Testimony – God Restores a Broken Marriage

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One of the more frequent type of emails we have received over the years since we have been online is from married couples, where one of the spouses has left the other one for another partner. The one spouse who has been left behind then starts praying to God to bring their spouse back home.

The pain adultery causes in a marriage relationship is extreme and traumatic, as a broken heart is one of the worst kinds of pain you can go through. For those of you who have been on the receiving end of adultery, you know exactly what I am talking about. You feel like your whole world has been shattered and that you will never be able to trust your spouse again, even though you are asking God to bring your mate back to you as you cannot stand the pain of that broken heart.

For those of you who are still praying to the Lord for the restoration of your marriage, below is a powerful testimony we have just received from a woman by the name of Crystal. Crystal had what she thought was the perfect marriage when all of a sudden her husband tells her one day he wants out of the marriage, as he had been having an affair with a woman online.

As you will see when reviewing her testimony below, Crystal was determined she was not going to lose her good marriage over something like this, so she stormed the throne of God asking Him to move to bring her husband back. Here is her word-for-word testimony, and then I will point out a few key things she did to get God to move on this extreme situation.

My name is Crystal and I’m here to let you know that with man it may seem impossible……but with Almighty God…..NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE…

I made a promise to God and to myself that WHEN he restored my marriage, I would testify and tell the world….I would share EVERY single detail no matter how shameful and embarrassing it would be, in the hope and knowledge that I would someday be able to bring some kind of hope for a hurting wife or husband who would’ve been going through what I once was.

I’ll try to be as brief as possible but I really don’t want to leave any detail out….no matter how small, because it may be the very thing God wants to use to inspire and encourage a stander or prodigal spouse.

I don’t want to apportion blame too much here but suffice it to say we had some in-law issues which contributed greatly to our demise….but that is another story and I want to concentrate on how God showed up and showed off in the mist of my situation. Today is March 16th 2011…. My husband of 1 year and 5 months left me on November 30th, 2010… .BUT…. all thanks and all praise be to Almighty God, he is now back home and we are rebuilding a marriage that from all counts and to the naked eye in the natural realm was dead.

As far as I could see we were the perfect couple……went out together…….stayed home together……laughed, joked……..we were like two peas in a pod……of course we had our regular marital problems….no marriage is perfect……..in addition to the above we also….. argued and sometimes told each other some harsh words…….LIKE EVERY OTHER COUPLE……it isn’t right but it happens…..

In spite of all this , I believed he loved me just as much as I loved him……you could imagine my surprise and heart break when one day after a short disagreement……and I mean short….lasting no more that a few minutes…..my beloved husband packed his clothes and walked out of my life…….

All this happened on Nov 30th 2010…..I held off from calling him because I was still upset and I figured I didn’t do him any harm…..he was the one that stepped out in our marriage and on our marriage…..ours wasn’t a physical stepping as in outside sex….it was an on-going 5 month relationship on the internet, with someone he had been previously involved with.

The days went by and he didn’t call so on December 5th 2010….I called him…..he refused to take my calls so I texted him only to be told that he wasn’t interested in me and I should go on with my life….that I should never call or text him again……..that was like a dagger through my heart……I felt as though someone had literally ran a knife straight through my stomach and was twisting it repeatedly…..but that isn’t the worse yet…..

I persisted in calling him that same day and eventually he picked up the phone…he was as cold as ice……I felt frightened even listening to him……he told me….I NEVER LOVED YOU……I AM SORRY WE GOT MARRIED…..I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE…..I DON’T LOVE YOU LIKE A MAN SHOULD LOVE A WOMAN…..THE FEELINGS I HAVE FOR YOU IS THAT OF A “GOOD” FRIEND……I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU SHOULD GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE…..I’M

I have never felt pain like I did then in my entire life……..it is amazing when you are down on luck how quickly you remember that GOD does exists.

I was a regular church goer and I tithed but I still didn’t have that personal relationship with God…..well God has a way of getting our attention in ways unimaginable….and he got mine.

I cried DAILY AND HOURLY……I felt all hope was gone….I mean how do you get someone to love you again when that person is saying I never loved you at all…..YOU CANT….BUT GOD CAN……

I had built my life around my husband and now he was gone……I felt like I lost the better part of me…..I couldn’t eat….I couldn’t eat ….I didn’t want to socialize and I forced myself to go to work…..but God had a plan…….even though all seemed lost……God was turning my situation around even as I was hurting…..what the devil meant for evil God was turning around for good.

I enlisted the help of three persons…….a Prophetess, an Apostle, and a church Pastor…..these were all spiritual people I knew……and strong men and women of God……I knew I wasn’t strong in my spirit and my faith was way less than even that of a mustard seed.

I still cried every day but I also engaged in some radical and spiritual warfare for my husband…..I spoke the word of God over my marriage EVERYDAY and I prayed hedges of thorns around my husband EVERYDAY…..I pleaded the blood of Jesus over him and claimed my marriage in the name of Jesus.

Remember I wasn’t rooted in God so my prayers wasn’t as flowing as other people but everyday I gain more and more strength and my faith began to soar…..I prayed that God would soften my husband’s heart and remind him of the love we once shared……I asked God to send Godly people in his life to speak to him even when I couldn’t and God heard me….

I think I either bought or borrowed every book on marriage…warfare….prayer…you name it ….every website I could think of…….. And I just wrapped my husband up and prayed what ever pray I could even verbatim from some of those same books…….I became like a one man army…..

At times the devil whispered in my ears and unbelief and doubt settled in….I would call my prayer warriors for encouragement and go to God crying and in a few hours would be right as rain and ready again to go up against the gates of hell for my boo. To make a long story short……Sunday January 16th 2011….I got a text from my husband….who accidently had AGAIN on the 14th January 2011…..told me he felt the same way and I should go on with my life.

He said he wanted to talk and wanted to know if he could come by the house…he wanted to know if I could forgive him for what he did and for us to try again at our

I had released my husband and my marriage to God and I knew God was going to do something…. but I thought it would be perhaps a Hi hello…how are you….or perhaps a few weeks down the line he might drop in a call or something……….I had no idea that MY GOD was bringing my husband home that day….that instant…

He told me that after he spoke to me on Thursday….he went to God himself and talked to him and asked him to speak and show him what he should do……..he said from the time he said that everything just went crazy…..everything he saw reminded him of me….. when he went to sleep his dreams were constant replays of our life together….. he started thinking about stuff that happened before and after our marriage that were nothing short of miraculous…..

In short…..God was speaking to him all along but he was too proud to just walk back and admit that he was wrong but he wanted to so much….. He wanted to give our marriage a chance and he loved me and wanted to be with ME.

I give all the thanks and praise to God for what he did……it doesn’t matter what your situation looks like….it doesn’t matter how impossible and dead it seems……it doesn’t matter what your husband or wife is planning……..we plan but God is also planning and he works EVERYTHING out together for those that love the LORD..

DO NOT GIVE UP….THE DEVIL AND EVEN YOUR OWN MIND IS GOING TO TRY TO TELL YOU TO MOVE ON…LEAVE HIM/HER ALONE…HE/SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU…..THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO…..THERE IS NO ONE THAT CAN HELP YOU NOW…..DO NOT LISTEN……even in your tears….cry out to God….when you don’t know what to say…..just say JESUS….nothing more……tears is a language God understands and he is going to work it out…..

This isn’t every single detail of what happened there are parts missing…but my short journey has been nothing but incredible and miraculous…but I want you to know that with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE…

Be encouraged

Notice several key things Crystal did to get God to move on her behalf.

1.  The first thing she did was to fully surrender the entire matter into God’s hand. Notice she said she had faith less than the size of a mustard seed when she first started to approach the Lord for His help.

As we have showed you in our article titled, “Bible Verses on Faith,” the Bible tells us that faith the size of a mustard seed will move mountains. This means that you do not have to have large amounts of faith with the Lord to get the show going with Him. God will take whatever level of faith you are operating at with Him and then move to help you out with your current situation as long as you are directly seeking after His help and are willing to fully surrender the entire matter into His hands.

