The Sin Of Adultery

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I know this next topic is going to be a very sensitive one for many in the Body of Christ. Not only are there many unbelievers who are engaging in this sin and transgression against God, but there are many Christians themselves who are violating and breaking this one specific commandment from the Lord.

With the sexual imagery that is now invading our lives from just about every media outlet, many people are battling serious problems with lust. And instead of getting their sexual needs properly met in their marriages, many people are looking outside the boundary lines of their marriages for sexual fulfillment.

As a result, you have many Christians who are out cheating behind their spouse’s back and are literally sinning and transgressing against God Almighty Himself.

I cannot even begin to count the number of Christians I have personally met throughout the course of my life who have regularly cheated on their spouses.

I have heard many of the men say that their lower half has no conscious, and if they find a pretty or willing woman, that there is no way they could ever say no or pass it up.

Others are not getting their sexual needs met or fulfilled within their marriages. Communication has shut down for different reasons, and as a result, their love life starts to get shut down right along with everything else.

As a result of not getting their sexual needs properly met, many of these men start to wander, and before they know it, they have fallen head first into a hot and torrid adulterous affair.

For those of you who really want to know what God the Father thinks about this particular sin, I will give you some very interesting verses from the Bible letting you know exactly what He thinks about this transgression and why it is so deadly in His eyes.

As with all of the rest of the commandments God has given to us through His Holy Word – these specific verses are being given to us for our own benefit and for our protection.

Many Christians I have met who are operating in this transgression on a regular and frequent basis have no real fear of the Lord or any respect for His specific commandments on this issue.

As you will see when I list out the specific verses on this topic, this is a very serious offense against the Lord, and many of His own will becoming in for some very severe judgments on this issue once they depart from this life and cross over into the Judgment Seat of Christ for their own personal judgment with the Lord for everything they have ever done or said in this life, whether it be good or whether it be bad.

Consider the following:

  • God has the sin of adultery listed as one of His special ten commandments – “Thou shall not commit adultery.”
  • God says that the sin of adultery will be one of the main sins that will keep you out of heaven. I will give you two verses below that will show you that adulterers will not be entering into the kingdom of heaven. Does this edict include Christians?Can a Christian possibly lose their salvation over this one sin by the way these verses are worded if his transgressions in this area have been deemed to be severe enough by the Lord?
  • The Bible says that God hates divorce, but that He will allow one spouse to leave the other within a marriage union if one of the spouses has been unfaithful to the other.
  • Back in the Old Testament, the sin of adultery warranted receiving the death penalty by way of stoning if one got caught in it.
  • Back in the Old Testament when God’s chosen people, the Jews, were abandoning Him and chasing after other gods – God the Father would call them “harlots and adulterers” because they would not stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him.When God calls you an “adulterer” straight to your face in your own personal relationship with Him, you are being called one of the worse things that He can possibly call you.

I personally believe that there is an “angle” on this particular sin that many Christians are not seeing or realizing. Not only are you hurting yourself, your marriage, your spouse, and your children with this deadly sin and transgression, but you are also seriously hurting and damaging your own personal relationship with the Lord Himself.

Here is the angle that many Christians who are regularly operating in this sin are not seeing:

If you cannot stay true, loyal, and faithful to your spouse, to your marriage, and to your children – then maybe God will wonder whether or not you could ever stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him for the rest of your eternal existence once you enter into heaven.

Satan and one third of the angels could not stay loyal and faithful to God for the long run, and look what happened to all of them – they all got cast out of heaven with no chance of ever being able to make it back in again.

The Jewish people back in the Old Testament could not stay true, loyal, and faithful to the Lord in all of His dealings with them, and again, look what happened to all of them as a nation and as a people near the end of the Old Testament.

God called them harlots and adulterers, pronounced judgment on them, and tells them that they will be dispersed to the four corners of the globe until the end of time where He would then bring them back to Israel and re-establish them as a nation.

I believe that marriage, and the vows and promises that go along with it, are taken very, very seriously by the Lord – and from there, He will personally watch you as to how you handle the sanctity of your marriage, how you treat your spouse and children, and if you will be tempted to stray and cheat behind your spouse’s back.

