Testimony – God Restores a Broken Marriage

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One of the more frequent type of emails we have received over the years since we have been online is from married couples, where one of the spouses has left the other one for another partner. The one spouse who has been left behind then starts praying to God to bring their spouse back home.

The pain adultery causes in a marriage relationship is extreme and traumatic, as a broken heart is one of the worst kinds of pain you can go through. For those of you who have been on the receiving end of adultery, you know exactly what I am talking about. You feel like your whole world has been shattered and that you will never be able to trust your spouse again, even though you are asking God to bring your mate back to you as you cannot stand the pain of that broken heart.

For those of you who are still praying to the Lord for the restoration of your marriage, below is a powerful testimony we have just received from a woman by the name of Crystal. Crystal had what she thought was the perfect marriage when all of a sudden her husband tells her one day he wants out of the marriage, as he had been having an affair with a woman online.

As you will see when reviewing her testimony below, Crystal was determined she was not going to lose her good marriage over something like this, so she stormed the throne of God asking Him to move to bring her husband back. Here is her word-for-word testimony, and then I will point out a few key things she did to get God to move on this extreme situation.

My name is Crystal and I’m here to let you know that with man it may seem impossible……but with Almighty God…..NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE…

I made a promise to God and to myself that WHEN he restored my marriage, I would testify and tell the world….I would share EVERY single detail no matter how shameful and embarrassing it would be, in the hope and knowledge that I would someday be able to bring some kind of hope for a hurting wife or husband who would’ve been going through what I once was.

I’ll try to be as brief as possible but I really don’t want to leave any detail out….no matter how small, because it may be the very thing God wants to use to inspire and encourage a stander or prodigal spouse.

I don’t want to apportion blame too much here but suffice it to say we had some in-law issues which contributed greatly to our demise….but that is another story and I want to concentrate on how God showed up and showed off in the mist of my situation. Today is March 16th 2011…. My husband of 1 year and 5 months left me on November 30th, 2010… .BUT…. all thanks and all praise be to Almighty God, he is now back home and we are rebuilding a marriage that from all counts and to the naked eye in the natural realm was dead.

As far as I could see we were the perfect couple……went out together…….stayed home together……laughed, joked……..we were like two peas in a pod……of course we had our regular marital problems….no marriage is perfect……..in addition to the above we also….. argued and sometimes told each other some harsh words…….LIKE EVERY OTHER COUPLE……it isn’t right but it happens…..

In spite of all this , I believed he loved me just as much as I loved him……you could imagine my surprise and heart break when one day after a short disagreement……and I mean short….lasting no more that a few minutes…..my beloved husband packed his clothes and walked out of my life…….

All this happened on Nov 30th 2010…..I held off from calling him because I was still upset and I figured I didn’t do him any harm…..he was the one that stepped out in our marriage and on our marriage…..ours wasn’t a physical stepping as in outside sex….it was an on-going 5 month relationship on the internet, with someone he had been previously involved with.

The days went by and he didn’t call so on December 5th 2010….I called him…..he refused to take my calls so I texted him only to be told that he wasn’t interested in me and I should go on with my life….that I should never call or text him again……..that was like a dagger through my heart……I felt as though someone had literally ran a knife straight through my stomach and was twisting it repeatedly…..but that isn’t the worse yet…..

I persisted in calling him that same day and eventually he picked up the phone…he was as cold as ice……I felt frightened even listening to him……he told me….I NEVER LOVED YOU……I AM SORRY WE GOT MARRIED…..I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE…..I DON’T LOVE YOU LIKE A MAN SHOULD LOVE A WOMAN…..THE FEELINGS I HAVE FOR YOU IS THAT OF A “GOOD” FRIEND……I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU SHOULD GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE…..I’M
NOT COMING BACK…….

I have never felt pain like I did then in my entire life……..it is amazing when you are down on luck how quickly you remember that GOD does exists.

I was a regular church goer and I tithed but I still didn’t have that personal relationship with God…..well God has a way of getting our attention in ways unimaginable….and he got mine.

