You can read part 1 on Sin of Adultery here.
1. Thou Shall Not Commit Adultery
Without question, the very first verse to be considered has to be the command God the Father gave Moses when He was giving him the 10 commandments – where one of the specific commandments was: “Thou shall not commit adultery.”
These 10 commandments should not be trifled with or taken for granted in any way, shape, or form. And with God the Father Himself personally writing on a tablet of stone “thou shall not commit adultery,” you know we are dealing with a very serious warning from the Lord on this issue.
If it is not, and you do not pull out of it within a reasonable length of time and get this sin confessed and forgiven under the Blood of Jesus, you will have to face the Lord for a personal judgment on this issue when you meet Him face to face at His Judgment Seat.
Here is this powerful one-line command given direct to us from the mouth of the Lord Himself. This is coming from the verse where all 10 commandments are being given to Moses:
And God spoke all these words, saying: “I am the Lord Your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage. You shall have no other gods before Me … You shall not commit adultery …” (Exodus 20:1-14)
When God the Father tells us that we should not be committing adultery, this should be the end of the discussion. God says what He means and means what He says!
2. Adultery is a Sin
Since God is commanding all of us in the above commandment not to be committing adultery – what this now means is that if we do it, then we have now committed an actual sin and transgression directly against Him.
So not only are we hurting ourselves, our spouse, and our own children with this kind of unfaithfulness, but we are also hurting, grieving, and sinning against God Almighty Himself.
By not being willing to stay true, loyal, and faithful to our spouses, I believe God Himself is hurt and wounded when He sees this kind of transgression occurring in a marriage – and I have to wonder if He is wondering if that adulterer will also forsake and abandon Him sometime in the future if they could not stay loyal and faithful to their original marriage vows and promises.
The very first verse I will list below is telling us that the person who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it will be counted as an actual sin. In other words, if God is telling us as one of His 10 commandments that
He does not want any of us to be committing adultery, and we know that, and then we go ahead and violate and break His command anyway – then this transgression will be counted as a sin against us. And then if we do not see the errors of our way on this issue, confess this sin out before God and receive
His forgiveness for it, then we will be judged accordingly for this transgression at the Judgment Seat of Christ when we die and cross over.
Here are 3 very good verses on sinning willfully against the Lord, and what the consequences could be if we do not get this sin and transgression dealt with very early on with both God and our spouse:
- “Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.” (James 4:17)
- “Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.” (James 1:13)
- “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
Notice in the second verse that it is telling us that God will never tempt us with anything that is evil and not right in His sight. If God is telling us not to be committing adultery, then this means He will never lead or authorize us to even consider committing any kind of an adulterous act behind our spouse’s back.
I have come across some well meaning Christians who actually thought that God was leading them into the adulterous affair they had fallen into.
Their marriages had severely deteriorated over the years, but instead of going direct to God and committing the marriage back into His hands and ask for His guidance, knowledge, and wisdom on how to heal and repair the broken marriage, they assume they now have the right to look for and find happiness in the arms of another lover.
And then it happens as the last two verses are telling us – some kind of death will end up occurring as a result of this sin. Either the other spouse finds out about it and files for divorce because of the transgression, or the spouse will try and stay in the marriage to give it one more chance, but now their faith and trust in their spouse has been severely shaken, and sometimes it will then take years to get that same level of trust built back up into the marriage, if it ever does.
Again, this specific command from the Lord not to be committing adultery is being given to all of us for our own good.
For those of you who have been on the receiving end of it, you know what kind of extreme pain and heartache this kind of sin will cause, and the damage that it will do to the love, faith, and trust of the marriage.
3. Abstain From Fleshly Lusts Which War Against the Soul
When people commit adultery, they are usually doing it for one of two main reasons. They are either trying to find true love in another person and are out looking for an actual love affair, or they are doing it for just pure lust, sexual gratification, and pleasure.
Many adulterous men I have met are out chasing other women behind their wife’s back, and the only reason they are doing it is for the challenge and thrill of being able to get another woman to go to bed with them. They make no bones about it.
They are not looking for any kind of true love. The only thing they are looking for is immediate gratification of their sexual and lustful desires.