Too many people end up taking their marriages for granted after a certain period of time.

I believe marriage, and the close personal relationships that should develop between husband and wife, and between parents and their children should only be second to their own personal relationships with the Lord. It should be God, family, and friends – and in that order!

Family – with a beautiful wife or husband, and with one or more beautiful children, are the greatest blessings and treasure that God can bestow upon you in this earthly life next to Him, His Son Jesus, and His Holy Spirit.

And yet as great as this blessing and treasure really is, there are so many people who are willing to discard it, sever it, and cheat on it once they hit a few minor speed bumps in the marriage.

To those of you who are married and are either thinking about committing adultery behind your spouse’s back, or if you are already doing it – study the wording, the tone, and the straight forward messages that are coming out the verses I will list below. Study these verses very, very carefully.

Once you read these verses, you will have been properly warned by God Himself through His Word, and you will know, without any other possible interpretation, exactly what God the Father’s opinion really is on this issue.

Bottom line – if you are having any problems in your marriage, commit your life and your marriage back into God the Father’s hand, and ask Him to help heal, restore, and straighten out any thing that needs repairing.

Be guided by the Holy Spirit as to what steps you should be taking on your end to get the marriage back on solid ground with you, your spouse, and with God. Tackle your problems and issues head on, operating under God’s knowledge, guidance, and wisdom.

Jumping into any kind of an adulterous affair will only make matters worse, and eventually could lead to the complete destruction and dissolution of your marriage if your spouse ever finds out about it.

The pain you will cause your spouse and children will be extreme, traumatic, and possibly fatal and final if the transgression has been deemed to be severe enough by your spouse.

If God has completely severed His personal connection to Satan and one third of the angels due to their infidelity and rebellion against Him, and if He will allow a full marriage union to be completely broken, severed, and dissolved if one of the spouses becomes guilty of committing adultery – do not tempt the fate of your married life for a few moments of fleshly and carnal pleasure.

The gamble and the risk is simply not worth it – either for you, your spouse, or your children.

Now part 2 on the Sin of Adultery will show you very interesting verses from Scripture as what God really thinks about this specific sin and transgression and my conclusion.

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  1. Martha I understand I just prayed for u. Yes Paul we did what was wrong and we regret it so much, the pain of sin cuts deep, and only those who hav experienced it knows the terror and torment.Yes maybe we wanted to hurt the one who hurt us, we looked for comfort in the wrong places. Yes we should have taken our pain to God, but show us some love, show us some understanding,hold us in prayer, give us some encouraging words so that we will not fall into this type of horrible sin again. look at it this way, if we did not come to a realization that we were wrong do you think we would put our story out for u all to read?. In my case I realize I had an undignosed illness which made me do the things I – BIPOLAR DISORDER. Is it a generational curseor is it witch craft, I do not know, but I wish if I was normal. I PRAY THAT IT STOPS WITH ME.

  2. I didnt want to hurt anyone, the man i cheated with began as a friendship, i developed feelings for this man, it started when i had marital problems, my husband hit me, but i know i have to fight for my marriage, i know i love my husband, i love my son, but most of all i love God, i will give up all desires for the love of God…..if i didnt care i would simply have an affair and act freely upon my feelings for that man, i would not worry about fighting against such evil act, its a spiritual war within me, only God knows what i truly feel, & yes i know i could have walked away, but i didnt because unfortunately im a sinner, i was spiritualy weak, but also i could have continued and let go of all my feelings but i decided to fight against myself and stop…. i pray i dont fall again, im scared to do so, i dont want to lose my family, i dont want to lose my salvation. dont wish anybody such horrible situation.

  3. Martha
    Time to be honest here. Yes you did mean to hurt your husband. Maas soon as you pursued that relationship you were saying, “I want to do what I want and I
    Really don’t care who it hurts.” To say this type of thing a second time is just not true. You are clearly doing what you want to do and your love (love being an act of the will) is self deception. People that commit adultery almost always say that they didn’t want to hurt anyone. Th truth is that they don’t care. When you saw that person again and felt those feelings started you could have left then but you decided not to leave. You stayed and in your heart you knew exactly what was going to happen.

