The Sin Of Adultery

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I know this next topic is going to be a very sensitive one for many in the Body of Christ. Not only are there many unbelievers who are engaging in this sin and transgression against God, but there are many Christians themselves who are violating and breaking this one specific commandment from the Lord.

With the sexual imagery that is now invading our lives from just about every media outlet, many people are battling serious problems with lust. And instead of getting their sexual needs properly met in their marriages, many people are looking outside the boundary lines of their marriages for sexual fulfillment.

As a result, you have many Christians who are out cheating behind their spouse’s back and are literally sinning and transgressing against God Almighty Himself.

I cannot even begin to count the number of Christians I have personally met throughout the course of my life who have regularly cheated on their spouses.

I have heard many of the men say that their lower half has no conscious, and if they find a pretty or willing woman, that there is no way they could ever say no or pass it up.

Others are not getting their sexual needs met or fulfilled within their marriages. Communication has shut down for different reasons, and as a result, their love life starts to get shut down right along with everything else.

As a result of not getting their sexual needs properly met, many of these men start to wander, and before they know it, they have fallen head first into a hot and torrid adulterous affair.

For those of you who really want to know what God the Father thinks about this particular sin, I will give you some very interesting verses from the Bible letting you know exactly what He thinks about this transgression and why it is so deadly in His eyes.

As with all of the rest of the commandments God has given to us through His Holy Word – these specific verses are being given to us for our own benefit and for our protection.

Many Christians I have met who are operating in this transgression on a regular and frequent basis have no real fear of the Lord or any respect for His specific commandments on this issue.

As you will see when I list out the specific verses on this topic, this is a very serious offense against the Lord, and many of His own will becoming in for some very severe judgments on this issue once they depart from this life and cross over into the Judgment Seat of Christ for their own personal judgment with the Lord for everything they have ever done or said in this life, whether it be good or whether it be bad.

Consider the following:

  • God has the sin of adultery listed as one of His special ten commandments – “Thou shall not commit adultery.”
  • God says that the sin of adultery will be one of the main sins that will keep you out of heaven. I will give you two verses below that will show you that adulterers will not be entering into the kingdom of heaven. Does this edict include Christians?Can a Christian possibly lose their salvation over this one sin by the way these verses are worded if his transgressions in this area have been deemed to be severe enough by the Lord?
  • The Bible says that God hates divorce, but that He will allow one spouse to leave the other within a marriage union if one of the spouses has been unfaithful to the other.
  • Back in the Old Testament, the sin of adultery warranted receiving the death penalty by way of stoning if one got caught in it.
  • Back in the Old Testament when God’s chosen people, the Jews, were abandoning Him and chasing after other gods – God the Father would call them “harlots and adulterers” because they would not stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him.When God calls you an “adulterer” straight to your face in your own personal relationship with Him, you are being called one of the worse things that He can possibly call you.

I personally believe that there is an “angle” on this particular sin that many Christians are not seeing or realizing. Not only are you hurting yourself, your marriage, your spouse, and your children with this deadly sin and transgression, but you are also seriously hurting and damaging your own personal relationship with the Lord Himself.

Here is the angle that many Christians who are regularly operating in this sin are not seeing:

If you cannot stay true, loyal, and faithful to your spouse, to your marriage, and to your children – then maybe God will wonder whether or not you could ever stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him for the rest of your eternal existence once you enter into heaven.

Satan and one third of the angels could not stay loyal and faithful to God for the long run, and look what happened to all of them – they all got cast out of heaven with no chance of ever being able to make it back in again.

The Jewish people back in the Old Testament could not stay true, loyal, and faithful to the Lord in all of His dealings with them, and again, look what happened to all of them as a nation and as a people near the end of the Old Testament.

God called them harlots and adulterers, pronounced judgment on them, and tells them that they will be dispersed to the four corners of the globe until the end of time where He would then bring them back to Israel and re-establish them as a nation.

I believe that marriage, and the vows and promises that go along with it, are taken very, very seriously by the Lord – and from there, He will personally watch you as to how you handle the sanctity of your marriage, how you treat your spouse and children, and if you will be tempted to stray and cheat behind your spouse’s back.

Too many people end up taking their marriages for granted after a certain period of time.