I cried DAILY AND HOURLY……I felt all hope was gone….I mean how do you get someone to love you again when that person is saying I never loved you at all…..YOU CANT….BUT GOD CAN……

I had built my life around my husband and now he was gone……I felt like I lost the better part of me…..I couldn’t eat….I couldn’t eat ….I didn’t want to socialize and I forced myself to go to work…..but God had a plan…….even though all seemed lost……God was turning my situation around even as I was hurting…..what the devil meant for evil God was turning around for good.

I enlisted the help of three persons…….a Prophetess, an Apostle, and a church Pastor…..these were all spiritual people I knew……and strong men and women of God……I knew I wasn’t strong in my spirit and my faith was way less than even that of a mustard seed.

I still cried every day but I also engaged in some radical and spiritual warfare for my husband…..I spoke the word of God over my marriage EVERYDAY and I prayed hedges of thorns around my husband EVERYDAY…..I pleaded the blood of Jesus over him and claimed my marriage in the name of Jesus.

Remember I wasn’t rooted in God so my prayers wasn’t as flowing as other people but everyday I gain more and more strength and my faith began to soar…..I prayed that God would soften my husband’s heart and remind him of the love we once shared……I asked God to send Godly people in his life to speak to him even when I couldn’t and God heard me….

I think I either bought or borrowed every book on marriage…warfare….prayer…you name it ….every website I could think of…….. And I just wrapped my husband up and prayed what ever pray I could even verbatim from some of those same books…….I became like a one man army…..

At times the devil whispered in my ears and unbelief and doubt settled in….I would call my prayer warriors for encouragement and go to God crying and in a few hours would be right as rain and ready again to go up against the gates of hell for my boo. To make a long story short……Sunday January 16th 2011….I got a text from my husband….who accidently had AGAIN on the 14th January 2011…..told me he felt the same way and I should go on with my life.

He said he wanted to talk and wanted to know if he could come by the house…he wanted to know if I could forgive him for what he did and for us to try again at our
marriage…

I had released my husband and my marriage to God and I knew God was going to do something…. but I thought it would be perhaps a Hi hello…how are you….or perhaps a few weeks down the line he might drop in a call or something……….I had no idea that MY GOD was bringing my husband home that day….that instant…

He told me that after he spoke to me on Thursday….he went to God himself and talked to him and asked him to speak and show him what he should do……..he said from the time he said that everything just went crazy…..everything he saw reminded him of me….. when he went to sleep his dreams were constant replays of our life together….. he started thinking about stuff that happened before and after our marriage that were nothing short of miraculous…..

In short…..God was speaking to him all along but he was too proud to just walk back and admit that he was wrong but he wanted to so much….. He wanted to give our marriage a chance and he loved me and wanted to be with ME.

I give all the thanks and praise to God for what he did……it doesn’t matter what your situation looks like….it doesn’t matter how impossible and dead it seems……it doesn’t matter what your husband or wife is planning……..we plan but God is also planning and he works EVERYTHING out together for those that love the LORD..

DO NOT GIVE UP….THE DEVIL AND EVEN YOUR OWN MIND IS GOING TO TRY TO TELL YOU TO MOVE ON…LEAVE HIM/HER ALONE…HE/SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU…..THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO…..THERE IS NO ONE THAT CAN HELP YOU NOW…..DO NOT LISTEN……even in your tears….cry out to God….when you don’t know what to say…..just say JESUS….nothing more……tears is a language God understands and he is going to work it out…..

This isn’t every single detail of what happened there are parts missing…but my short journey has been nothing but incredible and miraculous…but I want you to know that with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE…

Be encouraged

Notice several key things Crystal did to get God to move on her behalf.

1.  The first thing she did was to fully surrender the entire matter into God’s hand. Notice she said she had faith less than the size of a mustard seed when she first started to approach the Lord for His help.