    • Paul what you are saying is not of a Christian sorry to say the reason I’m saying this is because God gives everyone deliverance & salvation in different ways not everyone Salvation is the same for you to say you cheated cause you wanted to you we’re not there you don’t know that in this world Satans world of sin demon need flesh to do the sin God in heaven is the only one that will know if she did it unconsiuaslly or subconscious or a demon did it to her or she was tempted you sounding like your perfect I have one thing to say of Christians like you don’t judge you are not perfect this is why your here in this world to for your sins I don’t know how long you been a Christian & don’t want to know but what k do know we are all pawns in this world for Satan and God wants his children back & repent of there sins when they commit it right away May god bless you

  4. to Manny- Take your thoughts captive as it says in Corinthians, the pain of sin is too great, please stop before it is too late. Please hold me in your prayers.

  5. To Rhonda – read the conclusion again and find hope there. I feel that I am suffering the consquencies of my sins, but I also believe in the forgivness of God. I compounded the misiries of my life by following bad advises, listening to actual people and being drawn by thses unknown ‘forces’ and circumstances to do things that were just not rational.My life was as if it was caught in a whirlwind of good and evil and evil triumphed. I have become ab social reject because I am forced to return to live with my exhusband, however there is no sexual contact between us, to make it worse my son is mentally ill. I am asking you all to pray for us.

  6. I am terrified to read about the consequences of adultery. I cheated on my wife with a pastor’s wife, both of our marriages were in trouble, I felt neglected in my marriage because my wife was focusing her whole attention on our two kids,and I don’t blame her for that… we never or hardly ever went out on dates alone since we don’t have relatives where we live, the communication was already broken, when I met this other girl, there was immediately a spark between us, very strong chemistry and she said pretty much everything I wanted to hear and so did I for her….needless to say, we fell in love with each other, my wife found out about my infidelity not too long ago, and because of God’s mercy…she has decided to stick around with me…and show me GOD’s love…I’m having a really difficult time dealing with this problem, I feel unworthy to go to the LORD, not only because of my sin but also because I’m still in love with that person…my wife does not deserve anything I did to her, she has been a great wife to me…I have two kids and she has three, at one point we comtemplated the idea of divorcing our spouses and getting married, but we are both aware that we are stepping out of GODS will, I don’t want to be responsible for destroying a pastoral ministry and destroying my youth group (since Im the youth leader) many times I have asked GOD “why I didn’t meet this girl when I was single” I know the answer is simple…because it was not HIS will..I’m at the bottom of the pit right now…I can’t stop thinking about this other girl, everything I do or see reminds me of her…I don’t want to end up divorcing my wife loosing her and my two children, I feel so ashamed of myself and I’m also heartbroken because I fell in love with her…my wife is devastated and I have been thinking about seeking professional help for us….I know I have to let the other girl go…It’s just so hard because of the way I feel for her…

    • You are confused about the nature of love. You are in love with a mirage. You have never had to face the issues of finances, in-laws, time constraints, health problems, or the like, with this other woman, as you have your wife. Face your own selfishness and truly repent.

  7. Michelle,
    The bible says the only way we are free to marry someone else is if our spouse passes away. What you are saying about God blessing us with someone else is not biblical at all. Please be careful with your choice of words because our souls are at stake. My husband has walked away but my prayers wont stop for Him because the Bible says pray without ceasing. So whether my husband is praying or not, I know God hears my prayers and honors my obedience for keeping my promise to Him and my husband. if he chooses not to obey God that is between him and God.As for fighting for the marriage, this battle is no longer ours but God’s and we must allow His will to be done & we cannot move until God says so. Yes when you say let go, I agree with that because you still have to live your life and allow God to handle the spouse. But I dont agree with letting go of the marriage. When you have God’s love in your heart you dont give up. Please Read 1 Corinthians 13 when you have time. No disrespect but we MUST obey God and not our emotions. Remember God hates divorce!