I believe marriage, and the close personal relationships that should develop between husband and wife, and between parents and their children should only be second to their own personal relationships with the Lord. It should be God, family, and friends – and in that order!

Family – with a beautiful wife or husband, and with one or more beautiful children, are the greatest blessings and treasure that God can bestow upon you in this earthly life next to Him, His Son Jesus, and His Holy Spirit.

And yet as great as this blessing and treasure really is, there are so many people who are willing to discard it, sever it, and cheat on it once they hit a few minor speed bumps in the marriage.

To those of you who are married and are either thinking about committing adultery behind your spouse’s back, or if you are already doing it – study the wording, the tone, and the straight forward messages that are coming out the verses I will list below. Study these verses very, very carefully.

Once you read these verses, you will have been properly warned by God Himself through His Word, and you will know, without any other possible interpretation, exactly what God the Father’s opinion really is on this issue.

Bottom line – if you are having any problems in your marriage, commit your life and your marriage back into God the Father’s hand, and ask Him to help heal, restore, and straighten out any thing that needs repairing.

Be guided by the Holy Spirit as to what steps you should be taking on your end to get the marriage back on solid ground with you, your spouse, and with God. Tackle your problems and issues head on, operating under God’s knowledge, guidance, and wisdom.

Jumping into any kind of an adulterous affair will only make matters worse, and eventually could lead to the complete destruction and dissolution of your marriage if your spouse ever finds out about it.

The pain you will cause your spouse and children will be extreme, traumatic, and possibly fatal and final if the transgression has been deemed to be severe enough by your spouse.

If God has completely severed His personal connection to Satan and one third of the angels due to their infidelity and rebellion against Him, and if He will allow a full marriage union to be completely broken, severed, and dissolved if one of the spouses becomes guilty of committing adultery – do not tempt the fate of your married life for a few moments of fleshly and carnal pleasure.

The gamble and the risk is simply not worth it – either for you, your spouse, or your children.

Now part 2 on the Sin of Adultery will show you very interesting verses from Scripture as what God really thinks about this specific sin and transgression and my conclusion.


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  1. Adultery and the pain of betrayal is worse than death. My ex became very abusive as his secret affair with his employee at his faith based organization took root. I begged him to choose me but he mocked & called me crazy & said I was just paranoid. Then he left me for her. They’re together now, we divorced and she is almost divorced. He never chose me. They are taking wonderful vacations together and have been “blessed” by the Christian leadership of he company and he is serving in ministry at his church. My ex has convinced everyone I was a horrible wife and she convinced everyone her husband was terrible too. He says God gave him his soulmate, he should have never married me, that he is finally happy & only now has discovered true love & they are engaged to marry. In fact, they have been engaged for a long time- long before anyone separated. I will be honest- I really and truly was a wonderful, caring, attentive wife. I even moved into a new country with him and for him. Left behind a job and family and friends & now he wants me deported without my kids.He’s told our children he’s upgraded and replaced their mom and found them an even better one. All visits now involve this woman (who bad mouths me to the kids). My children are hurting and confused as he says this is God’s will. I am left devastated and hurting and watching the woman who ruined my family (and my now ex-husband who ruined our family too) go on family trips to all the places on my bucket list. He’s flaunting it, laughing and throwing it in my face. I am grieving my loss of my family unit and I am in disbelief how he could have thrown 15 years of marriage away. I believed and lived our marriage covenant. I tried so hard to meet his needs, to pray diligently over our family and relationship but in the end, it was not enough. He said he deserved his type and now has said all the love notes, etc. were all false. He said his “real” marriage will be to her. He continues to get more powerful at work, is hugely successful financially and has no remorse, shame or guilt. If anyone says anything to him he says he’s like King David and says he will not listen to people being judgemental as they are trying to prevent him from carrying out God’s will. Now I am left to worry this relationship may flourish and further solidify his theory that she is his soulmate from God! (And if you are reading this- can you please pray for me? i have reached rock bottom in grief and I have begged God for even a sliver of a breakthrough and that this relationship will end and she goes back to her husband and kids).