2.  The next thing she did right was to enlist the aid of three powerful prayer warriors to help her with her prayers to the Lord. This is what is called the prayer of agreement. We already have an article on how powerful of a strategy this is with the Lord. The title of this article is, “Prayer Secret #6 – The Prayer of Agreement.”

3.  Also notice she went into a very heavy seeking mode by searching out every good book she could find on marriage, prayer, and spiritual warfare. The Bible says to “seek” and then you will find what you are looking for. And this woman went into a very heavy seeking mode. I believe when God sees this kind of intense seeking activity, He is really moved, and sometimes that is what will get Him to move to answer the prayer.

4.  Another thing she did when she went on the offensive was to plead the blood of Jesus around the situation. If you have a spouse that has left you for another person, it would be our recommendation to plead the blood of Jesus around them, and then plead the blood of Jesus against any demons who are trying to get in the middle of this, along with pleading the blood of Jesus directly against the person they are having the affair with.

All in all, as you read her incredible testimony, the thing that stands out is her fierce determination that she was not going to let her marriage go, and that she would take a hold of God and keep praying to Him until He brought her husband back home to her.

We want to personally thank Crystal for allowing us to release her testimony on our site, as it will help show others that God can move to restore broken marriages, no matter how hopeless things may look in the natural.


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  1. Crystal,

    You’re going to make me cry at my place of work! Then I’ll have to go to the bathroom and get myself together so no one sees me crying (can you tell I have experience doing this lately?). You are right this is no coincidence! Although I can’t help but to be saddened about my situation, I am SO excited for the others who are reading this! My deepest desire is that God will touch other people’s live through these posts and that it will lead to their marriage being restored completely in the name of Jesus!

    In your testimony, when you mentioned books on warfare and prayer, God led me to a book called Prayer Rain – very powerful battle prayers with vivid images. These are some of the prayers I have been praying today.

    I want people to know I’m not being a wuss in my prayers for you – AND NEITHER SHOULD YOU! You have the power and authority over YOUR marriage… more so than the devil! You have the legal right to your marriage – don’t give it up to the devil like Adam & Eve did with their authority. You, as the believing spouse, have the authority to cover your unbelieving spouse with your faith! I’ve heard people say you can’t control your spouse, etc. Well, the word says we and our spouses are one – that means when God looks at you and your spouse, He doesn’t see the two of you… He only sees ONE of you. Therefore, what you do can BLESS BOTH of you! When you ask God to forgive you, you’re asking Him to forgive your spouse too. God is the same as Jesus, and He is the same as the Holy Spirit. You are the same as your spouse, and together you’re the same as your marriage – there is no separation. This is what marriage is – a living example of our relationship with God, Jesus, and the Spirit!

    I’m not saying you can’t hurt or be sad, or cry in moments of weakness – I do it ALL the time! But count it as suffering for Him just as Jesus suffered being whipped for us until his flesh tore off. Then, get angry – not at your spouse or the extra-marital enemy, but at the devil! Ephesians 6:12 says “This is not a wrestling match against a human opponent. We are wrestling with rulers, authorities, the powers who govern this world of darkness, and spiritual forces that control evil in the heavenly world.” (GWT)

    The more the devil bothers you, the more you should want to pray – be a thorn in the devil’s side! Imagine your prayers and praise as piercing the devil’s ear drums, causing him excruciating pain, causing him to flee (not walk, but run as fast as he can) away from you and your situation. Plead the blood of Jesus over evil things and visualize it as burning, melting, roasting, vaporizing every evil thing it touches like molten lava burning a foot completely off in a second! Then plead the blood of Jesus over yourself, your spouse, your children, your marriage, your family – imagine the blood of Jesus pouring over everything you pray about like a never-ending waterfall, completely soaking and saturating from head to toe, penetrating from the outside to the inside, renewing minds, piercing hardened hearts and replacing them with new hearts!

    It’s time for Christians to stop accepting victim mentality (like I do on a daily/hourly basis) and start seeing yourselves as Battle Warriors of the Most High God’s Army! This is ultimately what he is preparing us for when we come back with Jesus in the end times.

    Thank you Mike & Chris for being faithful and obedient to His calling through this website! May each of you be blessed seven-fold in all areas of your lives!

  2. Robert……The EXACT same thing that we spoke of concerning God hardening Pharaoh’s heart!!!!….it’s the very same word you got for yourself!!!!!…..Listen…this is no coincidence…..God is telling you something and he wants you to endure just a little while longer he is about to make your enemies your footstool…Praise God:)….

    Funny we show speak about fasting…..a situation came up in my life and this morning I felt led to FAST!!!!

    We decided at work that we were going to bring some eats and snacks to work for the day …….we have tons of food and just as I was briefed un expectedly about the situation…..as I was about to grab some food…..I felt a strong pull in my spirit to put it back and fast for the favor of God on my husband on an up coming job interview!!…..

    Well I did what I was told and I pick up the phone and called the exact same ppl I spoke about in my testimony….the Pastor,Prophetess and the Apostle and his mother and asked them to agree with me in prayer that God would show him favor tomorrow….that God would fill his mouth with word and even cause the interviewer to see my husband in the same light that he himself (God) sees him….

    Robert something is about to break thru….I know God is testing somebody and setting somebody up for a miracle….I dont why…..I feel he is about to trouble the waters some where on this forum in some life…but we have to step in….we have to step in and trust and RECEIVE…..

    You are doing a great thing my friend…..I even want to Praise God for this very site….look how God is using Mike in a powerful way to bring his ppl together and to dispense (spelling)his word in such a might way!…

    I’m feeling so good today 🙂

  3. Crystal,

    Praise God!

    To My Brothers & Sisters in Christ (as well as my enemy)…

    Do you see how God is present in this forum using the example from above?

    I began my day in prayer for all of you and your marriages. Not one word has been about me or my marital situation. If I’ve started to have thoughts about my marriage, I’ve pray those thoughts out for YOUR marriages, not mine. Every tear I’ve cried so far today, I’ve asked God to place them in YOUR bottles – not mine. I am fasting from all food and water today for your marriages. I’ve prayed things for all of you that I’ve never even prayed for in my marriage. When I try to remember them, I can’t – I believe I was praying in the Spirit during that moment of prayer. I’ve prayed speaking in tongues and I’ve prayed the prayers Crystal has spoken over my marriage for all of your marriages. I will pray again during the afternoon and before I go to sleep. If the Spirit leads me to also pray at other times, I will be obedient.

    I believe God will reveal to us prodigal spouses repenting for what they’ve done, asking for forgiveness from their covenant spouses, softening their hearts towards their covenant spouses, reuniting and recommitting to their covenant marriages, and even some miraculous breakthroughs!

    I have never done this before. I am scared. I am deeply hurt beyond what words can express. But I am completely surrendering myself to Him for all of your sake today. I’m not asking for thanks or seeking glory – that belongs to Him. Please take time out today to thank Him for the calling He has placed on my heart and the guidance He provides through Crystal.

    Now I understand what Hebrews 12:2 meant when Jesus “saw the joy ahead of him, so he endured death on the cross and ignored the disgrace it brought him.” (GWT)

    I am so blessed and honored at the joy I see ahead of me for your marriages, that it allows me to endure the death of my own feelings and flesh for today, ignoring the disgrace I am going through.

    Thank you.

  4. Robert….the text on God harding Pharaoh’s heart can be found in the book of Exodus Chapter 9 verse 12…..it is the story of Moses leading the Israelites out of Egypt:)

    Thank you for dedicating today to us…..we all need prayer and as much as we can…May God continue to bless you as you make yourself a blessing to others:)

  5. Crystal,

    Where did you get the hardening of Pharaoh’s heart from?