    • What happened? Was your marriage restored? Did you give up? Please let me know

  8. To Michelle:
    This is not about what we think, it’s about what God says & His will being done in our lives.

    To Jeff:
    I will keep you in my prayers. i want to encourage you to seek God daily for guidance through prayer and reading your Bible. I commend you for being man enough to admit your short comings. When we confess with a sincere heart this is when The Lord steps in to help us out of the mess we have created and back on the right track. May God bless you and give you a made up mind tp want to do what is pleasing to Him. Men have a big resposibilty and the only way to be able to uphold being responsible is with God leading you on the path He has chosen for you.

  9. I am convicted in the eyes of the Lord, and cannot forget that I have committed a sin against God and my wife. I am recently saved, but I cannot say that for I have a problem with my fleshly desires. The enemy tells me that I am casted out of heaven for the major events of sinful desires I had put onto myself. I am trying to get back up and continue my walk with God, but my transgressions keep me unfocused and out of place. I would like to confess of my sins, and declare that God is my saviour. I am broken and a wanderer. I am lost and can no longer declare my ways as a witness to the light that was once shown to me. I can not show others who are lost along with me for I would be a blind leading the blind. I just want to know that when I ask God to replace the old and give me the new that I am accepted forgiveness. I fight off temptations daily, but I have fallen into many. I ask the Lord for forgiveness today, January 6th, 2012, and help me to leave my old ways alone for they are no good to me and especially to God. If you, who are reading, please forgive me for I have sinned against Our Father. I am afraid, and I am lonely due to the entrance that I have given the enemy back into my life. I ask that you who are reading this, pray for my guidance back into the life God created me for. So that I may take up my cross, get my sight back and seek those who are lost. Thank you all for your time to hear my story. Amen

  10. I Think Cora spoke quite well on this subject, her advice was well said on obedience to God. However I think its pointless to hold on to a man that has moved on emotionally and physically in a marriage, and at some point a woman has to question her self worth & morals and let go and let God deal with a man who is capable of committing this horrific sin against his family. Unfortunately a man capable of these actions no longer loves God, his wife or his children and until he or she fully surrenders to God nothing will change for them. The best thing that any one affected by this can do is move on with their life in the Lord trusting in him completely, having all faith in him and allowing God to guide your steps. God won’t fail, God won’t never leave you nor forsake you, God won’t hurt you. Remember that greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world. To God be the Glory in your lives, Jesus has the victory and what satan meant for your harm God has for your good, all that we go thru is necessary for making of us to be the son’s and daughter’s God wants us to be.

  11. I Wrote on November 23,11 what had happen to me, then I was given this from a friend. This could’t be said more beautifully, This is written in the Hebrew Talmud a Jewish companion of the first five books to the Torah.
    It says: That God counts a women’s tear’s and men are to be warned to make sure that they do not cause their wives pain. (Baba Metzia 59)
    God Bless all of you and no matter what God will see us through this.

  12. This is a demonic attack on families, men and women who fall into this sin are weak in multiple ways, they are first and foremost spiritually weak, and they have given into their flesh and desires. As victims of this sin, it’s important to let go and let God have the spouse or mate who has allowed this level of betrayal. The most important thing that can be done is PRAY for a person who is dealing with this issue, most of the time their pride wont allow them to release the sin, it requires deliverance from the Lord. This sin erodes the ability to love which is why a person can continue to function in it. The person who participates in this sin only cares about themselves and the person they are involved with. It’s best to move on with life and ask God for strength and healing for yourself the person that has been betrayed. Also teach your children that this is wrong and that nothing about this sin is their fault, especially daughters when it comes to their fathers betrayal. Remember the enemy is attacking families and destroying marriages, its up to both the husband and wife to pray and fight for their family. One person praying and fighting is not enough. LET GO OF THE THE PERSON AND LET GOD HVE AND DEAL WITH THEM. Move on with your life and trust that God will Bless you with someone better that is faithful and loyal. When the enemy has a person they have to be willing to turn to God, you can pray all night and day, but the reality is it’s free will choice to choose God over sin. Christ is the ultimate gentlemen, he doesn’t force himself on any one.

