.

  4. My marriage is falling apart. I am doing everything in my power not to give up. Everyone tells me I should let her go. I even hear whispers, but I tell them God has promised our marriage great things to come. He will provide. I’m praying every day. Morning, night and every hour with tears of sadness. Your testimony has given me hope. I will keep on fighting and not give up on her. I love her so much and I know God is doing what He needs to do. Thank you.

  5. I am in tears reading this testimony. I am going through a very rough time with my husband who does not want to save my marriage. Unfortunately I was unfaithful at different stages of our relationship and I cannot tell you how much I hate myself for hurting him. I want to save my marriage so badly but he says he cannot forgive or does not even want to forgive me for what I have done. He is very adamant about leaving me, and I just dont know what to do. We have been together for 10 years…married for 5. I know I only want him 🙁 I dont know what to do, or what God is telling me to do. We still live together but he is actively looking for apartments to live elsewhere. I am so afraid, confused, and scared. I really have no idea what to do. He says he loves me, but cannot see a future with someone who did this.

    • Anna Maria, I’m praying for you. I know exactly how you feel. I m in the same situation. I get confused if I should keep fighting for my marriage or just give up and take it as a consequence of my sin. But I keep praying to God because he’s a God of miracles.

  6. Hi everyone, i hope in this situation we are all facing we can find some light. I too, experienced the same things and is still going through it at this very moment. I had been with my husband for almost a decade but we only got married recently and i thought everything was perfect when God has called my attention and decided to test my faith and obedience in him. My husband and i are currently separated (almost 2 months now) and am currently pregnant with our first child. Ive resorted to almost everything and after reading so many articles about marriage restoration, going to different counselors, heeding the advice of older married couples around us, it only made matters much worse.

    Just recently, i came across Erin Thiele’s book called “How God Can and Will Restore your Marriage” through browsing the comments section here and i thought i should give it a try.
    After reading the material, i reread it over and over again until i came to accept the fact that what happened in my marriage was basically because of my disobedience to the Word of God. For the ladies and wives out there like me, i truly suggest you get ahold of this book because it can change your perception in ways unimaginable, ways that will not be suitable to your preference, ways that are out of your comfort zone, but if you truly want to restore your marriage and truly believe it is God’s will for you to save it, you can start from here. I also believe they have a separate book for men. Together, we can all start anew and build a stronger foundation for our homes and family in accordance to God’s will through his words. He will speak to you directly.

    I believe God has his perfect timing for everything, even when we don’t see God’s actions in the flesh, we can rest safely knowing that he is fighting the spiritual battle for us when we had laid all our worries and fears on him.

    Let me share with you some of the passages i had also acquired from Erin Thiele’s A Wise Woman Book.

    Your battle will be won or lost in your mind. “We are destroying speculations and every lofty thing raised up against the knowledge of God, and we are taking every thought captive to the obedience of Christ, and we are ready to punish all disobedience, whenever your obedience is complete.” 2Cor. 10:5-6. Don’t play into the enemy’s hands. Don’t entertain evil thoughts; take your thoughts captive!

    No matter how bad things seem, God is in control.
    Our comfort is knowing that God is in control, not us and certainly not Satan. “Simon, Simon, behold, Satan has demanded permission to sift you like wheat; but I have prayed for you, that your faith may not fail; and you, when once you have turned again, strengthen your brothers.” Luke 22:31-32.

    It may take some time to see the changes in our spouses lives or victory manifested in the flesh, but we must continue to hope and pray for the things that are not seen. Have faith in the Lord no matter how rough the situation may seem. Only God has the power to change things.

    Rejoice for the Lord is working through all of our problems right now. I will continue to pray for everyone in here. May Godbless us all and i look forward to reading your restored marriage testimonies like Crystal here soon.