    Everyone else,

    Since I will not be with my wife this Valentine’s Day, I will dedicate it to all of you in prayer without praying about my own situation. I believe God is using Crystal to share things with me and so I will try what she felt led to share with me.

    Let’s see what He will do for you tomorrow!

    • I want , I get my present tomorrow . This Christmas present , I will never forget. My husband comes back to me I went to the same church for 13 years, but I can not ask him to pray for me, because his answer is No. I have only God. To bring my husband back to me

  6. Wonderful story, but am concerned about Elizabeth’s post. Her husband divorced her, but she gave up on her husband. She didn’t stay single or be reconciled as God commanded. She didn’t stand in the gap for him. We are to be holy and be obedient to God’s Word, not sow to the flesh to be happy. With 7 or 8 biblical scriptures claiming remarriage is adultery, Elizabeth could very well be in adultery, if the marriage btw her first husband and herself was the first marriage for both.

    Marriage is for life btw covenant spouses. The disciples were so shocked when they heard Jesus say remarriage was adultery that they said it was better to never marry at all. And Jesus also said that not everyone will be able to accept and receive His teaching on divorce and remarriage.

  7. Robert…..you know each and everytime someone says to me that something I said at a given time….even reading what God did for me….each and everytime I get that…I am so moved to tears….

    I’m not accustomed to God speaking to me…either that or I just wasnt listening….I think it’s the latter:)….to think that God would use simple, sinful ole me to bring hope to a hurting person…to think that he would see me fit NOW to be a messenger for him …sometimes it is over whelming…

    I tell you I always attended church…I always paid my tithes but yet I never knew God…..it was only after my husband left me that I reached out to God and he reached back:)…Praise God….

    You know I made all types of promises to God that I would do when he restored my marriage and telling the world was one of them….I never knew how I was going to tell the world..but here I am on the internet the WORLD WIDE WEB……what better way of getting the word out:).

    Robert I believe that God is going to restore your marriage….I stronly believe that….I believe that God can harden Pharoh’s (spelling) heart….he can soften your wife’s heart toward you again…..she loved you before and she can do it again:)…

    Ask God to help her to see you in the light that he sees you in….dat he bring back to her memory the good times both of you shared….ask that she sees you even when she looks at her children….and continue to pray for that gentleman and his wife….lift them up in prayer…..if I were you….I would dedicate one full day to pray for both of them and the broken marriages on this forum….if God leads you to do it once a week or whatever then you do that…..
    Let that be a day of prayer for others…dont mention your own marriage during that time….God already knows about your marriage and what you want done and even if you dont mention it for one day he still isnt going to forget 🙂 …..Do this with a clean heart and watch what God is going to do for you my friend….

    You are such an inspiration for me and for others on this forum….keep up the posting my friend….God is indeed pleased with you and I believe he will grant you the desire of your heart:)

  8. Crystal,

    I was feeling troubled in my spirit today, especially after seeing my family this weekend and Valentine’s Day coming up. So I left my office, went downstairs into an empty conference room, got on my knees and prayed to God. Some from books, some from my heart, some just groans of pain – all of it in tears. I cried so much, my tears started to burn my face.

    As I’m reading a prayer from my phone, I hear an email notification. I would normally not interrupt my prayer time to check emails, but something told me that I should.

    And there, was your message to me… straight from God!

    After I cried more tears (this time of relief and encouragement), I finished my prayers. I felt in my spirit that Dan was also going through a spiritual attack, so I prayed for him.

    Lastly, I prayed for the man my wife is involved with and his marriage. I prayed as fiercely for his marriage as I pray for my marriage. My mind was screaming “NO” with every ounce of its flesh, but my heart yelled “YES” even louder.

    It is NOT easy by ANY means to pray for the man trying to steal my wife from me. And, even if he wasn’t in the picture, I know there are still other major issues that would have my marriage in the same situation.

    But the Lord commands us:

    “If your enemy is hungry, give him bread to eat; and if he is thirsty, give him water to drink; for so you will heap coals of fire on his head, and the Lord will reward you.” (Proverbs 25:21)

    When we pray the Our Father prayer, we’re also told that we will be forgiven to the degree that we forgive others.

    I can only infer that if I treat my enemy with mercy and grace, much more will be given to me in my situation. If I pray for a speedy reconciliation in my enemy’s marriage, perhaps I will also encourage God to move speedily in my own marriage.

    Thank you for your precious prayer – I have added it to my arsenal. I also seek the Lord as to who else I should pray for, especially those that have commented above. I started to pray for everyone, but He told me not everyone is ready/willing to have their marriage restored. So I pray for Him to guide and direct them, until it is time for me to pray for their marriage.

    Thank you to everyone for sharing and keeping each other in prayer!

  9. Robert…..
    ….I pray the favor of almighty God upon your marriage….I declare that no weapon formed against your marriage shall prosper…..I wash and saturate your union in the precious blood of Jesus…..Father you said in your word that you’ve given us the power to trample every demon under our feet and Lord I stand on that promise right now in the name of Jesus…..You said that at the name of Jesus every knee should bow, in heaven and on earth…and right now I command every foul demon attacking Robert and his wife to bow and release your grip on this marriage NOW in the name of Jesus…
    I declare healing and I declare restoration in Jesus precious name AMEN.

    Robert you are a strong man and that is to be admired….how many ppl going thru their own trials would take the time out to pray for another persons marriage…..I pray the blessings of God which maketh rich and addeth no sorrow be upon you…
    You said something and I agree with you whole heartedly…when you are going thru your own trial and you take the time out to lift someone else in prayer…I believe that moves the heart of God and he hastens to our rescue..

    My brother do not give up and keep on fightening the good fight and I know you will be victorious…..Be encouraged:)

  10. Dan…my dearest…even as I read your post I immediately stopped and lift you up before God…you and your wife….I dont have to imagine how how you feel because I know that pain only too well first hand….my friend DO NOT GIVE UP….turn the entire situation over to God…..I know that is easier said than done but believe that he knows your wife way better than you and he alone knows what it will take to turn this situation around….

    There is NOTHING ….NOTHING that is too difficult for hime to do…..ABSOLUTELY NOTHING….I cannot stress that enough…..he did it for me and he will do it for you too…..he is a just and fair God and what he did for others he can and will certainly do for you:)

    Look at me…..how do you get some one to love you again when the person said I never loved you to begin with eh!!!….and your situation isnt that…..it is that your wife can not forgive herself for what she did…..she is so turned off and so disgusted with herself that prehaps she thinks that you see her in that light or that you will eventually see her in that light…..

    Reassure her of your love but still…DO NOT BE A CONSTANT NAG…..let go and let God…..Sometimes we get caught up thinking that telling the person we love them constantly is the best thing to do……dont get me wrong…it is important that they know we love them and we are going to be here for them and it is our desire that our marriage will work and bring honor and glory to God….BUT…..we dont want our words to just sound empty and monotonous(spelling)..

    What I want you to do is pray the word of God over her…..declare God’s promises for your marriage …..pray a hedge of thorns around her and against any third party influence…..tomorrow is Valentines day…i dont know if you celebrate that but if you do and your budget can afford….send her a nice bouquet of roses or if she likes chocolate get her some of that….attach a nice card….not too mushy now :))))….

    My dear..do not loose hope…God is in the mist of this and what the devil met for evil…..of father is going to turn around for our good….

    Call on me any time my friend….be encouraged:)

    The word says the fervent (spelling) prayer of a righteous man availeth much….God is not going to turn a deaf ear to you….I believe with all my heart that he is going to show himself mightly on your behalf….stay strong and keep contact with persons that can agree with you on your marriage….stay away from anyone who would offer any negative advice…..

    • Crystal,

      Your testimony is something that i read over and over again, when all my hope is gone that my marriage would be restored as how the circumstances looks like now. My wife has told me that she has not been inlove with me for months and is now with somebody else, and as I type this she is packing her stuff to move out. This is something thats been going on for a month, and I have been praying and praying to God, that he would soften her heart and come back. But I do lose my hope sometimes and wouldnt know what to do. I ask for your prayer, for God to pierce through her hardened heart and reconcile our marriage.