    • How can God send them someone who is better faithful & loyal as you put it? You do know that marriage is for life right. Saying that god will send them someone else would be calling god a liar because it would be causing them to sin.

  13. To Cora:
    Amen! My heart goes out to you in themidst of your situation. I want to encourage you to continue to seek God until you recieve an answer from Him. God is ALL POWERFUL & if God wanted to move your husband out of your life for good, He would have already done it. Remember that we have to trust God even when it hurts and doesnt make sense. Our struggles will be a testimony for someone else if we persevere till the end & God will be the one to get the glory! I know that your daughters are tired of seeing you go through this, but this is God’s business. Dont stop praying for your Husband & dont allow this to keep you from working for God. I am without my husband as well and it gets hard sometime because our son is 3 years old. But it only pushes me closer to God.Stay faithful to God and your marriage. God honors our obedience. May God bless you sister.

  14. I believe it is truly all about repentance. To repent is to turn away from your sin – completely turn away. You also have to acknowledge that it is sin and that without Christ we don’t have the strength to do it.
    My husband has been involved with his former high school sweetheart/fiance for the past 5 years. We’ve been married for 45 years. She came back into his life 5 years ago and told him that she was so sorry for breaking up with him and has regretted it all her life – has always loved him and wanted him back. He fell for it. When I found out about it a few months later he repented and asked forgiveness. I forgave and we went to counseling and worked very hard on getting our marriage on track. 2 years later he fell into it again and for the last 2 years has been playing in this relationship. I found out about it last December and we’ve been on a roller coaster ever since. He is a spirit filled Christian who satan is trying to take down. He has been a strong prayer warrier and has held board positions in church. Now although he goes to church he wants no part of being active. He refuses to let go of this woman (supposedly no sex – just ‘friendship’). He says he no longer loves me – and his feelings for her are too strong to let go of. For the past year he has told me over and over that they were finished only to have me find out that it was all lies and they never stopped. The lies are amazing – and I just keep believing him because I want our marriage back so badly. The 2 years we were in counseling were the best years of our marriage. We did everything together – he became my best friend.
    Now I am just asking God for wisdom. Am I enabling my husband in his relationship with her by staying with him? My daughters say I am. They are so disgusted with him.
    I read all the comments here and feel badly for all of us involved in this horror. Thank you Cheryl for your comment – that really sums it all up. Yes of course God forgives – but until you are ready to accept that forgiveness and turn from your ways you will never find peace. My husband has no peace and knows he never will until he gets this woman out of his life. I love him and been committed to stay and pray for/with him until that happens. I’m not sure if I can continue to do that – it will only be by God’s grace, if it is His will.

    • Pray the hedge of thornes… it is hosea 2: 5-7 over your husband.

    • I would say leave him and let him get a taste of what this other person is like. He is likely in a fog and confused but once he moves on with this person he will realize that you are the person he should be with. Especially if this woman is unsaved. Obviously he loves you otherwise he wouldn’t have married you in the first place. My husband did the same thing and after I threatened to let him go and after counseling and all that he realized that he was making a mistake.

  15. Let us not forget that this is a spiritual warfare we are in. Satan is against the Word of God and anyone connected to God, satatn wants to destroy. No matter what you are going through or what your situation looks like, obedience to the Word of God is the final answer. Seek The Lord for His truth. This way you are 100% sure you are not operating in your feelings and emotions. Please remember that God forgives us time and time again for our sins and He still loves us the unconditionally. I am not saying it is ok to keep on sinning because its not. But it is not our place to hold a grudge against anyone. We must give it to God and let Him fix it. When you are engulfed in your situations and circumstances, this is a distraction from satan to keep you from doing God’s work. It will cause you to be ineffective in your witness to others. So please use wisdom and be careful. If you are commiting adultery please hear me when I say this: When you are really ready to stop doing so you will stop. With God’s help we can do anything. Please stop giving satan so much credit in your life. Stay in your Word and in through God’s Word you will overcome. True relationship with God changes everything! Seek God instead of your emotions and you will find Him. Seek Him with all you heart. God bless you all!