    • Hi I am so sorry for your loss. Your husband is being used as a puppet for the enemy. I know it’s hard but you need to pray for his salvation because he is on his way to hell and he is taking many with him. However Jesus does on the cross and it was not in vain. He died to save the lost and although your husband is in a so called Christian environment it is corrupted by the enemy and his lies. I like to think of it as the enemy completely has him possessed. Learn about deliverance and about generational curses. Most likely his father or fathers father was involved in adultery. Once you start learning about this you will realize it is the devil that has come to steal kill and destroy. Trust me I understand and will be praying for you. Watch the movies War Room and Breakthrough. You need to change the way you pray! Forgive him and ask God to help be able to forgive him because we know that is a sin that penetrates deeply in our heart. But when you look through the eyes of God and see your husband His son is going to hell you will have compassion and be able to forgive and pray for him. Plead the blood of Jesus over him your kids your family your home. May God bless you!!!

  2. I found this sight just by searching my question. I am so confussed. 10 years ago I left a 20 year marriage because I was having an affair. We had alot of problems through our marriage being married at 18 years old. He has had an affair early in our marriage, we have had every problem you can think of. My heart hardened after years of living like this. He has been remarried for 9 years now. The guy I was having an affair with did not last, after that one bad relationship after another for me. I did not have God in my life. I knew of him and always thought there was a God, but never knew anything about his word. A little over 6 years ago I met the man I am with today. Since we have been together I have had stage 3 melanoma and a brain aneurysm that I had brain surgery for. With each situation it brought me closer to Jesus. It’s hard to put in words, but Jesus chased me down. His love has been so great. After my aneurysm surgery I really started getting into his word. Easter of 2018 I was truly saved, after that I went through spiritual warfare. I had been shown the truth of my past by the Holy Spirit and repented. That summer was so hard seeing myself, seeing the truth, crying and thinking I was going crazy because Satan kept saying things like “your sins are to great, God will never forgive you”. I fought him and listened to Gods word. I finally was released and knew I had been forgiven for all my sins. During this time Jesus put it on my heart to stop having fornication with my boyfriend, so I had talked to him and he always supports me and he agreed. My boyfriend has been here for me through my health problems, to being saved by Gods Grace through Jesus Christ. I got baptized this year in February. I love my God so very much and want to obey him. I owe him so much for saving my life. He is with me every day and I listen and pray everyday throughout my day. I truly want a life with God. I realize the severity now of my divorce and my other sins. I wasn’t aware how bad it really was. Me not knowing God back then. How could I have known, but i know now. If I could go back and change things I would with no doubt. If I had Jesus in my life back then and feel the way I feel for him today I could have never got divorced. Knowing what I know today. My boyfriend has asked me to marry him. I love this man and he has been with me through so much. I have had counceling from my church and they tell me remarrying will be okay with God. The bible is confusing on this topic and you hear both sides. I want to seek the kingdom of heaven. I want God to be pleased with me, but I also dont want to live this life alone. I dont want to hurt anymore people. I know this is a decision between me and God, but he’s being quiet about this. I wonder if my thinking this is Satan he is a thief, he wants to destroy my joy. I can’t reconcile with my ex husband because he is remarried. Any advise. Suggestions will be helpful. But please be sensitive. This is a real situation that I’m dealing with. I just want to put God first and try my best not to sin against him. God Bless

  3. A woman was legally married and over a year the marriage has been abandoned whereby the man left the house and has not since comeback to the woman or the marriage. The woman had not given birth but on the way,found a man and they had carnal knowledge of each other. Is that considered as an adultery too?

  4. I’m not so sure if God really judges people in this day and age on people who commits adultery. My wife left me for another man and pretty much ruined my entire life. It was the hardest thing I had to endure ever in my life. I had to deal with Betrayal, Rejections, Bitterness, Unforgiveness, Anger, you name is as I have experienced it all. Betrayal by far is the most painful experience of them all and its very brutal. I must say that my ex wife and I came together through adultery while she was yet married to another man. Naturally, it was the biggest regret of my entire life and I forever regret what I’ve done. But this would be her third adultery. She was able to be with this man and even had a child to him not too long ago. I know the bible says that God will judge the adulterous and fornicators but I just don’t believe that the judgments that He is speaking of applies to this life. Its been six years and God has not done anything to her. I also know men that are in my church that have gone through the same thing and some of them there wives did to them more than 20 years ago and still God never did anything to punish or chastise those people for what they’ve done. I just don’t understand it. Forgiving them for what they done has been a very unique challenge for me and its a constant battle to keep fighting it. But why doesn’t God honor his word when he said that he will judge the adulterers? Naturally, I don’t want them to go to hell so it would be better if He chastise them here on earth to give them a chance to repent and turn around. But as usual nothing happens. Because of my experiences and hear what others have said.. I just don’t believe God will do anything to the adulterers in this life. In the age of grace its basically you’ll die in your sins if you don’t repent.

