A Powerful Word For Those Who Have Lost Loved Ones

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For what it is worth, I thought I would pass this incredible testimony onto the rest of you. Awhile back ago on TBN, they had a middle-aged couple on one of their talk shows that were really anointed.

They had their own church and ministry, but I cannot recall where it was at. But part of their testimony was on the death of their young daughter.

Here they were, serving God full time with their church and ministry, and their daughter ends up dying at a fairly young age. I came in on the story right as they were talking about it. I did not catch the age of the daughter or what the cause of her death was.

The wife had really been wrestling with God. How could You take her away from us so early in her life, how could You allow this to happen, why didn’t You heal her, why didn’t You protect her?

Both the wife and husband were really having a hard time in getting over her early death with the Lord. They could not understand or get a direct answer from God as to why He allowed their daughter to be brought home at such a young age and rob the both of them the joy of seeing their daughter grow up.

After all of this wrestling with the Lord for quite sometime, the wife said she then received a direct word from the Holy Spirit that immediately set her free from her mental captivity. And boy did I get a whopper witness off this Word!

I will give you exactly what the Word was and an additional revelation that God gave the both of them on the death of their young daughter.

For those of you who have lost close, loved ones in your past – grab a hold of this direct Word from the Lord. This Word from the Lord has been used by this couple to set many other people free from the depression and anger they have slipped into as a result of not being able to deal with the death of a close loved one.

The wife said she was in the kitchen when she heard the Holy Spirit speak directly to her.

The words were: “Your daughter is no longer in the past – she is now in the future.”

Think about these words!

The wife said as soon as she heard these words – she immediately knew what God was trying to tell her and it immediately set both her and her husband completely free of the mental torment they were still going through with the death of their daughter.

God was telling them that their daughter was no longer in their past. She had died and she was now in heaven with God and Jesus!

God was telling them that they now had to move on with their lives, to let the past go, including the death of their daughter, and to continue to press forward into the divine call that He had placed on both of their lives.

Their daughter is now in their future!

When they both die, they will both cross over into heaven and be immediately reunited with their daughter once again.

God was telling them to change the “angle” with which they were looking at their daughter’s death from.

Instead of seeing her as being “dead in the past” – start seeing her as being “fully alive in heaven” – and understand that you will be reunited with her once again in a very short period of time.

Our time on this earth is not even a blink of an eye compared to the eternal time frame that is operating in heaven.

1.  You have to step back and look at the big picture. We are all going to die and cross over – no exceptions!

Some just go sooner than others. When you die is irrelevant.

What you do with the time that you have down here is what really matters.

It’s quality – not quantity!

When you really grasp the meaning of the words that the Holy Spirit spoke to her – you understand that they should actually be rejoicing.

Their daughter is now in the most perfect place imaginable and they are both guaranteed to be reunited with her once they die and cross over.

They should be keeping the picture of their daughter in front of them – in their own personal futures – which will also be heaven for the both of them when they die and cross over.

God was also telling them that if they did not quit wallowing in their past, they would eventually die in their past, and they would no longer be able to move forward for Him because they would end up staying stuck in their past.

Too many people are bound up with things that have happened to them in their past. They cannot let go of some of the bad things that may have occurred in their past.

As a result, their past slowly starts to eat away at them until they get to a point where they no longer have any joy or zest for living.

They then start slipping into depressions and then lose all of their desire to even want to live anymore.

2.  Shortly after receiving this direct revelation from the Lord and being set free, they came across a woman who had also lost her son.

Her son had died about a year ago and the woman had slipped into a severe depression. She had literally boarded up her house, closed all the drapes and curtains, and would no longer even go outside.

She had completely shut down due to the pain and heartache she was going through at losing her son at what apparently was also a fairly young age.

This couple had given their testimony on the above revelation to a church this woman had been attending. The testimony was taped and one of the church members then slipped the tape to this woman who had boarded herself up in her house.