  11. Dan,

    What you said was very important – it’s not that she doesn’t want to reconcile, it’s that her guilt is making her feel unworthy of reconciliation.

    Read the book of Hosea and in it are the steps for equipping you to help her forgive herself. If you can show her God’s unconditional love and forgiveness through you, and constantly reassure her she is completely forgiven, I think she will accept it and reconcile.

    One thing I would advise… once she reconciles, never ever bring it up again – ever! Otherwise, she may feel like she was never truly forgiven.

    I am praying for you and hope others who have posted will form a prayer circle for each other in this group too. I know when you’re going through your storm, the last thing you feel you have energy to do is lift someone else up. It’s hard enough to pray for yourself, but when you sow seeds into someone else’s marriage, perhaps God will create a harvest in your own as well.

  12. Hedge of Thorns


    In the name of Jesus Christ and with the full power, anointing, and authority as my spouse, (name’s), husband/wife, I come before You to pray for a Hedge of Thorns around (spouse) and our marriage.

    By the Blood of Jesus Christ, I pray that (spouse) will become confused, lose perspective, and that (spouse) will not find peace until he/she returns and surrenders him/herself to You, almighty God. Let the angels of God arise and block (spouse’s) path with thorns until he/she runs back to the Saviour in the Name and Blood of Jesus Christ. Ordain terrifying noises against all evil collaborators confusing (spouse) by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Your word says “Therefore I will block (spouse’s) path with thornbushes; I will wall (him/her) in so that (he/she) cannot find (his/her) way.” (Hosea 2:6 NIV)

    By the Blood of Jesus Christ, I pray that others who might be looking for a relationship or already are in a relationship with (spouse) will lose interest immediately. I command the ways of all friends and relatives confusing (spouse) against Your Word to become dark and slippery by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Father, build a wall of hindrance around (spouse) so that he/she will be unable to carry out any ungodly activity by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Your word says “(spouse) will chase after (his/her) lovers but (he/she) will not catch them; (spouse) will look for them but (he/she) will not find them.” (Hosea 2:7a NIV)

    By the Blood of Jesus Christ, I pray that You, Father, show (spouse) signs and wonders of Your desire for him/her to stay in our marriage. Let every moment he/she spends, awake or asleep, be flooded with visions and dreams that would lead to the resurrection of his/her marriage by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Let every evil anti-marriage linkage with our parents be dashed to pieces by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Lord, in the Name and by the Blood of Jesus Christ, renew (spouse’s) mind and give him/her a new heart by the Holy Spirit. By the Blood of Jesus I command our marriage to come alive. Let all satanic forces contributing to killing our marriage be paralyzed, by the Blood of Jesus. Let all the glory and virtues stolen from our marriage be restored seven-fold, by the Blood of Jesus. Every curse issued against our marriage or against our marital life, be broken, by the Blood of Jesus. Any power which says that we will not enjoy marital life, be roasted, by the Blood of Jesus. Thank you Lord for Your resurrection power working in our marriage and family right now, in the Name of Jesus.

    By the Blood of Jesus Christ, I pray that (spouse’s) troubles will increase as You, almighty God, encourage him/her to return to our covenant marriage . Let all the good things that (spouse) is enjoying, thereby hardening his/her heart to the truth, be withdrawn by the Blood of Jesus Christ. Lord, walk back into every second of our marital life and heal all the wounds created by the enemy by the Blood of Jesus Christ. According to Your word, (spouse) will say, “I will go back to my (wife/husband) as at first, for then I was better off than now.” (Hosea 2:7b NIV)

    Heavenly Father, I ask You in the Name and through the Blood of the Lord Jesus Christ, to rebuke and bind satan, his minions, and hindering spirits on assignment against (spouse), the rebuilding of out marriage, and against our family. I ask you to build a “hedge of thorns” around (spouse), so that nothing but the power and truth of Your Holy Spirit can enter. I pray that through this hedge of thorns, any other possible or potential lover will lose interest and depart running away and not be found or sought after. I pray that any potential lover suddenly become ugly and disgusting in (spouse’s) sight as all sin is ugly and disgusting in Your sight – and that none will compare to the beauty of his/her covenant wife/husband, as Your Bride the Church is to You.

    I base this prayer on Your Word which says:
    “For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce & marital separation and him who covers his garment with violence.” (Malachi 2:16 AMP); “but if {they} do divorce, let {them}…..be reconciled…” (1Cor7:10-11 AMP); and live in accordance with Ephesians 5:21-33, one in flesh and one with Christ for we are His body, the Church, and His Bride; because we were created as “…one flesh” in the beginning. (Genesis 2:24); for You command that “what God has joined together, let man not separate, put asunder or divide.” (Matthew 19:6 NIV).

    I stand upon the promises and precepts of Your Word as it is written that the Father may be glorified in and through the Son. In the Name of and by the Blood of Jesus Christ I ask this in faith believing.

    Thank you Father, Jesus Christ, and Holy Spirit.


    • I have just prayed this prayer for my husband who left me 3 months ago. I thought he was a christian when we married but sadly he isn’t. I want to fight for him to come home and for his soul. I was wondering is it ok to pray this prayer over him? Thanks sarah

    • Thank you for this powerful prayer, I have faith this will work in my broken marriage.

      • Jane this is a poweful prayer ive prayed it about 20x in the last 10 days. Im standing in the gap for you and everyone else on here.I praise and thank God for His testimonys through many people on here and proclaim victory for all by the blood of Jesus our lord and savior.

    • AWESOME! I just prayed this prayer for my wife of 32 years who has hardened her heart towards me and left. I am still standing for our marriage, while she seems to be out partying and enjoying life. I’m praying for a hedge of thorns around her. We have 5 children. Please pray for our family.

    • Oh my goodness…I was so meant to find this prayer!! My unbelieving spouse left me a month ago and I have been praying for him to realize his need for Jesus, I believe and have faith God willbring my husband home!! I will be saying this prayer three times a day!! Thank you thank you!!

      • I will include your situation in my prayers for my marriage. Never give up, always submit to the holy spirit and if God is telling you not to give up, trust that. It means he’s got a plan, and his plans do not fail!!!

    • I Praying this over and over again, I’m Paying for all of You too, My Heart is very Heavy, I’m in need of Council and EnCouragement, My Husband of 33 yrs left 4 mos ago, Says he still Loves me, But we just can’t live together, He was doing a on line Bible study and met a Women who made him feel Loved AND Supported, Being I had eight kids by Cecerin Sections and I quess I was a not a caring loving wife. That was seven years ago, He said he was planning on leaving me then, But I had a Anerizm, and felt he needed to give our marriage another chance, Broke off his online Affair, But think his pipe dream of her stayed, After I threaten to leave him 5 mos ago, He Snapped and called the Women again, He s never seen her or even knows for sure what she looks like, He thinks that since she’s still not married, God must have Blessed her to HIM, He wasn’t Happy with me, But says over and over again that he Loves me, He Will always Love me, But we just can’t live together we don’t get along, Never really had a chance, Got Pregnant on our Honeymoon and baby after baby, Didn’t really have a chance to know my Husband and now I think he’s leaving me, He’s not talking to the Women anymore, Told me it tore HIM up to see me being tortured over him talking to her, So he stopped. All his stuff is at the house, He’s in a travel trailer on his Construction site, He said he wanted to be friends, But just seems to avoid me, I can see he’s still physically attracted to me and don’t want me to get close Than he starts getting emotional and crying, about how this is the hardest thing he’s going through and he Loves me, The Children are Hurt they think he’s going through a midlife crisis, because he’s making no sense, Please need some Help, I’m trying to hand this to Jesus, I feel good one day, But the next day I feel threatened and Great Fear come in MY Soul, Please could Y’all Pray for me and send some Helpful Advise my way, God Bless

  13. Thanks Crystal. Your story really gives me hope for my marriage to work. My story is totally(180 degrees) the opposite. My story is long and I won’t leave a thing to tell my story but in short, I was the one who hurt my husband, in short, I was the one asking forgiveness.