To many of these men, it is nothing but a game, and they do not care who they hurt or wound in the process – whether it be their wives if they ever find out about it, or the women they are seducing into their lustful, carnal, and primal world.
To any Christian man or woman who is out committing adultery for the pure lust and sex of all of it, study the wording in these next set of verses very carefully.
The very first verse I will list is telling us that we have to try and abstain from fleshly lusts that will war against our souls. And one of the fleshly lusts that it is definitely referring to is the temptation to want to chase after other partners for the pure sex and lust of all of it.
The second verse then puts the icing on the cake when it tells us that any man who attempts to join himself sexually with another woman considered to be any kind of a harlot before the Lord – that he will become as “one body” and “one flesh” with her.
God is telling us in this very intense verse that our physical bodies have not been made for sexual immorality, but have been made specifically and solely for Him. This is why God will not condone any kind of sexual activity outside the bounds of holy marriage.
Our bodies have only been made for the Lord and the one that He will want us to marry in this life – they were not meant for anyone else.
This second verse is also telling us that God is wanting us to literally “flee” from any kind of sexual immorality. In other words, run for the hills if you are ever faced with the temptation of it.
Here are two very strong verses on this issue:
- “Beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul …” (1 Peter 2:11)
- “Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body … Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him.
Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Corinthians 6:13)
This second verse is a real mouthful! With our physical bodies now being the temple of the Holy Spirit Himself as a result of our conversions to the Lord, God simply does not want any of us getting contaminated and tainted by sexually joining forces with any other people outside the bounds of holy marriage.
So not only are we sinning against ourselves and our own spouse when we commit adultery, but we are also sinning directly against God and the spiritual union that we now have with Him as a result of having the Holy Spirit living on the inside of us.
If more Christians would consider this angle of an adulterous act – that our bodies now belong to the Lord, and that any kind of adulterous act with another person will be contaminating our spiritual union with the Lord – I think more Christians would think twice before engaging in any type of adulterous behavior.
I believe the way the Lord is wording some of these verses, that any kind of an adulterous act with another is also a form of defilement in His eyes, and that He is deeply grieved and hurt when He sees any of His own engaging in it.
4. The Mouth of an Immoral Woman is a Deep Pit
These next four verses will add perfectly to the ones just listed above. These next verses are giving us major revelation from the Lord for those who like to chase after women who are considered immoral – women who have no qualms about sleeping with whoever they want and not caring if these men are married or not.
Even though God is telling us in these verses what will happen to men if they fall into the beds and arms of these kinds of immoral women – I also believe this same principle applies to women falling for the wrong kind of immoral men – who again, have no qualms about sleeping with whoever they want too, with all of it being for their own sexual gratification and pleasure.
These kinds of immoral men and women are your fatal attractions.
Watch what the Lord has to say about these kinds of people, and what these kinds of people could end up doing to your life if you should ever fall into their traps and snares:
- “The mouth of an immoral woman is a deep pit; he who is abhorred of the Lord will fall there.” (Proverbs 22:14)
- “My son, give me your heart, and let your eyes observe My ways. For a harlot is a deep pit, and a seductress is a narrow well. She also lies in wait as for a victim, and increases the unfaithful among men.” (Proverbs 23:26)
- “Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, do not stray into her paths; for she has cast down many wounded, and all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death.” (Proverbs 7:25)
- “For the commandment is a lamp, and the law is light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress, do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.
For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread; and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life. Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared?So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; whoever touches her shall not be innocent … Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; he who does so destroys his own soul.” (Proverbs 6:23, 32)
Notice the first three verses are telling us that an immoral harlot is a deep pit, and that many men have fallen into her pit and have had their lives totally ruined and destroyed as a result.
The third verse is telling us that many “strong men” have been “slain” by her and her ways.
We all know what happened to Samson. God anointed this man with probably one of the greatest physical strength anointings that any man may have ever received from Him – and one woman by the name of Delilah was able to find the source of that strength and completely take it away from him in a matter of minutes.
One woman accomplished what a whole Philistine army could not do. If that is not perfect proof of what a fatal attraction could do to your life, I don’t know what is!