As we have showed you in our article titled, “Bible Verses on Faith,” the Bible tells us that faith the size of a mustard seed will move mountains. This means that you do not have to have large amounts of faith with the Lord to get the show going with Him. God will take whatever level of faith you are operating at with Him and then move to help you out with your current situation as long as you are directly seeking after His help and are willing to fully surrender the entire matter into His hands.

2.  The next thing she did right was to enlist the aid of three powerful prayer warriors to help her with her prayers to the Lord. This is what is called the prayer of agreement. We already have an article on how powerful of a strategy this is with the Lord. The title of this article is, “Prayer Secret #6 – The Prayer of Agreement.”

3.  Also notice she went into a very heavy seeking mode by searching out every good book she could find on marriage, prayer, and spiritual warfare. The Bible says to “seek” and then you will find what you are looking for. And this woman went into a very heavy seeking mode. I believe when God sees this kind of intense seeking activity, He is really moved, and sometimes that is what will get Him to move to answer the prayer.

4.  Another thing she did when she went on the offensive was to plead the blood of Jesus around the situation. If you have a spouse that has left you for another person, it would be our recommendation to plead the blood of Jesus around them, and then plead the blood of Jesus against any demons who are trying to get in the middle of this, along with pleading the blood of Jesus directly against the person they are having the affair with.

All in all, as you read her incredible testimony, the thing that stands out is her fierce determination that she was not going to let her marriage go, and that she would take a hold of God and keep praying to Him until He brought her husband back home to her.

We want to personally thank Crystal for allowing us to release her testimony on our site, as it will help show others that God can move to restore broken marriages, no matter how hopeless things may look in the natural.

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  1. I pray for everyone on this thread hurting yet hopefully in the Lord and through Crystal’s testimony. I pray for restoration of your marriages – transformation in your hearts and that of your spouse – and that the hand of the enemy is bond and removed from all of your affairs. Lord, please silence the voices of defeat that we all feel when going through marital tragedies. Please comfort us when we cry out to you. Please send us other believers to hold us up when our spirits are downcast. Father, you are a good God and you hate divorce. You are a good God and want all of your children to have a relationship with you deeper than anything. If any of us have idolized our spouse over you Lord, please forgive us. As much as we love them, nothing is eternal but You Lord. As we set our minds on eternal things, and seek first your kingdom, I pray that all other good things, including the restoration and rebuilding our our marriages, are added onto us. I don’t know everyone’s name or your spouses names, but God, you do. Please, in the name of Jesus, call each wayward spouse back to you Lord. Bring each wondering child of yours back home to their families. Let them be a good steward of the blessings in their home that you have already given them. Strengthen their minds so that they take every thought captive and bind it to the word of God. Let them flee from temptation and keep their feet off of the path that leads to destruction. Lord, bless the spouses on here that are praying for the restoration of their marriage. I pray that we do not lose heart, and that we see your favor and goodness in our lives. Lord, please be merciful to us and our spouses. In Jesus mighty name I pray. Amen.

  2. Hi everyone.

    I used to read Crystal’s testimony over and over again to comfort myself. If God did it for her, he can do the same for.me.

    Guess what, in 3 months my marriage was restored.

    At first, it looked impossible to have him back. And I found out he was with another woman, the baby mama.

    But still, God brought him back to me. My marriage was restored, he moved back in with me.

    Praise the Lord.

    • Praise God. I am currently in this boat and am so encouraged to see God’s restoration in others. Please pray for me. I just lost mine to another woman, I was forced to move to the other side of the country but my heart is still with him. The more I pray and seek for God’s help, the bolder I feel. I’m determined to hold on to my faith in God and who He is, and that he’ll restore us.
      God bless you

  3. My wife left October 17th 2018. She was involved with another man, she just gave birth to a son, who is not mine. I’ve asked the Lord to harden my heart toward her, but He has not, She left because I got filled with the Holy Spirit after being a Christian for 20 years, and she couldn’t understand my new experiences in Christ. I’ve been encouraged by everyone to just “move on”, but…. I yield to the Lord, He has to tell me to move on if that is his will, and as I said, He has refused to tell me that despite me asking.