  7. This testimony gave me encouragement.. I’ve been married since July of 2014. My husband and I were inseparable. I have 3 children and I’m not able to give him any natural children. He always said that doesn’t bother him because of the relationship he’s grown with my children. He claims them as his own. Well about 8 months ago I noticed we started to argue more than we ever did before. We were having trouble getting along as well but we were still very much in love with each other. Well so I thought… In November we got into an argument which was really a misunderstanding and he came home from work and told me he was leaving me. He came home that night but went out with his mother and purchased a car which added another car note that we couldn’t afford. I had been trying my hardest to let it go. I wasn’t working anyway so he told he it’s always been his responsibility to worry about the bills so he would take care of it. Then we got into another argument in February.. he left again.. came back home after 3 days then in We got into an argument and I told him to leave. I was so afraid of being abandoned that I couldn’t trust that he really even wanted to be there. Well since then he told me he’s never coming back. We live in Georgia and a week after he left the house he told me he was gonna go visit his brother in Kansas for a while… come to find out he got a job out there.. I ask him what he’s doing and he says he doesn’t know. He just knows he doesn’t want to be at the house. And he’s not sure if and when he’s coming back. He calls me everyday and even gets angry when I don’t answer. However if I call him he barely answers or makes me feel like I’m bothering him. This has me so confused and emotionally drained because I’m fighting for my marriage but he won’t even entertain a conversation about coming home. My children are heartbroken.

  8. This is exactly what I needed to see today. My husband came home from work on July 17, 2017 and said he wanted a divorce. Within a few hours I finally managed to get the truth out of him which was, because he had been seeing another woman for the last month and a half. He ended up not leaving and I thought the affair was over. Sexually it was. Emotionally no. They would talk, meet up and sneak around to do so, as finalky were caught in September. He moved out, then a few weeks later moved home. I assumed it was over, but within weeks realized no, they just found sneakier ways to communicate; Snapchat, messenger, burner phone apps. He stayed through Christmas, moved out January 3, 2018. He came home again around the 1st of March when he finally, truly ended his affair.
    Yet, 2 weeks later walked out again saying he was tired of trying and he didn’t love me anymore. He barely speaks to me, and yesterday he filed for divorce. I have done every single thing you advised in this post. I have seen God move. The night before he broke up with his girlfriend, my cousins bible study group over 100 miles away prayed an intercessory prayer for me, and the prayed he would end that affair. It ended 24 hours later! Praise God! Then Satan came back for ankyher round and now I am facing a 60 day deadline for divorce. If you have any other suggestions, I am listening. I do not believe God leaves works unfinsihed, I do not believe God is for divorce in my circumstance. I belive because this has been such a public spiritual battle (everyone in our small town knows) that Satan wants to make a fool out of God’s word by making me and my faith look silly. Everyone knows I’ve stood from July 17 until today March 24, without wavering, and I believe that my husband is going to wake up any minute and realize the hurt and damage he has done. We have an 18 year old son who’s heart is breaking. His dad was his hero, but he can’t condone what he’s doing to this family. If you google midlife crisis, it is word for word my life and I couldn’t do anything about this at this point even if I hadn’t already given it to God. But if there is another perspective to pray from, and angle I’m not realizing – someone please tell me, or simply pray for me and my family. I have hundreds of people praying but I will take every prayer I am blessed enough to get!

  9. This article has given me encouragement. I struggle because I left my husband and now it’s been 6 months and I want him back and he says baby steps. The long story, I was unfaithful and I hurt him but I stayed and we tried to work it out but there was constant fighting and yelling with our children around and so I left. I packed up the kids, dogs, and left while he was at work. I killed his spirit. Now as the divorce nears and we haven’t talked at all in 6 months I hesitate because I feel as though there is a piece missing and it has been since he left.

    I have been praying and seeking God’s advice while searching for ways to open his heart to me through God. I am scared that now that he has talked to me I have scared him away with how much I love him and miss him. how do I proceed when he won’t answer my texts or phone? Please pray for us. I know God can work miracles and open his heart.

  10. I am speechless and crying over this letter. I am going through a rough marriage right now, been separated for over a year and a half. He had moved in with another woman but when I found out and confronted him he moved back to his parents. That hasn’t kept him from seeing her still. I have forgave every time he’s asked for forgiveness. This past December we were trying to work out in our marriage. He hasn’t had a job in over a year and I had no one to watch our daughter one day. Well I just found out a few days ago that the only day my husband had our daughter all to himself while I worked, he took our daughter to the other woman for her to meet. This got me extremely upset because once again he betrayed my trust and disrespected both my daughter and I. The other woman has no shame in posting pictures of them together and letting social media they’re in a relationship. It hurts me to see all this.