    I was trying to find that someone that will love me and understand me. I had a very low self esteem because of my past. I was a neglected child and abused child. I almost got raped when I was 13. I have 3 older brothers and they’re always drunk. My mom never stayed with me. No one protected me. The only girl in the family. Took care of my litter brother. After college, my family came into my life but I was forced to come to America to marry an American so my family will have a better life. I never felt loved since my dad died when I was 5. I am the only girl. We all assume girls get spoiled by the family…..NO…like I said…I was abused. I came from different culture. Yet my family way of showing to protect me made me an anti-social person. Always scared…alone and abused..verbally, emotionally, psychologically…except spiritually. I was protected by God since my dad passed away. I survived from all fears and harm from bad people. I grew up in church. I went to church without anyone to tell me. ..attended VBS, baptized (born again), joined choir, etc. So I came to america just to follow 0ne of the 10 commandments “honor your parents”. But my marriages failed 2 times. I became rebellious. After getting out of many messy and abusive relationships. Relationships after relationships. I prayed for happiness and a man of God. Someone who knows the lord. So before I met my (3rd) husband.. online, I met someone at work and had a relationship (with a married man). I was hurt because I started to ask why is this happening to me? This is not what I asked for. I felt trapped…and looked for an outlet. All I could do was to lie to the married man, while pursuing the new man (my husband). So I was lying to both men. So even if after finding out that one guy is married….i continued my relationship with him trying to get out…but didn’t know how to tell him that our relationship is not right. Again I felt trapped. Unless I marry the new man, I don’t think my relationship with the other guy will end. So I married my husband. Yet I didn’t stop seeing the other guy. So I resigned and left the state I was in. From the pain I put my husband thru….seeing another man even on our wedding day, he left and moved to Vegas. I knew I hurt my husband. I didn’t really love my husband even before and after marrying him. I used him so I can get out of the messy relationship from the married man. I asked God’s forgiveness and prayed to show me if this is the man he sent for me. If he is, I need him to forgive me. But in my mind, I know he will never forget what I have done. My husband was hurt and still hurting. I ripped his heart apart. 6 months passed, I thought he forgave me…when our children from the past marriages, my son came to visit us, his kids came and visited as well, yet I never seen the sign of pain. So since we got us a place to live, I honestly can say, I fell in to my husband. I gave everything he deserves. I was a 100% wife and a friend and a prayer partner. I thought God finally answered my prayers. Until few months ago, his mom died (same date of my ex’s date of birth, then after a month he got laid off. So we lost everything…everything but One transportation. One day I noticed he was acting different… he said that we have to stay apart and be just friends. I pleaded that I would stick with him no matter what….for poorer or richer. Yet he isn’t willing to work it out. He decided that it’s best for me to move away. Everything fell apart again…. And all I thought my past were forgiven and forgotten…..no, I was wrong. We stopped going to church anymore. we stopped praying together. He won’t talk to me. He won’t touch me. He shows no love for me anymore. I felt his pain thru his eyes. He cares for me but he is so mad of what I did to our relationship. He thinks back of all the things that happened and why it happened. I cried and cried. Gave my hope to God. Asked and prayed for forgiveness and love. He asked me to move back to my family in California. It was hard because of the emotions and the abuse they did to me before I came to America. we both can’t communicate because of no resources…no money, no place to stay, no phone, bills are getting behind on payments. I can’t go to work…am suffering from anxiety and depression. My kids won’t talk to me. I am so embarassed to tell my friends that my marriage failed once again. And until now I still try and encourage my husband, and tell him I love him. I cry every day, every hour, every second. I prayed and prayed. Sometimes I feel I have no way out. Or felt like I don’t want to go on without him. All I have is God. Even if am still hurting….I know God is working in my life. But sometimes it hurts so bad, I try to fight God. I try to deny his existence. I blame Him. I asks Him why? why? I blame my family. I blame myself. I blame everybody. But sometimes I pray for strength that God will show me the way and guide me. I have nothing. I am weak. I don’t know what to do. I have no one. But God knows my heart. And I still believe that there is power in prayer. So I praise God for what God has done in your life Crystal. God is good. And am still standing with my faith in God…he will do a miracle once again in my life. Without God, Being alone, growing up was a miracle. He covered me with his blood and the Holy Spirit, He was with me all the time. He saved me from harm. I felt safe. God is all in the midst of us in our life.

  14. Here’s the prayer for “Hedge of Thorns” I’ve been using (more posts to come later today)…


    1. Salvation – This prayer can be used only by a Christian.

    2. Victory over sin – God warns that if there is sin in our hearts, He will not hear us.

    3. A clear conscience – First ask God and your family for forgiveness from the blame and hurts of your past failures.

    4. Pure motivation – The motivation for this prayer is primarily for the repentance and surrender of the person to God, then their spouse, for the salvation of their soul, marriage, and family (not punishment).

    5. Daily – The prayer MUST be done daily at a minimum.

    6. Do not rescue – The Bible says “we are not to rescue” until the mission is accomplished.

    7. Violence – These prayers are to be done violently with aggressive faith out of compassion for the lost.

    This last point is very important!

    Imagine someone evil torturing your child right in front of you before intending to kill them, holding you tied up in ropes so you’re powerless to help them.

    How would you react? Would you talk quietly or yell? Would you have compassion when you talk or would have aggressive violence? Would you approach the situation like a wimp, or would you give it your all like you were in the middle of a battlefield fighting for your child’s life with everything you got?

    That is how you must approach this – you have the authority as your spouse’s covenant partner, just like you have the authority over your child as their parent. You must stir yourself up as a mighty man/woman of war, just like the battle verse on this site says to remind God of the same thing for Himself. Think your spouse’s life isn’t in danger of being killed? Read the article on this site about losing your salvation.

    This is the boldness He wants us to have as His soldiers! Direct your aggressive violence in prayer against the enemy (the devil), not your spouse.

    This is NOT for the faint of heart!

    • Great prayer. Ive prayed it 7x in 2 days about to pray it again. Praise God my wife texted that she loves me a few minutes ago.You guys are all inspirational and i stand in the gap for all of you and proclaim victory by Jesus shed blood

      • Which prayer did you pray I can’t find it

  15. Ruby….Hun I’m so sorry to repond so late….I just saw this:)…

    What Bobbie said is exactly correct…..here in Barbados we have ppl that line the top of their fences with brokken bottles….some grow thick hedges of thorns around their property….the reasoning behind this is that it acts as a very real deterent for anyone who would dare try to trespass on their property……
    When I prayed the thorns around my husband…I was invisioning an actuall thorn fence around him in the spiritual…..for me I was asking God to honor my prayer and set up a barrier around him so fiercely woven that no one would even dare try to touch him…..that demons themselves would even shudder at what they would have to go through and endure in order to get to him…..That any woman /man/inlaw/friend it doesnt matter who …..that would even try to breach that protective covering and seek to cause harm to my marriage would be extremly sorry they even bothered to try…..

    Ruby….dont give up…..at times my dear…we feel as thought we dont have the slightest bit of energy left to fight….expecially if we are being met by all types of negativity and shoot downs from our partner or who ever…but be sure that even when we can see nothing with our naked eye…God is already beginning to stir some stuff up in the spiritual…..

    Last Thursday God gave me a word even as I was lying in my bed and now I’m going to pass it in on to you and it’s this…

    Trust in the Lord with ALL your heart and lean not onto your own understanding…in ALL your ways acknowledge him and he WILL direct your path:)

    My friend you are loved….trust God…..Do not give up……Be encouraged

    • Hi crystal.