    • Hello David,
      Continue to yield to God. I admire your relationship with Christ. I believe that your marriage is restored now in Jesus’ name. I have spoken it into existence. Continue to be strong in Christ.

    • Lord, soften the heart of this man’s wife. Remind her of the love she once felt for him and restore their unity. Let her turn back from her rebellion and let there be healing and forgiveness that glorifies you. In Jesus’ Name, Amen

  4. Hello All,
    I would like to share how God restored me, my husband, and my marriage back to him and back to each other. My husband left in 2017 but I started noticing his behavior in 2015. I went to God screaming & hollering, telling God to fix this mess. What I realized God had to fix me first. I found this book by Erin Thiele, How God Can & Will Restore Your Marriage. I learned that my house & marriage was built upon sinking sand & not the word of God. I learned that I had left my first love Jesus, I learned that I was argumentative towards my husband & others, I learned that I was rebellious towards Him not totally submissive. Traveling leaving my husband unattended. Spending money out of control shopping & sneaking things in the my Home. There were more that God had to do in me. Well I had to learn that my relationship with God was more important than Him restoring my marriage. I had to change my prayers from fix him Lord to fix me. Come into my heart. I had to dye to self and change the way I saw my husband. My perspective had to change. I had to depend on God for everything. Isaiah 54:5 I learn that He was my Heavenly Husband & He supplied all my needs. So I finally got to the point after countless hours with the Father praying, God you don’t have bring him back just save him. But if you do, make me a new wife and make him a new husband. I kept asking God to just save Him and that is when I let go. After me letting Go God restored my marriage. When my husband came back home he cried & asked for forgiveness numerous of times. God’s Grace is what kept me thru this trial. Just know that it only takes you & God to save your marriage. You must obey whatever He tells you & believe His word no matter what. Take you eyes off your spouse and place them on God. You must stop sharing about his affair and find you a one or two other persons that will believe with you and pray with you trusting God. There was a lot that I had to learn. God can do the impossible but it’s up to you!!! Love you all and go to Encouraging Women website. You will see many testimonies.

    • .I just started this journey, and pray that God gives me the ability to be strong. I love my husband, but he told me some nights ago that he just does not believe we will change, and that it has just become too much for him. We have never had a perfect relationship, but loved each other. I can be explosive , and I admit can bring the things from the past. He has express that he does not like that. He has been a stand up guy, but does not know how to communicate well, am always complaining about that. We have been together for almost 20 years-14 married with 2 kids. I love him, I pick him and us every single time, and thought he would always do the same, but I was wrong. I want our union to be whole again, but recognize I need to do work and he has to want to do some work also. I don’t know if I have much faith right now, and fear to ask God to bring us together because I am scared the prayer would be in vein. I feel stuck , but i know leaving it to God is the only way to get at some peace and clarity for me and my kids. Not having a clear outlook makes me think a third person is involved, and that is what he is tired of, me not trusting his loyalty to our marriage. God please help me with my heavy heart. I pray for the blood of Jesus over my husband and out family

  5. Oh Lord!
    Your story is so similar with mine. I found out that my husband has a mistress. He meet her online and started a real relationship. He is with her 1 year and 3 months. I’m so in shock. Now he left our home and don’t want talk with me. I just cry and pray. I feel so depressed and hopeless.
    I pray that I will have a happy end just like you. I’m really brokenhearted!

    • My husband has a mistress as well… it will be a year in May theat he left our home… We list everything. I have been rebuilding my life alone… I have to keep going, I have 2 little girls that depend on me. So many people have been involved in our marriage…. I stopped consulting God a out it. I’m unsure of the future for our marriage but I can only pray that God shows me the right thing to do.

    • May God heal and restore your marriage. May he bring your husband back from his adultery and rebellion. May he bring love and forgiveness to you both. Stay strong and keep fighting.