  11. I want You all to capture and look up the “hedge of thrones prayer” this prayer is so powerful. It’s the ultimate prayer to bring back your spouse or even child from the enemy. I have Seen MANY testimonies about this prayer. Pray it day and night, as many times as you can. But first make sure you repent and bring our lord and savior back into your life!! And I mean really back in your life. Yearn for God, like your yearning for you spouse!! 2 days after consistly said This prayer my husband came to me and said how much he loves me and misses me. But he wants us to take things slow but get back to where we was. I stepped Out in him so it made him very angry. So at the very least i will Accept taking things slow. Because i know god is working it out! God is soo good. And just as Crystal i too intend on using my situation as a testimony!!!!! God is good. Stay in prayer , And as i said Yearn for God as much and you are yearning for your spouse. Stay in your word, read the Bible, connect with people who can agree with you, stay in worship. And most of all stay AWAY from naysayers and doubters!!!!! Because they will discourage you… believe in Gods word!!!!! Trust in him, have faith and be patient !!!

  12. Hello everyone,

    I first came across this site in July 2017 after my husband left our two young sons and me for a woman that he had been seeing. This is the third time that he has left our family for her. Apparently he, his mother and the woman planned for him to leave our family and go live with this other woman. He gave me cues that things were great in our relationship but in fact, he had quit his job, changed his address, set up bank accounts, rented a storage unit for some of his things that he told me he sold, and rented an apartment out of state with the woman. I was devastated again, and our children changed as most of you may imagine. His lies and deceitful behavior toward me and our children were unimaginable. I could not imaging how someone could be so heartless and devious. I was hurt for sometime and I had a lot of negative feelings toward him, but I knew that in order for me to move on then I had to forgive him.

    I also thought about what would be best for our children, and perhaps their father was that person. Then I came across this site, I read the comments and prayed for guidance, healing and peace. Then I decided that this situation was not right for my children or me. I came across the hedge of thorns prayer. I used the prayer earnestly and he returned to our family about one month later. This prayer works! Please have faith and believe in all good things.

    Now, she is back. She has been contacting him and he has responded to her, according to what he has said to me. I imagine that he is being dishonest again but I am not sure. I am tired of the back and forth. I want peace and happiness in our family and in our relationship once and for all.

    I am asking for your prayers and advice on what prayers I can use to finally put an end to this situation.

    • This is an update. As of three weeks ago, about 7 months after returning to our family, he has left again. This time he left us a note and has gone back to the other woman. He has had no contact with me or his children. He does not provide any support for the needs of his children. Perhaps God is sending me a message? Perhaps I did not pray hard enough? Did we do something to deserve this? Again, I feel lost and so alone. I don’t know what we did to deserve what he did and is doing to us. I don’t have anymore to give. I don’t know what prayers to say. I just cry.

      • Dear Sally, I have been through an adultereous relationship. Your spouse is also facing a battle spiritually keeping him confused.
        2Cor 4:4
        The god of this age has blinded the minds of unbelievers, so that they cannot see the light of the gospel that displays the glory of Christ, who is the image of God. You have to keep fighting and standing for your marriage and forgive your spouse. Keep pleading the blood of Jesu over your marriage and draw strength from God. Marriage Restoration and surrender is worth it in the end. Do not give up dear sister!!! You can do all things through Christ. Cry to God and He will answer you.
        James 1:2-4 My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, 3 knowing that the testing of your faith produces [a]patience. 4 But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be [b]perfect and complete, lacking nothing.
        You can message me if you need to agree with you in prayer

      • This is a year later, but wherever you are in your life know that you did not deserve what he did to you. None of us deserve what these adulterous and sinful men do to us. Pray for your restoration and healing. I hope you are in a better place my sister.

  13. I found out Feb 17,2016 that my husband was having an affair with a woman at work. While it was his first physical affair he’s had it was the third time he’s been intimate with another woman during our 8 year marriage. But I didn’t see it coming. He was the security leader at our church and in December he was offered a pastoral position while he was in the affair. Immediately upon him telling me about the affair I heard God whisper to fight for my marriage. My husband was so caught off guard that I wanted to work through it that he ran from both me and God. 7 days later he decided he wanted to “stay” in our marriage but didn’t want anything to do with the church. 7 days after that I found out he was still talking to the other woman. 7 days after that he told me he has broken it off with her.