      I am a guy married for almost two years now and my wife walked out in me a few weeks ago our anniversary is coming up on the 5th of June I am just asking you guys to just seriously join me in prayer to tear down the strong holds of the devil. We met with a counselor last week and even though the session started out rocky she gave out to the counselor that she needs prayers ambecause the devil is trying to build a wall against me in her and she doesn’t like it and needs help. I know she loves me and I love her with all my heart . And I want my wife to come back home. She is staying at her sisters house but I’m not comfortable with her there. I have tried speaking to her praying with her but her hard is hardening against me. Please help me pray to break this wall down . The devil has been trying at us even before we got married and I know this is him at work . I have done some stupid things and we argued and had lots of fights but I really don’t think this is anything to separate over . I need my wife .

  16. “hedge of thorns” is from the book of Hosea and is a prayer that was prayed for an unfaithful partner. It’s an awesome verse and should be prayed over a cheating spouse. God wants us to speak His word over our situations, and it’s also the number one line of defense against the devil. The bible has quite a few verses on marriage and unfaithfulness.

  17. Ruby.

    I’m guessing what Crystal meant by “Hedges of Thorns” was this. Roses have thorns as a defense. Even though it is a beautiful thing we dont want to pick it because we will get hurt by the thorns. The first thing that came to my mind was, her marriage is a beautiful and sacred thing and praying a hedge of thorns around her husband was like keeping him protected from having anyone else taking what was given to her by our Heavenly Father.

    Well I hope that helps and I hope thats what Crystal meant. Be blessed. =)

  18. Does anyone out there have any advice or scripture that helps when your husband has decided that he has decided to become of a different religion. I can’t find or don’t know where in the bible to look. Yes I have prayed to god about this, I was lead to Romans 14, maybe I just don’t understand what it is saying?

    • 1st Corinthians 7

  19. Hi….I’m Crystal and the above is my testimony……

    I cannot begin to tell you guys how much it means to me to hear so many positive responses…..I’m blessed and honored but the real honor goes to God Almighty because without him this would have had an entirely different ending:)
    Every day I wake up I give God thanks and praise for what he has done in an thru me….sometimes I cant find words to express my gratitude to him for remembering me in my helpless state and seeing it fit to have mercy on me.

    Michelle….hun….your words have touched and blessed me to the core and I receive that blessing from you in the name of Jesus:)…..I want you to know it is never ever too late….I dont want you to say that…..remember NOTHING and I mean NOTHING is too hard for God to do…..we are never so far gone as in that the Father can not see us and guide us back…..if you still want your marriage….if there is even a small tiny part of you that would want to be reunited with your husband, hun you just give it to God and he can multiply even the most minute feeling….You can’t do it but he can:)….My darling be blessed and encourage:)

    Elizabeth…..I am sooo happy for you…..you’ve proven that even in the mist of a mess…even when you cant imagine what good could possibly come….God is right there turning things around for our good….amen…what the devil meant for evil…God..hmmmm…..but GOD…..keep in your faith my dearest and stay blessed:)

    Jessica…..Praise God from whom all blessings flow…..Indeed he has come thru for you…..dont worry about the distance….there is no distance too far that prayer cannot reach….you are where you are but remember that your Father is EVERY WHERE…..where you eyes can not see his can….wrap your husband up in prayer…..ask God to continue to watch over him and keep him safe…ask him to guard even his very thoughs and rebuke any spirit of adultry,deceit,lust,mis trust,and such like off your marriage….Its is not the will of God that your marriage should suffer and go down the drain…..Keep at those goals….you have even inspired me to strive for excellence and accomplish something worth while in this life so that when I meet my maker…I would hear…well done good and faithfull servant:)

    Martette…This is beyond awesome!!!……after alllll those years…..My God…..see we plan but it is the will of God that prevails….God was able to reunite you guys even when I’m sure none of you even had a clue as to what would’ve happen:)….he is still in the business of making miracles….praise God for you two…pray to God daily for your marriage….Invite God to be head of your marriage…everyday….place it into his hand and ask his guidance…yours is a classic example of destiny postponed but not cancelled….be blessed my dearest:)

    • Hi Crystal,

      Your testimony is powerful and has just strengthen me. Going through the same, had an affair left the woman was separated for 5 months, prayed to God and my marriage got restored for about 4 weeks. Now she has changed her mind but am not giving up. I love my wife and our 2 girls. She want to be with OM who just wants to destroy my marriage. He is divorced and must not be born again. I have giving my life to Christ and wont let go but keep praying. I would like anyone to stand in agreement for me. My family is my life. The devil cant take my joy away. Work is so hard to focus but i trust God who did it before will do it again.

    • Hi Crystal

      I had similar experience too. I got married in 2012. My hubby left in 2014 for like a month but that one month was like eternity cz my hubby was a definition of perfection to a larger extent . Everyone could tell we luv each other. He spoiled me silly even though we had financial challenges and we were waiting on God for fruit of the womb. I called my pastor and we prayed violently. He came back after a month. I thought that was the end. The devil struck again in 2015 April and this time around I felt my world crumbling. He packed all of his clothes and told me to move on that he wasn’t coming back again. I wept bitterly. I would go to the bathroom at work and weep. I couldn’t tell any of my friends cz they wanted my kind of hubby/marriage. I took a break off from work to speak with God in prayers. Went for deliverance and during the program I received prophecies of him coming back and also that I was going to meet someone else that would luv me more than him. If he doesn’t come back in time, I would be taken by that person. I began searching every marriage site and praying seriously for restoration. I told God I don’t want any other man but my hubby. I was told a woman was involved. I started praying against strange woman also. I thought God wasn’t listening cz it’s was taking longer than I expected. I met two guys that wanted me desperately but I told God that I want my hubby not a new man. I was so lonely cz I had not conceived still. After 5 months he came back fully. The day he moved back, he still told me in the morning that I should move on but my God intervened by evening. It was indeed a miracle. Those months were the worst period of my life cz it got to a point I felt like leaving this world. My family made it worst by their constant calls. I kept reminding God that I asked him in prayers before marrying my hubby and he told me to go ahead so he has to do something. Still waiting for the fruit of the womb.

    • Crystal,
      Words can not express right now how your testimony has changed my life. Like you and your husband my husband and I had an argument 5 weeks ago and my husband went out the door and said he was not returning. Our communication has been almost nonexistent. He told me the same words that your husband did, he also said he wanted divorced. I believe he is having an affair with his business partner.
      I have been in nonstop prayer for my husband and our marriage, I have seeked guidance from my Pastors, and Elders. But by Gods grace I ran across your testimony today and where I was getting weary I now know God can do the impossible. Please agree in prayer with me as I want my marriage.

  20. God is so good. I also had similar experience. My husband left me when we had been married for 9 years, with 2 little sons. He was involved in drug addicts and left us for 6 years. During those miserable years, he had affairs with so many women. Then I surrendered myself to Jesus. Praise Jesus who never leaves me for a single second. He has restored our marriage and now we are involved in church services. My husband devotes most of his time in the church activities. God is so real in our life. He saves us! Haleluya! God bless you all.

  21. This was beautiful! I am not married, but I live with my parents, and while they believe, they have not until now to my knowledge accept Jesus Christ. They used to fight a lot, now not so much (other then normal couple bickering). But like Crystal I have ask God to please intervene, and what He joined, that nothing or no one, only be it by His will be separated. I remember once in August 2011, they went out to dance, and I stay a bit of the night praying for them , that there be no fights. When I fell asleep, I was woken up by a small voice telling me that it had tried but there were not fill by the spirit. Five minutes after I was awaken, I heard their car park in the entrance, and they came out fighting. I only know that I can only keep praying for their salvation and showing by my actions Jesus light. And that has been very difficult, because as a daughter, I must submit to their will and obey. Not easy when you are 24.
    I do however have a question, how do people know they are call to be prophets or apostle?