  6. Dear God,

    I pray you will work on my wife’s heart that has been hardened over the years. We’ve been married for almost 9 years and the divorce has never been closer than it is today. God, help my wife see the true meaning of the institution of marriage, let her not fall for the trials of the Devil, as I know she’s has fallen for it before and may not posses the strength to fight it off right now. In time I pray you can make her open her heart again for me as her husband, I know it’s your will that we honor the sacredness of marriage and I feel that you won’t let us progress on our own, Lord you know I’ve tried to forget about her, I even tried dating other women and I can’t seem to break through. My wife has voiced her feelings for me over time, I know she has confessed she also has difficulties moving on and nothing seems to fill the void. I know we have faced some serious hardship over the course of our marriage, due to my neglect and due to her infidelity, but I ask you Lord to please heal our matrimony. I can fight as hard as I can, and trust me I do, but we need your involvement to fix our union, Lord please pray for my wife to find her way back to the companionship we once had and the deep love we used to share. I know you know how much I love her, I’m proud of her being my wife despite all the mistakes she has made. God please forgive her for her sins for I know she does not know what she’s doing at this moment. I will gladly put our marriage in your hands, I know you are the only one who can fix it and make it blossom again, Amen.

  7. Oh my goodness. I keep reading this every day when I need hope. My situation looks like it’s over. Everyone else wants me to move on. But I have this peace in my heart when I pray for him, and I am going to continue to bombard heaven on my fiancé’s behalf. Y’all pray with me. Is there a way to get in contact with the lady who wrote this??

  8. My husband had an affair one month after our marriage. We are both 63, I was divorced 11 years before remarrying as you can imagine I am broken, angry and confused. I have lost my zest for life My anger has become out of control, he says he is sorry but doesn’t really show empathy, remorse and rarely shows comfort . I feel like i am on a roller coaster. One day he says he wants the marriage to work and the next day he wants a divorce. He says he is sorry, but I need to get over it. Please pray for me and us. I am lost, don’t want to leave the house. Cry every day, can’t eat and if I do it is not healthy. He says he doesn’t need professional help and if that is not enough he is an admitted kleptomaniac. He would steal anything small he could. He says he is not stealing now and I want to believe him. I feel like I made a huge mistake but I do love him however, I am not sure he truly loves me. He says he does but I am not feeling it. I am in great need of prayer, peace, love and just a kind voice and heart. We are both educated and have wonderful families but I feel ashamed and have not confided in many family members I pray for God to take me I just don’t want to live Thank you die your time

  9. My wife left me feb27and I’m in dire need of more prayer warriors. We have had lots of arguing for a while now, and I realize now how much I put other things in front of her. We have a blended family and her son’s dad is not in the picture, he called me dad. I didn’t give him the love or tell him like I should. I fought with the devil and drinking for a few days, but I have since been seeking God to restore this marriage, and give him the handle of this situation. I don’t know if it was before or immediately after, but she has her very first bf that she is back talking to from 19 years ago. She is telling me to leave her alone and that we will never get back together. I know divorce it happens all the time but I can’t accept that this is how it will end. I’m trusting God to restore our marriage and I have prayed nonstop for days now. She still is saying the same thing. God has opened my eyes to how much I should have been better for her, more intimate and caring and kind. I’m not giving up because I love her that much. God loves us more than we can comprehend. . I want God to lead us. Also I should mention her family will promote whatever she says, and be negative towards her saving her marriage even though they are Christian people. Sometimes other Christian people have got to just tell you you are making a mistake. She changed phones so I don’t have her number but she still has me on Facebook. We have years of relationship and pictures on there from our kids and us and family. I would believe if she was really done and wanted this divorce she says she wants she would have blocked me from her life on there. I know the name of the one now that she is messing with. I know I’m all over the place but God has got to have a say in this from what I’ve read on here. I know people still have free will to make decisions but I’m not giving up. I’m already set on not signing any divorce papers if it gets there, which may be soon. I need help to restore our oneness that we vowed to God and each other. Thanks for any prayers and advice

  10. Just keep praying….be happy and present in each moment that God has you in this season. Continue to ask God to heal hurts and closr up any spiritual holes in your life that continue to hold you back in prayer. Ask Hod to bring it to light and heal you. Faith the size of a mustard seed can move mountains….imagine that each time we cry out to God he sends a batallion of angelic hosts to fight on your behalf. Ask….believe…and receive my friends. We are children of the Most High God and we all over came the evil one 2000 years ago through Jesus Christ on the Cross. To God be the Glory. AMEN.