    Throughout this time God helped me realize my portion in all of this. While I will never say any of this was my fault, as a person, I had become bitter and angry. We just had “stuff” happen in our marriage that had created issues.

    Before Christmas that year we had our biggest fight and my husband told me we were going to counseling or he was leaving. He admits now counseling was a ploy to try to convince me we had tried everything and our marriage was failing just so he wouldn’t have to tell me about the affair when he left me.

    Two months after he decided to stay we had started to get into an unhealthy rhythm of ignoring what had happened. We didn’t talk about it. He didn’t want to go to church still and counseling was out of the question. And I knew in my heart things weren’t getting better. We ended up talking one night and he told me, again, that he wanted to leave but he was afraid to leave our girls. He didn’t love me and didn’t want to be married. He said he knew he had never fully surrendered to God and that he wasn’t ready to now either. But yet I heard God to tell me to keep fighting. The next morning he told me he was sorry and that I deserved better. He knows what he’s doing is wrong but he doesn’t want “preached” at.

    Almost a year has come and I’m still waiting. We moved to a new state. My husband is home, wearing his ring, telling me he loves me but he is still running from the Lord. True restoration hasn’t happened because he hasn’t fully surrendered. There hasn’t been true repentance and no signs of true remorse.

    Right now it’s like I’m living in a fog of clarity. I know who I am in Christ. I know what I’m fighting for and who I’m fighting against. So for the last 11 months I’ve given my husband space but I’ve been fighting for him through prayer and I’ve been serving him through life. I’m drawing near to my father who, in my struggles with doubt and fear, minute-by-minute reminds me he’s fighting for my husband for both of us.

    I recently had a vision where I saw my husband on a stage sharing his testimony. I saw my three beautiful daughters on a stage singing praise and worship. I have a hope for my future and I believe the God of my future is speaking back to me telling me to keep fighting and to be patient. Which is so hard. I’ve never been more broken. And waiting is almost unbearable.

    I look forward to the day when God restores, redeems and reveals. To Him be the glory.

    Please keep us in your prayers and I look forward to the day I can send another message praising God for a miracle.

  14. Hi everyone,

    I’m in a bad situation. My husband of 16months packed up on our marriage almost 6months ago.

    Discovered his many lies and cheating on me, but his heart so hardened and he won’t even admit he was wrong. We fought a lot and argued over the phone because we don’t I’ve in the same city.

    I know that the physical distance in our relationship also contributed immensely to our constant fights and eventual separation now.

    But he’s now telling me his mind is made up about our end and that it’s never gonna change or him get back together and have us rebuild our marriage.

    He was once married, yet won’t learn from his mistakes.

    I’m so broken. He’s the one who was majorly wrong – despite that I have my own mistakes, thus contributed to our problems as well. But he won’t even admit he was wrong or own up to that responsibility of being sorry or apologising to me.

    It’s so painful. Much more when I’m now already broken and have started pushing for our reconciliation despite all he hurt me. But he’s still too proud and stubborn, and won’t even listen to reason.

    Sometimes I wonder if he’s OK and not under strong spell or witchcraft attack (given his VERY VERY STIFF AND HARD HEART and EXTREME SELFISHNESS).

    But I love him and don’t want our marriage to end, hence I’m now the one standing in the gap for us through prayers; and I mean fasting and warfare prayers and also involving some men of God I know.

    Some days I feel so tired, exhausted and it’s soooo frustrating.

    Please, join me in prayers for God to restore my marriage and transform my husband and I.

    And if you have some advice and words of encouragement for me, please give me. I really need all support I can get.

    • I hear in your broken heart and my words of encouragement is to, as hard as it may be, surrender your husband and your marriage, and your heart to God. Do not allow a root of bitterness grow in you. that’s what the enemy would want.
      Trust God and seek him because he does all things right
      Your faith is in God and not in your husband and not in yourself.
      Stop trying to figure it out God has already worked it out! and every single time you feel yourself being pulled… Pray fervently and earnestly.
      God wants, I mean really wants to help you. He cares for you.
      Wisdom is my sister nd understanding is my nearest kin Proverbs 7:4 seek His face. You are a stander and so am I

  15. I want to thank all of you for sharing your stories of faith! My husband of 8 years left this week and until I read Crystals story I was looking for ways to be one step ahead of him so I could support our girls financially. Not remembering through the pain who the true healer is! Thank y’all so much for putting me on the right track with God our Father!! Please help pray for my husband and protect him from evil and to please forgive me for all of my sins! Amen!!