    • Dear Sendy,
      I believe we are all called to be missionaries, especially ‘in our own backyards’..a.k.a. in our homes, with family & those who we are around. We don’t have to go to Africa to be leaders of the Christ you plead to..You see, friend, we all either help those watching us..or we hinder those watching us. I went through the very same situation as you- with parents who did not have Jesus living & reigning in their hearts. Yet, I also fought the battle to be submissive. God miraculously changed my life & heart as an older teen. Whether God calls you to be an Apostle or something similar, I can promise you this: just remain open to anything and everything God wants to make of you. He gave us each the perfect guide Book..The Bible. This blessed Book has every answer for life’s questions. God’s Spirit is so faithful. He will continue to help you & show you what He wants you to be. He knows where & who we will impact in life..and while many of the Children of Christ may have different experiences & some different beliefs, God will be continually faithful to you..in His promises & in His leading. Ask God to give you a promise for each of your parents. Underline it; date it..& ea. time satan discourages you, go back to those promises. God promised me He would break through to my father’s heart..in 1997. I realize that’s a looonnnnggg time ago 😉 But I want you to know, my father gave his heart to Jesus 3 yrs ago & God has & is still helping him. Sometimes God works faster than that. Pls don’t be discouraged! Just know you can take your burdens to the throne of God & lay them at His feet. He never has failed yet! Oh, we are humans & so full of failure..but with the grace of our Lord, we can be exactly what He wants us to be.
      Keep shining for Him!
      Ur Sister in Christ, living fully abandoned to His will, His grace & His wonderful love!

  22. This is AWSOME ! I have a similar story! Me and my husband were married 6 years. Things were really tuff. We had 3 children within 4.5 years. We had been stationed over seas. No family no help and the stress and the list goes on an on of what all happened! Long story short we divorced after 6 years of marriage. I was 23 with three little children and married a man I really did not know. I ended up being in an abusive marriage for 17 years. My husband had 17 years of one bad relationship after another. There is just to much to tell all that happened within those 17 years! It was hell on earth for the both of us. My husband and I never did discuss why we had ever divorced but we just did. We didn’t have anyone on our side. After 18 years a part God restored our family and we are a family again! NEVER give up! We had no idea that we even cared about each other! The way GOD joined us back together is to long to write but is a miracle! God knew where we were supposed to be and HE put us there! What God has Put together NO ONE can separate . We may get off of Gods path in life but I feel so much comfort in knowing He gets us back on the right path! He is worthy to be Praised!!!!

  23. I appreciate this article and true life experience, for I have just experienced the same thing in my marriage, thinking and living life in my own bubble believing that our life was perfect. I am a Navy spouse and have all to often heard of the infidelities that occur in the marriages, but thought not mine, we are good and I am so thankful for a husband who is strong in the faith of us.

    Faith in us, that is where I messed up. My faith was misplaced and was proven by his infidelity. I too was crushed and hurt like no other and felt as if the world as I knew just ended, but by the grace of God and his lessons on sufficiency of Him and not man and forgiveness, our marriage is restored once again. He is deployed right now and I still haven’t been able to see him since this has happened, but I know that by my faith in God and prayer in the Holy Spirit we will stay strong, that seed alone has cleared away a rocky path and moved mountains for us to continue our journey together in our faith and love for Him and for life altogether and I hope and pray that oneday that this lesson I learned I may be able to help others get through, the same as I did. I will share to you my letter I posted to other sites that I felt needed to be shared.

    Soul Redemption


    I was just writing a letter to my husband to share what I declare as my short list, a.k.a. bucket list, and well on that list wasn’t much. It wasn’t a list of skydiving or bungi jumping, just a few things that meant more to me then an adrenaline rush and they made me think. I sent it to him and he only responded to me by saying that those are good goals. While my goals is another story, this made me think a little deeper. Are these goals? Or should they just be a way of life? I like to believe that they should be a way of life and that my goals should only be a branch of the vine, if you will. So in the midst of my writing, I went back to this, this that you are about to read was in the middle of my thoughts. I then also realized that this isn’t just a letter to my husband, that it seems to be a written letter to God, or even a letter to anyone who is lost. After reading this to myself I felt so compelled to share this with everyone. So here it is.

    With the thoughts of a short list I have decided that I want to be able to use my skills oneday to help people. Not to be made or make it rich for my own selfish and greedy reasons. This I believe is a recipe for poison. I want to make a real difference in my daughter’s life. Set a real example. I want to leave her with a legacy, not a memory that led to misery or destruction of ones life or soul. I want her to know that there is a reason for our life. I just want so badly to be a good person. I don’t have a life right now that I can honestly say was all good and if weighed, the bad might tip the scales more. That thought leads me to more questions and how exactly will I weigh out.

    If I was to die tomorrow, how would people percieve me? Who’s life have I impacted? Was it a good or bad impact? Did I make a difference? Did I live a good life? The answer is no. Maybe a smidge, but not the way that I wanted to when I was younger and expected to live later in life. I am thankful that now, I ask these questions with good intentions and not while I am on my death bed, but my life in the last few years almost a decade has just passed me by. It is unfortunate that you met me when you did and not while I was on my way to doing good things, only showing you the bad and modestly giving you my good, but I let tradgedy get the best of me and beat me to the ground. Unfortunately this is the only side of me that you know. Yet you stuck around. I let this all wither away my soul until there was just a tiny morsel of hope left. I feel that (my soul) is getting stronger again and that good will come out of all of this. I do believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel and it shines brighter and brighter on me everyday. Time, same as death, is our enemy and I only wish now that I didn’t waste away so much of it.

    To be more exact, since I was fourteen I have done bad things. Things that are not holy, things that were against man’s laws and God’s laws. I did these things most of the time with a good heart, good intentions barried beneath the bad ones and there were many times that I let the bad intentions rule my heart. Maybe on the scales, the good will tilt more then the bad, only because I do have a good heart, but it wouldn’t be by very much since afterall, I am only thirty-six years old. I mean, do the math man. I spent more then half of my life spiralling out of control. Yet still the bad is what stands out to people. The perceptions of people are more of the ugly then the beauty it seems. I will admit that when all you see is ugliness it does make it hard to get passed that and to see the beauty of one’s soul.

    That was life before I truely gave myself to Christ. I once gave my life to him, but that was automatic since I was a child born from God and I saw the beauty in everything. Somewhere along the lines of life, that all disappeared. A lost little sheep amongst the wolves. Where in darkness ugliness is the face of everyone and everything. Life in Christ I see the beauty in everyone and everything. Like a nice soft-lit candle light, that gives the perfect hugh to show no flaws, to only hightlight the beauty of us all.

    If I were to use the scale or a moral compass such as the 10 Commandments, well I have failed miserably. I have broken each one of those multiple times. Every single one of them. How aweful is that? I mean now as I get older I realize that those things are bad and I try not to do bad things now. I am more aware of the ramifications of it all and… well it just doesn’t make me feel good as a person to do any of those things now. I know in the end we will all be judged on those simple little rules, but I am thankful that God is a gracious and mercyful God. That since the birth of Jesus who died for our sins bares the burden of it all. What a Great and Wonderful sacrifice that was and is. How one could even be so faithful and honorable to do that for the whole entire human race is beyond me. I only wish in my most imaginable dreams that I could ever be so holy.

    I am thankful to be reborn again. To be able to recieve the most amazing gift of everlasting life in Heaven with the LORD JESUS CHRIST. If it wasn’t for Him, I wouldn’t be able to live with myself or anyone else for that matter. For the burdens have become much to great for me to carry. I praise God for making me see now and for taking that weight off of my shoulders so that I may enjoy the fruits of the garden here on earth. For giving me the preview of what is to come in the everlasting, eternal life of heaven.