  16. To Bob C, I cheated on my husband once, while we were having major problems and i right away told him. He forgave me and i promised him and God i wouldn’t do it again. Our relationship became stronger. Well he has been out of the country for 3 months and i did it once again after 1 year with the same man, we aren’t having any problems this time other than distance. I love my husband with all of my heart. I never wanted to hurt him. I had never been with any one else other than my husband and the man i cheated with. i don’t know that i should tell my husband again, i don’t think he will forgive me a second time, but i know i don’t want to do it again. i removed contact with the other man again. i told him i love my husband, my son, and i didn’t want to lose my salvation. I am very honest about my repentance. I hope your wife is as well. I promise you infidelity is not something i enjoy or have fun with. i believe its a weakness that only the devil enjoys. He always wants to destroy what God has made. Of course it is our choice, i take full responsibility. My husband and i worked through our marriage and remained strong only because we turned to God, but i slipped when he left. I didn’t continue to fight the battle against the devil and stepped a little away from God. He immediately took advantage of it and look at what i did, i know i could have stopped but i didn’t. I think the only way you and your wife will work it out is if you both truly give your life to God. But be careful, don’t give your life momentarily, by only weeks months, or even a years. Do it 100% every day of your life, for the rest of your life. Give it all up and fallow him, he will guide you and he will talk to you. Help your wife find God. It will be hard, the devil will attack, he is evil and is only doing everything to kill, rob, and destroy. But he is damned, and already lost the war, he is only trying to take our souls with him. Whether or not you return with your wife, don’t let the devil take her soul or yours. Fight and withstand it all for there will be battles that only God will help you overcome. I pray everyday that he helps me to never again fall. My husband does’t know i did it again, but i know i stopped for the love of my husband, son, and GOD.

    God Bless You All

  17. I have found a lot of my questions on this subject answered in this article. The one that I have pondered on the most is adulty in the marriage blashpemy againest the Holy Ghost? I find your explination in line with the word of GOD and I can agree with you. Have faith in GOD my fellow christians ask GODS forgiveness and he will lead you in the way of peace and heaven.JESUS knows what it feels like to be betrayed and his love is eternal for us. I ask daily for forgiveness just because I Love GOD, I believe it is part of my worship of him and I thank him for it constantly in my heart.

  18. Ok, I am struggling with all this.. Good write up with the clear understanding that adultery is sin. On the flip side there an way out of this sin. Just “ Repent and ask for forgiveness” and as you read above, you go out and do it again. But hold on, Just repent and ask for forgiveness. Not to be a pill, but I am lost on what to do…

    Currently my wife has fallen to the adultery, not once but many times. I read and see that God approves divorce. On the other hand, while the innocent party may have grounds for divorce, God’s preference is forgiveness and reconciliation. “My vote is forgiveness and reconciliation”, one thing I have no dought about is the wife he provided me. My wife and I are now currently separated and it only been about 40 days.. She contacted me today and now on the trend to come back. Now I lost on how to accept her back. (in a heartbeat not a problem).. I know it is domed to happen again if we don’t get God in our life to follow. I don’t know how to lead her down the correct path. (will the path I believe in).. Worst part I can’t see or hear God wisdom and I keep asking. Don’t know if I blind to hear it or I just don’t understand. I going to pass this web page to her. But as I read, one hand say .. bad and stay away, the other hand says OK, just repent and Its all ok..
    FYI – The wright up is outstanding. Thanks