    • My husband and I’ve been married for 15 years. We have 2 boys, an 8 years old and 4 months old. My husband has an affair with this woman over the internet that she lives in Laos. He fall head over heels for her like over night. Even got his passport too. This all happened after I had my newborn on July 27th, 2017. I found out about his affair on September 15, 2017. That’s when he admitted he doesn’t want anything to do with me or the kids. He moved out and got his own place. He changed his phone number and stop coming to see me and my babies. I’ve been standing for my marriage and pray so hard about my situation. Honestly, there’s time when I got scared and weary about the situation and asked God… why is this happening to me… feels like all hopes are lost. However, I come to a point in my life where I am fully surrender my husband and my marriage over to God. I lay my husband at the foot of the cross and walk away from it. I know He will restore, rebuild, and fix what’s broken.

      After reading Crystal’s testimony… I know I will receive the same glory gift as well. Just have to wait on God’s time and if He can bring back Crystal husband… He can do the same for me and whoever are in the same situation.

      • Pk Pink,

        I pray that Gods heal and restores you marriage. Crystal, thank you for your story. I too am going through martial issues and my marriage of 10 years is on the line. My I cried, gone through the aspect of regret as I gave my husband and ultimatum for us to seek counseling or leave as separation would occur if he didn’t. To my surprise he chose to leave as he stated that he was not happy. He committee adultery and it was heart breaking and over the years I could not let it go especially how it all transpired. Instead to starving my insecurities he fed them and the lack of trust changed me and my attitude became reactive. We are not separated for six months yet and now he is flaunting his new relationship all over and we live in a small state. He was not romantic to me and now all romantic now. He has asked me to stay out of his life and not contact me and that he will be filing for divorce. However, I have faith that God plan to hinder and stop divorce in favour of divine restoration and reconciliation will be done in Jesus name. My husband is a baptized Christian but has back slide and wants to drink, party and have a good time.

        Like Crystal story he has said that he doesn’t love me, need me anymore and a lot more hurtful things. Now he doesn’t communicate with me at all and just has harden his heart towards me showing resentment. I have repented to God the part I play in the marriage separation and has apologized. Now I plead the blood of Jesus against his adulterer and stand in faith that God will drive her away. I pray that his stop committing adultery and rededicate his life to Christ. I pray hedges of thorn bushes around him that all lovers and other women will loose interest in him and he will return to his wife and realize that life is better and more rewarding with me.

        On this forum I want to again say Lord Jesus, I surrender my husband, my marriage and my heart to God my father. Your will be done as I stand on your word that you rejoice at reconciliation.

        My story is a pretty long one but I have given a quick summary. In Jesus name I pray that the silence between my husband broken and he starts to contact and communicate with me as soon as possible aligned with God timing.

        I believe that we all can bind and pray for each other and I have faith and trust that all our marriages will be restored in the name of Jesus.

        I stand in the gap for my marriage and God divine will be done.

    • I stand with you, the enemy is out to kill and destroy marriages. The marriage is a representation of Christ love for the church and God never walked out and so plead the blood of Jesus over your marriage and over your the soul of your husband. Hell is not meant for man so pray for his eyes to be open to the schemes of the enemy. God will destroy anything or anyone who destroys the Temple of God and that’s us! Don’t ever give up! Hope sometimes hurts but it is rewarding! Build yourself up in your most Holy Faith Jude 1:20

  16. I want to thank all of you for sharing your stories of faith! My husband of 8 years left this week and until I read Crystals story I was looking for ways to be one step ahead of him so I could support our girls financially. Not remembering through the pain who the true healer is! Thank y’all so much for putting me on the right track with God our Father!! Please help pray for my husband and protect him from evil and to please forgive me for all of my sins! Amen!!

  17. My partner for almost 3 years left us with my daughter and she’s living-in with his work-mate. It’s been six months since we ended and today I learned that the girl is pregnant and they are about to get married. I want the father of my daughter back, I love him and I wanted to give my daughter a whole family. Father God, Jesus, Holy Spirit please help me. Amen.