Notice some of the very strong and intense wording that the Lord is using to show what a fatal attraction like this could do to your life:
- For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread
- She lies in wait for her victim and increases unfaithfulness among men
- An adulteress will prey upon his precious life
- Whoever commits adultery … destroys his own soul
- Her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death
When God uses the words that this kind of fatal attraction “is the way to hell” and that anyone who crosses over with her “destroys his own soul” – He is giving all of us a maximum intense kind of warning!
God even goes so far as to throw in a couple of very intense statements when He says that can a man take this kind of fire to his bosom and not get his clothes burned, or can he try and walk on hot coals without getting his feet seared?
I have met many men and women who have been horribly burned by other lovers who were just playing them for the sex they were able to give them.
Once these types of players start to tire and bore of you, they will then trade you in for their next new conquest, and you will then be left with either broken hopes and dreams if you are not married, or your own marriage will be left in a state of total shambles if you were doing this as an act of adultery behind your spouse’s back.
Again, God has given all of us more than enough fair warning of the dangers that could lie just around the corner with this sin with the way that He has worded all of these verses.
5. God Will Be Judging All Adulterers
Not only will adultery get you in trouble in this life with both the Lord and your mate if you start cheating on them – but you are also going to get into big-time trouble with the Lord after you die and cross over to meet Him face to face for your own personal judgment.
Some men and women are so clever and so good at keeping their adulterous behavior from their spouses, that they will literally go their entire lives never getting caught or even suspected of cheating by their spouses.
However, our life down here on this earth is for just a very short period of time. Sooner or later, we will all depart from this life, and when we do, every single of us will come before the Judgment Seat of Christ for our own individual personal judgments.
The very first verse I will list below will tell us that God the Father will be judging all fornicators and adulterers in this life – no exceptions. The last two verses I will list are both telling us that adulterers will not be entering into the kingdom of heaven.
Are these two verses talking about Christians as well as unbelievers? Is it possible for a Christian to lose their salvation if the adulterous behavior has been deemed to be severe enough by the Lord?
In the Current Issues section of our site, we have another article titled, “Can a Christian Lose Their Salvation?” In this article, I give you several good verses that will show you that it might be possible for a Christian to lose their salvation if any of their unconfessed sins are deemed to be bad enough and severe enough by the Lord.
As I stated at the top of this article, maybe God is wondering if you cannot stay true, loyal, and faithful to your spouse and to your marriage vows and promises – then maybe you will not be able to stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him for the rest of your eternal existence once you enter into heaven.
Satan and one third of the fallen angels all lived up in heaven with God initially, but they could not stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him for the long run. As a result, they all got cast out, and they will never, ever get another chance to get back in again!
We obviously will not know for certain whether or not the sin of adultery, if deemed to be severe enough by the Lord, can possibly cause someone to lose their salvation.
But with the way all of the above verses have been worded, along with the tone and intensity of some of the wording in these verses, I would not want to roll the dice with the Lord on this issue, thinking that He will turn a blind eye and not really care about it if you decide you want to start playing the field behind your spouse’s back.
Carefully consider the wording in these next three verses:
- “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but the fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4)
- “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” (1 Corinthians 6:9)
- “Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, uncleanness, licentiousness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19)
Notice the last verse says that those “who practice such things” will not be getting into heaven.
The words that those who “practice” such things – is that possibly referring to a Christian who engages in adulterous behavior on a regular and frequent basis, with no remorse, and no intentions on confessing this sin out before the Lord for His mercy and forgiveness?
6. Blessed is the Man Who Endures Temptation
I will leave you with one last very consoling verse on this whole issue.
As I said at the top of this article, as a result of the sexual onslaught that we all have to face on an everyday basis with what is coming at us from just about every possible media outlet, many Christians are battling serious problems with lust.
This next verse will tell us that blessed is the man who “endures temptation” – and if that man can endure any kind of temptation by staying out of it, he will then have been “proved” to the Lord and will thus receive a crown of life.
When God is using the word “endures,” to endure temptation, He is letting all of us know that we will all have to face a certain amount of temptations in this life to want to try and cross over into forbidden areas.
It is not the temptation that will cross our path that will cause us to sin and get us into trouble with the Lord – it is what we do with that temptation and how we act and respond to it that will cause us to fall and sin.