  19. First I would like to say this information has truly been a blessing to me. I would like to share a part of my life & pray that me being true will help others in their struggles. In my life I have been married twice. When I got married the first time I went through mental and physical abuse during this time I was not saved and all I knew is that someone else could love me better than the man I married. I knew it was wrong to cheat but i didnt know how wrong. I met a man that I thought was going to love me for life and I ended up divorcing my 1st husband for him. This man almost destroyed my life and I eventually wised up and left him. A few years later I met the man I am married to now and through him I was drawn to Jesus Christ and have been walking with Christ every since. I also discover the love I was looking for in a man will never be like Christ love for me. The Lord used my current husband to save me from hell and suddenly it was like our roles were reversed. I was serving God with all my heart and my current husband started having an affair while i was pregnant. I forgave him andthought things would get better but things got worse. My husband has walked out of our marriage every year of the five years we have been married. He is gone now and I believe there is another woman again and has been each time he has left. I know what the bible says about unfaithfulness in marriage but it also says this is not how it was in the beginning and God hates divorce. I dont have the desire to retaliate because vengence is not mine but God’s.I pray for my husband everyday and that is all I can do for him. I know that he has to be the one to want to change. This has tore my family apart. Him and his daughter live with his parents and my and our 3 year old son live in the apartment. This really hurts because he has chosen to live a separate life and this is not a very good example for our son. At this time all I have is God and He has kept me through these trying times. I want to encourage all to love God first and He will teach you how to love yourself.

  20. I am scared, sorry, i feel like the worst woman in this world, i married my husband at a very young age, i was 17, we had a kid at at 16. Along our young marriage we encountered many problems and i cheated. The very same moment i cheated i ran away to find my husband to tell him what i had done, my husband couldnt beleive what i did. He forgave by the Grace of God. I repented and even babtized in the waters and changed. I felt forgiven, however i held feelings for the man i committed adultery with, exactly one year later my husband left to get his citizenship, i was doing so good until i decided to randomly find out how the man i cheated with was doing, it was the worst mistake i ever made! I ended up awakening those old feelings and once again i cheated, i feel disgusted of myself, i feel damned, and i am so frightened, i dont want to do this ever again! I love God, my Husband, and my son, i want to keep my family, but i feel like a hipocryt, how do i tell my husban i cheated with the same person again? He forgave me once, i doubt he will do it again…. i asked God for forgiveness, but will he forgive me after falling for the same sin AGAIN! I just want God to forgive me, i removed all contact with that man again, if he ever tries to talk to me again i dont want to ever respond, i just want to leave this life of sin, and do what it takes for God to forgive me, for the 2nd time, is there any hope? Am i still going to be punished, i am so hurt, my heart, mind, soul, and concious feel so dirty, i dont ever wanna fall again, i want to be forgiven, will God forgive me again? I am so scared, ive been talking to God, ive promised i wont do it again, im trying to remedy what i did by fasting and leaving and changing anything that will keep me away y from his forgiveness, am i headed the right direction? i just wanna do what is right in the eyes of God, will he forgive me again?

  21. Bradley can you please tell me which article will help me? I am recently divorced and the guilt and confusion are very bad as a christian! We got divorced since we should have never got married 15 years ago.We only stayed together for 15 years because off the kids. There is no love or any kind off relationship between us for many years. We have tried to save the marriage but it never worked, it just got worst.We were not believers in the Lord when we got married, I only recently started locking for the Lord. But can you please explain how God will react, what I need to do and if I still have hope to go to heaven? What is allowed after divorce and my life in the future?

    Thank You very much!!

  22. My husband has left me twice this year for a women, he was driving truck with his old partner he was fired. He told me she was gay!!!! then I found out that was a lie and he left to be with her, he told me that she lets me be me, after 18 yrs am total devastated this is not the first time and I should of known but I trusted him, this is how dumb I’m I would fine her underwear in his cloths and wash them I asked him and he was such a good lair he would say oh they just got mixed up I feel so very stupid. So now I will be on my own and I know it will be only God’s grace that will get me thur this mess.

    • I am sorry Elizabeth. You are a good Lady, and You were so good to Your Husband
      also No Person should be treated like that.