  18. My wife of 20 years left me 7 weeks ago in June of 2017 and said she was not coming back. The pain was excruciating, I cried like never before. She moved to her Mother’s in VA we live in FL. She left and would not talk to me or return a text message for 7 weeks but I kept praying that God would soften her heart just enough to allow us to at least talk. I was a mess and could barely run my business. After falling to my knees on many occasions praying to God to bring her home or at least have her contact me contact me. She finally did text me and from there we have been discussing getting back together. None of this would be possible without God. All the glory goes Jesus Christ my lord and savior.

    • Praise God!! Hallelujah I am so blessed by this. Keep trusting and continue to seek God daily. Love your wife as Christ loved the church and gave himself for it! We are the body the church and Christ won’t live without it. Have this attitude when it comes to your wife. You are her covering. Pray for her always, seek God concerning ALL matters concerning marriage, her soul, her faith in God and importantly LEAD by example. You have the best teacher…Christ

  19. Hi Crystal

    Thanks for your Testimony, You words describe what i’m going thought right now.
    My Wife hast turn in part away from Faith to the World, she said she doesn’t love me, she doesn’t feel attracted to me anymore, She lost faith God can Change that. I feel the pain you said.

    But i’m Believing there is nothing impossible for God.
    Thanks for Sharing, it is so refreshing for me to read it.
    and also Thanks for prays

    Blessings

    John

    • She hasn’t lost faith that God can change, shes following after her own desires. You Know that God can change all things, so seek God and ask Him to reveal to you things you would never know on your own Jeremiah 3:33 and start/continue praying. The enemy wants you blinded to the truth so that way you won’t know how to pray. God wants you not to be ignorant. Ask and he will instruct you in all matters. God has plans ask him how you can assist in His plans, the devil has schemes and God wants you to want him to destroy them.

  20. Thanks to all persons who shared there brokenness and especially relying on God to restore their marriage. My husband walk away from my marriage of 21 year approximately a year and half ago. He kept denying the affair until he was caught with the woman. she then made her self known by sending me a letter. she said, she will never let go and to stop holding on upon someone who want to move on and somethings is not meant to stay together. We did not have a fight or anything like that he just got up and moved in our basement apartment, stating he need space. we both attended church, active member of the congregation. i never saw this coming. We never discuss separation, divorce nothing, he still pay bills, groceries and sometimes cook and send upstairs. although he sleep with this woman and comes home every morning. He still to a church He left a little money on the joint account. Your pray has help me know how to fight for my marriage. God has the final say. But i still has a long way to go. still hurting, but praising God through the pains.

    • Arlene our story are very similar! It’s been four years since my husband walk away.I was blindsided, didn’t see it coming! We had a great marriage I thought and so did everyone that knew us.
      We did everything together, went to bed laughing and joking. Woke up the sane way. Everyone admired our relationship and came to us for advice.
      We been divorce for two years now and it’s still hurts. I pray every day for God to lead and guide me in everything I do. I have no prayer warriors praying with me, I just pray for God’s help and strength! He did me so bad no one wants us together.
      I’ve been in a spiritual war just God and myself! Just so you I still love my former husband, I pray for him everyday for him to confess and repent to God, that God save his soul! God has bless me to not be bitter, have hate, resentful, angry or mad at him! I was only confuse, miserable, hurt and still hurt! God has been good to me in my struggles!!!
      My former husband is a preacher, the pastor said he didn’t committ adulty, change God word to benefit them and turn a blind eye on the situation. A lot of members has left! Had a membership of about 300 members, now it’s maybe 20 to 40 at times. Only one other church still associate with the them now out of 7 that use to. The church is torn apart!!!
      I pray everyday for people around the world praying for lost souls, confession and repentance !!! We have to continue to trust God, read God word and keep the faith!
      May God Bless you all!

    • I have been going through same thing. He lives in my basement. I know he had someone else. We have not been intimate for 8 years now. he comes and goes, like a single man. I’ve been waiting for God to do a miracle, this is very painful but deep inside i dont want to give up.