    • The world is as the world is, God’s standards are clearly laid out in the Bible. People need to chastise themselves by those standards. We must be wise and able to trust ourselves to submit to truth. These things happen to us because we are in the world and not in the word. It’s a spiritual battle going on all around you everyday and there is Pray for for those that persecute you or do wrong to you. The woman you speak of obviously has many issues but none much different than those of the world. Jesus said my kingdom is no part of this world, yet we endulge in it and bring Jesus with us. Remember this Troy the lord has a personal interest in you but so does your adversary the devil. Ask yourself who do you let feed you more, who’s energy engulfs your spirit. I’m fighting the same fight but in a different situation. Pray for me as I pray for you that the lord will continue to be a focus in our lives and that we strive to see the people through his eyes love like he loves and understand like he understands. That he lead us toward him. That he bestow on us the ability to forgive like he forgives. May he humble us in that moment when it is needed. In the name of Jesus amen.

      • Troy, with all the respect, you can’t build a home from the ashes of another. You can’t build your happiness based on someone else’s sorrow. You know the Bible says that whatsoever a man soweth, that shall he also reap. You were an instrument of destruction in her previous marriage, so you can’t expect to be blessed by the Lord in that relationship, because in His eyes your marriage to her will always be adultery. He is very clear about it in the scriptures. I hope the Lord gives you wisdom and helps you to see the truth and heal your heart, finding Him as your source of happiness and fulfillment.

    • I agree!! I am starting to feel the same way! My husband left me, he is off traveling, doing fun things, eating at fancy restaurants, while I home taking care of kids. I want to see God’s vengeance upon him. I Am the one enduring all the pain and suffering, he is the one that sinned.

    • Troy, God loves your ex right along with you. It’s hard to stomach, but He is a God of Mercy before judgement and He will deal with her in His own time.
      My ex left me with 3 kids to raise to be with another woman. I was hurt for years over this. He only saw them a few hours a week and I’d cry as soon as they left. His life went on building a career. A lot of the times he’d drop the kids off with family members for the few hours he had them. This, of course, hurt my kids and left me in a fury. Adultery and extremely selfish.
      It took about 7 years for the tears to stop. For some reason I kept asking what could I have done to make him not leave. He and I were both difficult for the first few years and then I dedication my life to God. Having the relationship with God changed me for the better of course in many ways. Not my doing but God’s. In my head marriage meant marriage, no easy outs, but a union meant to work out everything. It finally hit me that I felt that way but my husband did not. We didn’t have the same thoughts and values to begin with. To leave me for his new exciting affair was one thing but to leave his kids? Then have so little to do with them. No he and I were not alike. After this observation I realize just how lost he was. My mom and dad were not religious and stayed together raising me. Their marriage was not fun at all but raise me they did. Then seeing how my ex really was I could pray for him effectively. That God heal his troubled soul. Once he tried to mend us but he could not stay loyal to any woman. Who wants that with all the diseases out there now and to partner up with me after sleeping with someone else…no.
      It took years of watching him neglect his kids, build his years as a police officer and partying away, but it caught up to him. In fact he admits to one son, who has kept the best but sick relationship with his dad, that he messed up terribly in his actions. My son was 3 when he left turning 40 last year.
      My ex has suffered many many things. Alcoholism, drug use and getting fired from the job he aspired to. All his children and that includes 2 more, hardly speak to him now. He’s in bad health and scared living in another state. My daughter is talking to him now but I have an ugly feeling she thinks it’s to her advantage. If so she will pay for that.
      A lot of time passed before I saw how depraved he was and time made it worse. I still pray for his salvation.