    Now, with all this said my life in Jesus is perfect and all is good, however the complications of life have a tendancy to still pull out the puches. One must still deflect and duck and gaurd oneslef to not absorb those jabs and blows. My weapon is my faith. My protection is the Love of Christ and this will get me through life unscaved. Believing is easy, but to be holy always seems to be more difficult, when it is really just that simple to do. You see for me it is always harder to be nice to the ones that love me most. I can be a real jerk at times, I can be… well for sake of a better way of saying this, just unpleasant to be around. I do this not to be intentionally mean, but because I have always felt a need of control. This is definately poisonous to the soul, because all this just leads to hate, regret, self endulgance, bitterness, a sense of entitlement, and the end result of that is only disappointment, disrespect of myself and others. It only is a blue print of utter failure. It pulls the curtain back of the proclaimed strong and to only reveal the weaknesses, which makes the control freak, such as myself to be even more angry, and then it all starts over again to lead to more vengeful feelings and another vicious cycle. A very, very dark road that never seems to end. Of course though it seems that it doesn’t have to be that way. There again like I said before, there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Praise Jesus for that.

    Love. That is it. Love. Love is a natural feeling that isn’t taught. It was within us from the beginning. Now if you are a hateful person that only happened later in life. Not from birth and because of that we may need to relearn how to love again, but it definately was instilled in our hearts and souls from the beginning. After all we were created by a loving God. With Love you can forgive, trust, honor, be faithful, be loyal, be kind, to be giving, to be caring, to be sharing, to be humble and to remember that we are not strong. That we are weak individuals and need to rely on the strength of the Lord to carry us through life’s trials and tribulations.

    To say that we can handle it all, that we are in charge, isn’t really up to us. That we were created by God and for all things would not be, without God. Therefor, God is in charge and we must always give glory to HIM. That means the good and the bad. It must all go to HIM, as if it is a good will of our soul. To ask for forgiveness when we sin, repent and forget and to move on as to not remind HIM of our sins. To praise HIM always and forever no matter what. With Love you will always be empowered, you will always have that glimmer of Hope, and you will keep yourself in good Faith and this is what makes me Believe in HIM. See miracles do happen. Now I am not thinking about all of this to glorify myself or to put myself up on a pedestal, Lord knows that in man’s eyes I am not perfect. I am just glad and relieved to know that somewhere and somehow I am perfect to HIM.

    I love you God! Thank you for all that you do for me and for my family. Hallelujuah!

    and Thank you Josh, for helping me to reach a level in my faith that I probably wouldn’t of been able to do by myself since I overlook myself alot, by shaking up my world and forcing me to really look inside myself as a Christian. I love you.

  24. My husband also left me for another woman. I stayed faithful to my husband and to God, prayed and begged God to bring my husband back. But my husband chose to harden his heart and divorce me. I fathfully believed, trusted and prayed that something good would come of this. Within a month after our divorce, I met a wonderful, christian man. We got married excatly a year after my divorce, we have two beautiful children and have been happily married for 19 years! God has blessed me with something much better because I faithfully believed and trusted Him even when my situation seemed completely hopeless.

    • God is good and he answers the prayers of his people. He has a plan for us sometimes it’s difficult to handle the situation but if we have faith then anything is possible.
      I got married 6 months ago straight after we got married we weren’t getting along at all. My husband did everything to hurt em, he didn’t want me to see my smiley, didn’t want me to work and was demanding me to move elsewhere with him. I did everything to try to save our marriage but two months ago it came to that point where I had to move back to my parents. I then went to his work 3 to 4 times but each time he was very harsh towards me and told me it was over. At first I thought he was just angry and will come round to it but when he called me yesterday it broke all my hopes. He told me it over for good as he doesn’t think it will work. I have been crying since yesterday as I’m very much heart broken. I don’t know what to do, whoever is reading this please pray for my husband that the lord will soften his heart. His family are involved in all this they’re doing everything to break our marriage specially his sister in law and mother. Please pray that the lord will change them and they will help him save our marriage. Thanks Zeba

  25. This is awesome!! This is happening to me but my husband came back and left again, I feel it must be in the Will of God to let him go. Thank you Crystal for sharing, what an awesome Glory to God to allow this to be shared. It will truly bless a marriage. And I pray that your’s is blessed and covered by the Lord. I am so blessed hearing this. I am saddened to say it is too late for mines. But I have a peace about it and I thank God for who he made me because of it. I believe God is going to bless me with a Godly man who is loving and worthy. This is exactly what he want from you to share that God can get his full Glory. Bless his Holy Name!! God bless you Crystal and your marriage!!

    • Good day to everyone Please believe me when I say that I am so full of hope, and my faith has mightly increased since I read Crystal testimony. I am so joyful for what God has done for you. It gives me greater hope as I await his blessing on my situation as well. My story is a little different from most of the one that I have read thus far, and I have read pleanty. For almost three years I have dated brother in Christ. We talked about marriage so often that he was sure that when he officially ask me I would say yes. Needless to say, I said that I could not go through with it. He didn’t give up, but took it to God in prayers and fasting for about two months . When he finally saw that I was still saying no he moved on (unbeknownst to me.) After much consideration I called him and told him that I was willing to go through with the marriage be of the separate prayers that God answered on our behalf before we met. It was at that time that I founded out that he is planning to marry someone he doesn’t love. I am desperately praying that God will interve before it happens since we both still love each other . He doesn’t want to back out on this other person because of his cultural upbringing. I am asking for urgent prayers to God on our behalf . Thank you all.

      • Carleen, I sincerely hope that this worked out in your favor as mine is pretty much the same situation. My husband and I have been divorced for almost 10 years although we’ve been dating all throughout these years. Now he wants to move on and marry someone he’s been seeing for almost 10 years, she’s in another state, he’s spent mucho dollars making trips. I am asking for intercessors in my marriage reconcillation of almost 30 yrs. for us.

        • Never is too late my friend. God can wake up a marriage from the dead. He can and will. But now we are in 2017 but I have seen marriage to be restored after 10 year of divorce. Adultery is a deep sin and quite often ends in divorce because the other person is not spiritually strong to pull the other out of the pit. Your marriage could be saved if you had knowledge of that God can restore a marriage after a divorce.

          • Listen we have to forgive and let go…..Some marriage’s is destroyed by unequally yoke and we have to be equal meaning both Christian…. I’m going threw something right now and I’m praising my way threw… Read 2 Cor 6:14-18 and that’s your answer.. I don’t know who this is, but I believe God allowed me to share this with you…to help someone… My wife did something I still don’t know what it is but God delivered me from her…. We tried and tried but the holy spirit didn’t allow it to go…. I love my wife but God first… 3 1/2 years no kids thank God….

          • hi my name is April I’ve only been married 4 months but prior to my marriage my fiance cheated on me about 6 times, 6 times that I only know about. I still married him. but GOD revealed to me time and time again, showing me he is a cheater so I have to play my part I should not have married him. Now I have literally got him on my camera at our home talking to other women and talking just as though he wasn’t married. the conversation revealed he had been with them yes them different women. he had to take a trip to Florida to see his sick mother no I have peace and time with GOD to pray and see what I come up with. I’m not accepting no calls. I need time with GOD. I’m faithful loyal and committed now my heart is torn and make sure I do want a married woman is suppose to do, but I keep allowing men to do this to me. I know myself worth but I don’t act like I know. I really want to end this but I’m scared to be alone. worrying about where is will live but why? he didn’t care about me when he was talking to them women. Such a caretaker I am and nurturing person. I’m always worried about others but do they care about me for real? when I begin dating him he lived in a trailer with no running water, a little heater to heat up the area, needed new bedding covers, needed air freshners to make area smell fresh, motorcycle need a lot of work, never dined out weekly and here comes me did it all. Now I feel used. now he apologizes and tells me ill love you until I get it right. but if he never got caught I believe it will continued. I need to be stronger. Someone who will treat me like GOD loved the church. I know we all go through that’s life, but to continuously cheat on me. I’m tired. heart broken Crushed

          • #Naisa. Wow. I am so encouraged. God is restoring my marriage after just over 10 years of divorce. It is the most painful thing I have ever had to go through in my walk with God. However God is breaking things off of me and although my ex husband has re-married he now wants to come back home to me.

            He is seeking the Lord and realises that he is in an adulterous relationship and I am therefore trusting God as he said he will restore.

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