    • You’re on the right path. Your footsteps are ordered by the Lord. Get Godly counsel and information i.e., the word of God, books, magazine, devotional etc… that will help you along this journey. Isn’t it sad the way the world tries to make wrong seem right and make right what’s wrong. The other woman that’s clearly in the wrong and accepting less that what God has even for her belittle herself and allow man to cheapen her but guess what he couldn’t if she didn’t already think cheaply of herself. All lies of the enemy. You see God has tasks for each of us and the enemy also has tasks for those willing to accept them. Zechariah 5:5-11 the main thing I want you to know about this scripture is the woman representing wickedness is taken away/removed. God will use evil to get His purpose fulfilled but evil cannot use God. Trust Gods plans and speak LIFE. Ask God to show your husband himself through the eyes of God and then allow God to let him see the contrast of what he is intended to be and what he is currently walking in.

  21. This is so encouraging. I am in a similar situation, only my husband divorced me and then came back and now we are in counseling and he just said he doesn’t want to do this anymore. I am a Seer/Prophet so I have visions and when they are for myself I have to get them interpreted by a person who can interpret visions. God told me that when he came back i would not have to revisit this situation again, but it is happening right now, and i am devastated. I believe my visions – they come to pass for everyone else that i have them for – i just am so broken from the back and forth of his unstable ways. Our family is on the line and he is the missing link. I am a Intercessor and i pray all the time. I am the priest in my home warring and fighting but I can’t continue to keep fighting, so i gave it to God and said to have his way, i can’t do this any longer.
    I know God is working on my behalf and I have the faith to believe in him to do exceedingly above all i can think or imagine. I am just exhausted when it comes to me fighting for my family. I want to testify and help other marriages and broken blended families but, my mate is lost. He is Saul kicking against the pricks and he just won’t surrender and let God have his way. He goes back and forth with his faith.
    Your story just gave me extra strength, even though i am still hesitant, I have a Prophet, my Apostle and my First Lady praying for me. I am going to trust that their prayers and mine will combat the enemies plan to restore my marriage.

    I thank you so much for your testimony it has helped so much you just don’t know. TO God be the Glory!

  22. Hi everyone, great to find this site where it seems like forum of support group people of the same problem support each other in prayer and counselling. I should say that exactly what Crystal went through so am I. though the difference is that I am a man and was left by a woman after being with her for 3 years in happy marriage. We loved each other and our marriage inspired many people and everyone admired us, the only challenge we had no stable income as I was not working and wasn’t as well. But after she got a job she decided to leave me for other men and told me that she didn’t love me and she was not happy, therefore she needed freedom and happiness by finding a man she could love. She chased me out of the house as she paid rentals for 6 months, initially she said that she could not engage herself in another relationship but before long she already went back wanting the ex boyfriend back but it couldn’t work, and then she has found another man after that just within one year. I begged for her and reminded her the sweet things and love words she could tell me but, it became worse as she insisted to encourage me to move on as she did. I never had serious problem in our marriage and I never cheated on her, or insulted or anything of that nature but I was very loving and supportive to her in so many ways of which she says and boast about even now to other people. the only challenge I don’t have a job since I lost the one I had. She says her decision to divorce is entirely hers and she doesn’t regret. She says there’s nothing wrong for her to have men who she loves and she says If she is committing adultery may God forgiver her but she is happy now. I am also a pastor now and I have told her that I cant divorce and I cant have any other woman in my life as it a serious sin it is adultery, she says that is good for me and it is also for her she is moved on. We have a daughter together and I feel my her and she very close with as a father but am longer going to see her because there’s another going there. I have never stopped praying for her and my daughter and since am a pastor I have now become stronger in prayer and I do deliverance and marriage counselling. She is also gifted in prophetic and praise and warship, she could sing greatly in church but now there is something else. God shows most of the time delivering her from sprit of stubbornness, lies, sexual immorality, pride and suicide. I always pray for her in the spirit and I have never lost hope. As long as she is safe and saved, then am happy. she knows that I love her very much and she only say thank for my love to her as she doesn’t love me but she loves other people. Thank you for this group and I pray for your marriages and it shall be well. The other things is that when you go through such problems, just know that you have a gift to pray and restore other marriages. God has been using me to help restoring so many marriages. And may he restores yours first in Jesus mighty name.