  23. To you Dear brother in Christ that has been with 3 women in the last 6 months I want to assure you that you have not lost your salvation from committing adultery. You must understand that Christ died for every sin “EVERY SIN”. The only sin that can not be forgiven is “Blasphemy OF THE HOLY SPIRIT” Matt. 12:22-32 Blashemy of the holy spirit means to give up your salvation to cast of the holy spirit that dwells in you. Repentance is the key for forgiveness of Sin. You have stepped into a Attack that will seem as if it will surly take your life. I can speak with direct knowledge on this subject as I to had an affair that lead to the women my mistress becoming pregnant and now having my child. My Dear Friend you are not divorced yet possibly you must confess your sin to God understand the filth of the sin you have committed and GOD will forgive you. If your are divorced or will be divorced you still have forgiveness and you will not loose your salvation…. REPENT The Greek Word to repent means to BURN YOUR HOUSE DOWN & EVERYTHING IN THE HOUSE.Totally turn your life around do not go back into you house “House being your Sin” Remember Lots WIFE in Sodom & Gomorrah she turned to look back upon that sinfully city… Romans 8:38 nothing can separate the love of Christ. The Women at the Well John 4 1:42 Christ after speaking this women about having 5 husbands and being with a man currently that was not her husband ( 5 marriages and having an affair) he offers her forgiveness. Also she being a reject of a person (In the Worlds EYES) lead and inti group of people to Christ.NO you cannot loose your Salvation over your Sin you will however pay consequences for your actions. Despise not the chastising of the Lord whom he correcth he lovet.Proverbs 3:11. Left unrepeated, unconfessed you will not prosper and your life will be held in the state of your sin. Great things can come from rejects and repented sinners, looks at Davids life. David had affairs, Lied, Murdered…. A man after Gods on heart

    • Matthew, what about non-repentant sinners? OSAS is a lie, and is tearing HIS church apart.

  24. I knew about adultery, but reading these versus has scared me to death. I am a Christian, married to a non-christian and have experienced some strong issues in my marriage because of it. I committed adultery but have repented and asked for forgiveness and will NOT be doing it again. I do not have any children just a husband. Reading these passages that have been posted suggest that there is no hope for an adulterer. You commit adultery and that is it, you are doomed to an eternity in hell. What about God’s love, forgiveness and mercy?

    • I believe God knows what’s in your heart and he gave his only son Jesus Christ to die for our sins. Jesus does forgive like we should. There is not one person in the world that does not sin in one way or another. God Bless and prayers to you my friend.

    • Jehovah is willing to forgive a repentant heart. He lo Kid at the heart. He is love.

  25. Can a man be forgiven of Audltery? How can I find my way back to Christ and God? I am lost and it has taken some time to get to this point. We have been separated and all, but I still broke my convient with my wife and God. And to make matters worse, I did it with three women in the last 6 months. My wife and I we separated while living in the same house and while I moved off to Texas. I have done the one thing that will surely end my marriage for good even though my wife says she may want to work out hte marriage, but she does not know yet that it was with three different people, basically one night stands. I have been back slidden for serval years but I knew better. Now, I have lost my salvation and my marriage. I understand that i can not remarry and that is ok, but can I regain salvation and if so how?

    I am so empty and now I can definitely understand what God and Jesus means about adultery being a sin against ones body and I will never be the same, and will never be an honorable or respectibale man and father again, and I fear I can never regain my salvation and have hit an all time low. I truly never thought I could have done this type of thing, but I have and it was multible times and i fully am aware that I now must pay the price here on earth and apparently eve nwith my salvation.

    If you can give me some guidence (I fully understand that I am unworthy and that I should have asked before I did anything, but unfortunately I never consulted anyone and my wife warned me and I failed to listen) on if it is possible to regain salvation and if a marriage can ever be restored in God’s eyes and made honaorabe in God’s eyes after I commited such a sin and action against my wife, my body, and my God? Please give me the truth, even if there is no hope.

    Thanks,

    Gary

    • As long as you are alive. There is hope. Cry out to the Lord and repent. If you truly mean it
      He will forgive you. I don’t know what is going to happen with your marriage but it doesn’t hurt to pray about it.

    • Gary,
      Remember in the Bible where the desiple asks Jesus’s how many times should he forgive his brother, and Jesus says 70×7 ( I believe that was the number) just as Jesus expects us to forgive so he forgives.

    • According to the Tora, which was the original writings, there must be 3-Forgivnesses. The First from GOD, secondly the Adulter and lastly from the husband/wife that had the sin commited against them. One or maybe even the third may oblige…good luck to you?

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