    • I hear you Troy. I hear you.
      Everything you say. All the pain and the pain never ends, and as far as looking to God to discipline or punish the adulterer, yes, I see everyone getting away with it so to speak. No punishment appears from on High, and that makes them keep on keeping on. I have a husband who has spent our whole 34 years of marriage in and out of adultery. He’s driven by Satan to do it. Then when comes to a place where he’s sorry, he buys me a new wedding ring, (I’ve been given 3 now). Then he builds his self up to look faithful again, only to commit adultery again. He loves to keep me, and would be crushed if he didn’t have me in fact he boasts about me as part of the building back up process, only to fall into adultery at any time he sees the opportunity present itself which just happens out of no where, he changes into a different man. I can’t explain from my end all I have suffered or all my pain I experience daily. We’ve had nine children together, in 34 years of marriage. I’ve never denied him my body or my love praises honor or good deeds of service for him. I have come to the place where I finally realized can not trust a word he says when he comes back to repentance again. Your ex will most likely run off with another one day..and another..mine runs off and wants me to watch and accept it. No discipline comes to him.
      I married till death do us part. I know he’s destroyed all the deep loving trust and honorable place he once held in my eyes. In a way I’m afraid of God punishing him because it will affect me too since I’ll have the duty of his wife in it, whatever would happen to him. We’re still raising our ninth child. He is 63 years old. I’m 7 1/2 years younger. Our daughter is 10. I can’t trust my husband, and the pain is unbearable and on top of all is the living in fear of what my husband is capable of doing next because even he can’t believe or trust his own heart.
      …come Lord Jesus. May God’s peace be with you and with me. Keep the faith brethren, Keep looking to God and believe His Love and His Word and keep loving Him in spite of it all. We have need to persevere in this world even if we are the only one. The pain can not take precedence over God’s love and Word for us. Amen

    • I agree with you for the most part. I committed this horrible sin years ago with a younger woman even though I knew how wrong it was. My wife and I were not doing so well but I did love her. I let the devil through this woman take me down totally. At the time I considered myself a Christian and always resisted this sin. This woman never gave it a thought about me being married even though I brought it up constantly. Of course my wife divorced me and later died. I take blame for her death. After 3 years this woman found God herself and ended the relationship. I know it was right to do. But what hurts me is I am closer to God than ever before but I am suffering the never ending consequences totally alone with everyone hating my guts. I lost my home wife family and every single thing you could imagine. But this woman is heavenly blessed in every way not lacking anything. She has more than ever before. I cannot even buy enough food to live on. God has forgiven me through Christ but He cannot seem to punish me enough for my mistakes. It just isn’t fair for that former whore to have all God’s blessings and all I do is pay the price. I wasn’t her first adulterous act either. I’m sorry that you have had to suffer so terribly and your ex is on top of the world.

  5. I will like to say I been married to this guy for 16yrs, but been in a relationship with him for 41yrs. He have cheated in this relationship for over the most of the time we have been together. He have 15 kids and only 5 of them are mine. I have forgiven him over and over for number of years and he has took enjoy my kindness for weakness, I pray all the time for our marriage because I want to do the right thing in the sight of the Lord toward my vows but it is getting very painful. Right to this day he is having a affair with womens in his church that he call himself a Pastor over. I continue to pray that God fill him with the Holy Spirit that would convicted him of his lifestyle and he would want to change for his own way of salvation. I need more strength though prayer with other to pray that he come to his rightfully mind that God is not Please with what he is doing and God is going to judge him for his wrong doing and he will not be able to enter in the kingdom of heaven. God my handle him in the same way he kick Satan and his angels out of heaven.

  6. My name is Rachel i am 21years now with two girls but when my second born was 4months i got to know that my husband has another woman who is also pregnant soon giving birth in Feb am there wondering what to do next but am praying that God shouldn’t bless them with that child let that be the punishment these two will receive from the Lord

    • Hi Rachel…yes this a terrible situation you find yourself in…But God and not you will be the final judge…God says pray for your enemies and in that you should find some comfort…Your husband sounds like he is lost and that is punishment enough…but you must remain obedient to Gods word and you will receive everlasting life and your children will be holy through you…that’s an awesome revelation…So you must find a way to turn away from sin also…Obedience to God is the only way…This life is short but God will make it joyful for you forever…Wow…

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