  23. I am truly encouraged by the testimonies. Can I ask you to pray for my marriage. Things were so bad in my marriage for many years that I eventually had to divorce him. But I love him and want him back. But I want him back under different conditions. I want my husband to first repent and receive the Lord Jesus as his Saviour. I am trusting God that this will happen now as I pray and that he will come back to me in Jesus Name

  24. My husband and I started our rocky. We have had a very rocky road. We are both incredibly young. I’m 18 and he is 20. He is pretty set on a divorce. My heart aches but I felt as if God has told me that he’ll bring him back to me. Not too long ago my husband and I got married. We haven’t even been married but seven months! We have a beautiful baby girl and one on way. He lives over a thousand miles away with his family! I have always been a believer in God, but I was definitely not faithful to Him. And I feel that is why God brought us apart for this amount of time. I needed time to grow with God. Our marriage was pretty bad. I do believe God spoke to me, but my parents say that I may just be putting too much hope into my marriage. They are also believers as well, so I feel a bit discouraged… that maybe it is me giving myself false hope? But I pray for protection and guidance over my husband daily. Every time we email, he is always so spiteful… I often wonder if his heart will ever change. But I do believe God will do things if I just pray and believe that He will do it. My God is a powerful God ! I believe he has big plans for me and my family! I believe God spoke to me saying that I will be able to share my story with other young couple and tell them that there is always hope through God. People say “God doesn’t force anyone to do anything- we have free will,” and “You can’t force someone to love you.” And they are absolutely correct! However, God changes hearts… and that is maricalous! It is my job to give it to God and pray for my husband. It is my job to be the stronger one right now. It is my job to pray for protection over my spouse. He lives with his sister who does witchery… and that is scary stuff! Meaning if he is already weak-willed, that the presence of a dark spirit will cause him to fall deeper into sin. I pray to God that He will protect my husband from all harm that could possibly be done, to our marriage, during this rough time. I even went to the court house to file foe divorce…I had to find a way out. I didn’t wanna burden my husband any longer… but God said no. I went there and they said “Well, honey, since you’re pregnant you can’t get a divorce.” I thought immediately that this had to be a sign from God. Aand since he has not lived where he does from more than three months he also cannot file. My husband is in a faze where he is blaming me for a lot of things he has done wrong during our marriage. By saying this, I do not mean I have never done wrong to my husband… because I absolutely have. However, that’s the exact problem here… I realize my wrongs and I am willing to accept what I have done wrong. He is not. Not yet anyway. I still pray for him. Someone told me thatit may actuallyseem like it will get worse before it gets better. And I do believe that is what’s happening at this particular moment in time. God provides me peace every day to remember that He will never leave me nor forsake me. Our God is a faithful God. My husband has to realize that this isn’t about us anymore. It’s about our God and children. We have to seek God and believe that He will change the person’s heart and believe me when I say that I definitely have my days where I feels like giving up… but then I remembere that God never gave up on me. And I refuse to give up on my husband in his time of need. God calls me to be humble and meak and to seek out prayer in my times of need. And since I made an oath before God, this means my husbands needs are also mine. I have to be selfless and pray for him even when I feel he’s done wrong to me.

  25. Let us all pray for the restoration of each other’s marriage. Just like you, my marriage is also torn apart.

    My husband and I have been together for almost 7 yrs (been a couple for 5 and more than a year married). He left 3 months ago saying that he is battling depression and my family and I are causing it.

    The first week, he suddenly told me he doesn’t love me anymore and I found out that he is having an affair with his employee a week after. He ended it, but still refused to come home.

    He promised to work on himself and then work on us but he keeps changing his mind. Last April, he said that he doesn’t feel anything for me anymore , or any hope for our marriage. A week after that, people have seen him with the same woman. It’s been almost a month of no communication.

    There had been an anonymous complaint in the office about their affair and their jobs are at risk. I just found that his family and relatives has blocked me off. I suspect that they are thinking that it was me who filed the complaint. It feels so unfair because I had kept my silence amidst all the pain they’ve cause and still blames me.

    My heart is continuously torn. However, everytime I am almost giving up, God gives me subtle hints not to.

    I am in this Journey with God. Although things may seem to have been getting worse, I remind myself that God loves me so much and will make all things right at the end. I just need to put my faith and trust in Him.

    I will pray for all of you and hope you do the same for me and my marriage. God bless!

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