Many men will have very pretty and seductive women that will cross their path in this life. Adam and Eve had the one tree they were supposed to stay off in their perfect garden. But instead of “enduring” the temptation and not giving in to eating any of the fruit that was on it, they succumbed to the temptation with the help of Satan, and as a result, they fell and lost it all.
Though Satan was the one to initially set the ball in motion by trying to convince and persuade them to eat off this forbidden tree, God still held Adam and Eve personally accountable and responsible for their treasonous act.
In the same way, none of us will be able to blame anyone else before God on our day of judgment with Him if someone else may have seduced us into having an adulterous affair with them.
God will hold all of us personally accountable and responsible for succumbing to any of these kinds of heavier temptations, no matter how much someone else may have tempted and persuaded us to cross over with them.
For those of you who are battling any kind of heavier temptation on issues such as these, grab a hold of the wording in this next verse:
“Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been proved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.” (James 1:12)
Life is rough with all of the temptations, trials, and tribulations that we all have to face from time to time.
But God has made it very clear through His Word on how we are to handle these types of adversities and temptations. He expects all of us to become good soldiers and overcomers in Him – no matter what life, hell, or the devil may try and throw our way.
For those of you who are engaging in this sin on a very regular and frequent basis, I will leave you with one last warning.
All of the above verses are telling us exactly what God’s opinion is on this issue. There is no other spin or interpretation you can try and put on any of the these verses. They all mean exactly what they are saying.
Adultery is a sin and transgression direct against the Lord Himself, and this sin will eventually be judged either in this life or the next life to come if it is not dealt with down here by going direct to God, confessing it out as a sin, and asking Him for His mercy and forgiveness.
This sin can be fully forgiven. This sin is not any type of blasphemy against the Holy Spirit.
God will fully forgive you if you are truly willing to come before Him with a repentant heart, be willing to admit the errors of your ways, and be willing to confess this sin out for the sin and transgression that it really is before Him.
However, for those of you who do not want to give this sin up for whatever your personal reasons may be, realize that all of the above verses have given you more than enough fair warning. You will not be able to plead ignorance on this issue before the Lord on your day of personal judgment with Him.
Even unbelievers and heathens know that adultery is some kind of sin and transgression that will do nothing but eventually bring death to their marriages, to their spouses, and to the children in the family.
Per the article we have titled, “Can A Christian Lose Their Salvation?” – the sin of adultery is definitely listed as one of the sins that will be able to keep you from entering into heaven.
Whether or not the verses on this issue are referring to sinning adulterous Christians who are stubbornly and steadfastly refusing to pull out of this sin in this lifetime remains to be seen.
But by the way these verses are being specifically worded by the Lord, I would not want to roll the dice and take my chances that the mercy and grace of Jesus Christ will cover me for this transgression if I have stubbornly refused to pull out of it within a reasonable length of time down here on this earth.
And not only will you be gambling with your eternal fate with where you may end up at once you die and cross over, but you are also gambling with the fate of your own marriage should your spouse ever find out about it this side of heaven.
The pain this particular transgression will cause in a family unit once it has been found out and exposed is extreme and traumatic.
For those of you who have been on the receiving end of it, I am sure you can testify that it is one of the worse pains that you can ever feel or experience in this life. It feels like someone is taking a knife and just ripping and tearing the inside of your guts right out of you.
And not only will this sin and transgression personally tear your spouse apart, but it will also severely hurt and wound the children in your family if you have any. They will feel hurt and betrayed, and the entire underpinnings of the family unit will be shaken to its very core.
Adultery, when fully exposed, will be a spiritual earthquake that will hit a family with full force, and no one will get out of it without receiving some type of emotional injuries and scarring.
There is simply no upside or advantage for wanting to remain in this sin. Sooner or later you will be called out on it and exposed – either in this life or the next to come.
God will eventually have your hide on this transgression. God will only give you a certain amount of rope to run with and a certain amount of time before He calls you out on this and pulls you in for some type of judgment.
And not only are you tempting your fate with God and your marriage, but you are also tempting the fate of your physical life.