  11. Thank you so much for sharing. I am irking on my relationship with. My husband and I have separated a few times. He is dating someone new. Keeps telling me that it’s over and that we will never be a couple again. We are still married and I will not give up on my marriage. I love god and I love my husband with everything I have. Bless you and thank you again for sharing you gave me a little more strength to fight for my marriage that God can do all things if you look to him and give it to him!! Amen

  12. 3 years ago my husband told me he was not happy. That the life we were living , 12 years of marriage, 15 years together and 3 kids..was not for him. I was devastated. And I still am. I found out he was having an emotional affair with his coworkers mother. He was the last person me or anyone would have thought would leave. He was my best friend. He was my life. I pray everyday for his heart and mind to change , and to come home. I pray for this other women to leave his heart and mind. She doesn’t deserve him. I try to keep my faith that he will return. Some days are better then others. He is a good man. We had a good life. A nice family. I prayed what path I should follow and believe filing for a divorce was the right choice. I give it all to God and believe he knows what is best for us. Divorce is a sad thing for the entire family, but I still have faith and sometimes that’s all we can believe in. God loves us. And I will still believe he will come home. Don’t give up and continue to pray and have the faith. I have grown so much and have given up being angry. I have developed a deeper love for him. Stay strong !

  13. My husband of almost 30 years began an affair with an old girlfriend from his high school years. Mere weeks into the affair, he left me. We had a wonderful marriage .. I had no clue there was any problems, and while he says he was unhappy, I don’t think he was – until the day he betrayed his own principles and values and slept with another woman. He began demonstrating behaviours he most despised… that is when he became unhappy. He is now full of shame and remorse, he is in tears, and showing obvious physical and mental sign of stress and distress. I believe in his heart of hearts, he wants to come home, to reclaim his integrity, his marriage and the life we had. But he cannot get past his pride and his shame, and she is like an addiction he cannot walk away from.

    I believe she is evil – truly, that she has succumbed to dark and evil forces, and is now casting her net to draw others in. This is not just me feeling rejected and bitter. She seduced him .. he did not initiate the affair – I know this to be a fact. He willingly began and continued it, there is no doubt of his active participation. But there is something abnormal about the entire thing … being with her is clearly destroying him, physically, mentally and emotionally. He told me many times that he prays every day that he just die in his sleep, he tried to leave but just cannot seem to escape. It is not normal .. I believe the forces of evil are at work.

    While I do believe in God, his kindness and mercy, his power over all … I do not belong to a faith community and have no where else to turn for help.

    Please … help me pray that she lose her power over him and that my husband be released from these evil forces. Help me pray he find himself again and return to living life accord the principles and values he holds so dear,band perhaps one day finding his way back to our marriage.

    I beg of you …. please help me pray for my husband.

    • Helping you pray for your husband that God would open He is ours and your marriage be restored. I pray a hedge of protection be around your marriage. I understand your pain as I am facing the same thing. God bless you.