We just recently received an email from a man who was living in a very good and wonderful marriage. However, for whatever his personal reasons were for it at the time, he ended up having a one night stand with another woman.
As a result of crossing over into forbidden territory even for just that one time, he ended up getting infected with AIDS. And to make matters worse, not knowing that he was infected with AIDS, he ended up infecting his wife with it.
Now they are both going before the Lord asking Him for His mercy, healing, and forgiveness on the situation.
One of the things you will find is that the liberal media is not reporting on how rampant and prevalent sexually transmitted diseases have now become in our world today. We now have many more kinds of sexually transmitted diseases than we have ever had before. And new and different types of strains are developing all of the time. And in many of these strains, there are still no known cures.
In other words, if you get infected with some of these different types of strains, you will have it for the rest of your life, and in some of these cases, you will end up dying and leaving this earth much sooner than maybe the Lord would have really liked.
I wonder how many Christians are departing from this life before their time would have really been up in the Lord as a result of the deadly consequences that arose from crossing over into this sin and transgression?
With all of the different types of strains of sexually transmitted diseases that are now out there, you are literally playing Russian roulette every single time you decide to cross over with another partner.
You will be sleeping with everyone else they have ever slept with in their past, and all it will take is for you to end up being with the wrong person at the wrong time.
When you really chew on all of the above negative consequences that can occur with this sin – there is simply no upside or advantage to wanting to remain in it or cross over into it in the first place other than the quick, immediate, sexual pleasure and gratification it will initially bring.
But is all that temporary, fleeting, and passing sexual gratification really worth all of the negative and destructive consequences that this sin can unleash in your life?
Any Christian with half a brain who knows God and understands His ways and His commandments, should never, ever tempt their hand with Him by being willing to cross over this kind of forbidden territory.
There are simply too many Christians who are engaging in this sin with no fear of the Lord and with no fear of His commandments and judgments on this issue.
God knows exactly what He is doing. Since God is totally and completely perfect in His nature and personality, then He completely and perfectly knows what is in all of our best interests much better than we do.
And when God the Father goes to the extreme length to personally engrave a specific command on a tablet of stone in that He does not want any of us committing adultery.
Then you know we are dealing with a very serious issue and command from Him – and this command should never be taken lightly or for granted – no matter what the rest of the heathen world may try and tell us with its refusal to want to accept any kind of moral absolutes in their life and how they want to live it.
Our God is a very loving, merciful, and caring God. He has nothing but our best interests at heart with all of the specific commandments He has given to us in how we are to live in this life.
These commandments are all being given to us for our own good and for our own protection.
God is giving every single one of us perfect knowledge and revelation on this issue from all of the above verses.
However, the ball is now back to each and every Christian. All God can do is tell you from His Word what He is expecting from each one of us on this particular transgression.
Adam and Eve were given total free reign by God to abide by His one specific command to stay off that one tree and they could not do it.
As a result, they brought down severe judgment not only on them, but the rest of the human race that would follow after them.
Sin of any kind will always have some kind of negative consequence and repercussion to it, and the sin of adultery is no exception.
Once again, God the Father has given us some very good advice and insight from His Word as to why this specific sin and transgression is so deadly in His eyes.
Wednesday 30th of November 2022
Why do you call adultery what God does not? David had multiple wives, some of whom were given to him by God, 2 Samuel 12:8. David was chastised for adultery once. Abraham lived before the law and had multiple wives, there are many examples of men with multiple wives after the law and NO scripture showing that God spoke against any of them. God has defined Himself as unchanging, the same yesterday, today, and forever. He said he is not a respecter of persons but you are saying He changed His standard. Where does scripture say this? Don’t give me your interpretation and what it means, where did God say it?
Monday 18th of February 2019
Wow, I found this article about a week before officially finding out that my wife of almost 22 years had been having an affair for about 8 months... Our marriage wasn’t always perfect and we both had said and did some other things that hurt and made for some rough times... But as the article says this disgression has been like having a knife stuck inside and tearing your guts out!!!! I’m still in the process of comprehending it all and how to move forward and telling people what has occurred including our 3 children!!! I’m sure I will be referencing this article numerous times over the upcoming weeks.
Saturday 7th of September 2013
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