  14. Hi my Ana
    Going through something similar. My husband left 2017. Before my husband left we we’ve going through so much issues alot of conflict between him and I . The first few weeks I was so lost, thought maybe it was for the best and just get a divorce to end everything. As the weeks went by, my heart got heavy, as I turn to God for help and for healing and to tell him what’s been going on in my marriage God showed me something else.
    He showed me that before I come to Him I needed to Pull the log out of my eyes before I wanted to pull the speck out of my husband eyes. From 2017 to 2018 I spent that time working on myself rebuilding my relationship with God and asking Him before He renews my marriage please start with me, by humbling my heart down to be more fruitful as a God fearing women and wife.
    2019 to now God has led me to other women that has been going through something similar to share with them what God has in store for us.
    God comes through situations that we face to show us something different, that through the storms we are not to give up hope we are to trust because His love is stronger then what we are going through.
    I pray for husband everyday and pray for the blood of Jesus over him. I am at peace over what’s going between my husband and I , because I know God’s gotta a plan for our marriage and IN HIS TIME HE WILL lead my husband back home as a God fearing man.
    But as I wait I ask God to use me to touch other souls by leading them to Him. God will make a way to all of us on here that is facing a season right now in our marriages.
    Keep your eyes focus on God’s love, and never stop praying for your spouse even though it’s painful, look up and just tell God, He Hears You, He sees you.
    Much love to yous all xx.

    • It’s been 5 months since my husband has turned away from me. We have had extreme problems for the last 4 years. 2 of those were him in a secret affair. I drank to hide the pain an then lashed out at him. I would hold the affair up to him over and over. Finally he was Done. I live in a camper and work close. He lives in our home 2 hours away. I have a job I love with great spiritual support. He says there is always hope. He says he loves me but not in love with me. He says he just wants to be alone. This is KILLING me. I have prayed all the time. I have quit drinking by the grace of God. We have been married for 31 years. When he did come clean about the affair 2 years ago, he wanted to fix everything himself and go to church. That was short lived. He promised counseling but then blew it off. I have since been in counseling. I feel the Lord has told me He would restore the marriage, it just seems to be taking so long that maybe I am wrong. I am so sad and distraught.

      • I am actually going through something similar. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. He left July 2019 to work away from home. He has been gone ever since. In November 2019 just a week before Thanksgiving he calls me on the phone and says he wants a divorce. I did everything you weren’t supposed to do. I begged, cried, pleaded for him to come home and fix it. He wouldn’t. I went to drinking as well because I wanted to be numb. I said a lot of things that I instantly regretted. We’ve had a lot of ups and downs. We have been in contact with each other and he says he still wants to be friends. Which is very hard for me. He actually came home with divorce papers I’m his hands and wanted me to sign them. I just felt in my heart I wasn’t supposed to sign so I didn’t. That night was the worst night we have ever had because I was drinking a lot. He got sooo frustrated with me that he drove off and left. I was sooo ashamed of myself. The next morning I of course felt like crap and I immediately threw out every ounce of alcohol that was in my house. I promised myself that I would never drink again. I ended up calling my husband the next day and sincerely apologized for everything. I was not proud of myself. He accepted my apology and we have been working on our friendship ever since. I have been fighting for my husband for months asking him if he would talk to a pastor with me or a counselor and he always said no. Last week I prayed all day and I was ready to surrender my marriage and I was going to sign the papers because I have given up. I called my husband and told him that and I believe God told me to ask him one more time. I asked him if he would speak to a pastor with me and he actually said YES!!!! I couldn’t believe. He said don’t get your hopes up but I will open up my heart and clear my mind when the pastor is talking. I have been praying that prayer for months that my husband would open his mind and heart. I am expecting the worst but I am hoping for the best. I have complete faith that God will restore my marriage. God actually spoke to me through someone else. We were praying and holding hands and I remember my hands were shaking and I felt a warm presence. I couldn’t explain it. After we were done praying the lady I was holding hands with came up to me and said I don’t ever come up to people but I really felt God talking to me. He told me to tell you that He hears your cries at midnight when you can’t sleep, he knows that there is a darkness in your husband that God is working on. He knows you aren’t the most patient person but He asks you to trust him and be patient because He will restore your marriage when the time is right. I was balling my eyes out the entire time. She gave me a hug and then disappeared. I couldn’t believe it. I remember that night I left church feeling peace and I got the best sleep that night. All we can do is just surrender our marriage to God which I know is extremely hard to do. I sometimes wander if God is listening to me but He really is. We just need to focus on our relationship with God and ourselves.

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