The woman took the tape into her bedroom. She listened to it over and over again all night along, literally until the sun broke at dawn.

When the sun broke at dawn, she later testified that she knew God was speaking to her through this couple’s testimony on this tape. She said the message and revelation from this couple that was on this tape set her free from the mental captivity that she had placed herself under as a result of not being able to see the truth of her son’s death.

The Bible says that the truth will set you free and this is a perfect example of this biblical truth coming into full operation!

Once she heard the revelation given by the Holy Spirit to this couple – she knew she had been looking at her son’s death from the wrong angle.

Her son is now in heaven and she should be looking forward to being reunited with him in heaven once she crosses over – not dwelling on his death, which was now in her past.

Once she fully grasped what God was trying to tell her, and it apparently took all night for this revelation to really sink into her mind, she was finally set free and was able to start fully living again.

This couple said that these specific words spoken to them by the Holy Spirit has helped many other people deal with the death of their close loved ones.

Bible Verses For Death of Loved Ones

1. Here are 3 good verses from Scripture that will back up the words spoken to this couple by the Holy Spirit.

  • But Jesus said to him, “No one, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.” (Luke 9:62)
  • “… but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead. I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14)

Look at the words in this second verse: “forgetting those things which are behind” and “reaching forward for those things which are ahead.” This verse perfectly lines up with what the Holy Spirit was trying to tell this couple – to let the death of their daughter go, which was now in their past, and to look forward, to press forward for the things which are now ahead of them in their futures.

And one of the things ahead for this couple in their futures will be their own physical deaths and their own crossing over into heaven and being reunited with their daughter, where they will never be separated from her ever again!

2. This next verse talks about plowing forward in hope.

“… he who plows should plow in hope, and he who threshes in hope should be a partaker of his hope.” (1 Corinthians 9:10)

This verse is telling us that each one of us should continue to plow for God with whatever time we still have left down here on this earth – with the understanding that we will eventually be reunited with all of our saved loved ones who have gone home before us.

And not only should we continue to plow forward with this hope in mind, but we should also be a partaker of that hope. In other words, really believe that when you die, you will be reunited with all of your saved loved ones, and this time it will be for good – for all of eternity!

Heaven is going to be the final and ultimate reward for all Christians. The Bible tells us that we cannot even begin to imagine all of the good things that God will have in store for all of those who will be entering into His dwelling place. But one thing we do know for sure – we will all be given the two greatest rewards any human can ever hope to receive once we cross over to the other side.

  • We will forever be united with God the Father and His Son Jesus Christ and we will be able to have direct contact and fellowship with the both of Them for the rest of all of eternity.
  • And then to top it all off – we will forever be reunited with all of our saved loved ones who have made it into heaven, and we will once more be able to enjoy the friendships that we had established with each one of them while living down here on this earth.

Now that’s an incredible one-two punch that can’t be beat. And to top it all off, there will be mansions and who knows what else from God the Father.

For all those of you who have lost very close loved ones, you have to step back and see the real big picture – the real ending to the story.

So many people have lost the rest of their earthly lives because they could never get over the death of a close loved one.

And the reason they could not get over their deaths is due to the fact that they were looking at their deaths from the wrong “angle.”

The Holy Spirit gave this couple what I feel is a very powerful and liberating Word on this subject. He gave them a Word that was pure, solid, God-truth. And once you receive a direct truth from God the Father – it will set you free if you are willing to accept it and then work with it.

The other thing that happened with this couple is that before they received this direct Word from the Lord, they found themselves taking their daughter’s pictures and photos out of a lot of their family portraits because it was too painful for them to see her and to be reminded of her death.

After receiving the above Word from the Lord, they were then told to put all of her pictures back in with the rest of the family pictures.

He told them that she was not dead – that she was fully alive in heaven – and that they should all be rejoicing because their time would come when they would all be reunited with her once again.

They were told not to try and put her out of their memory. They were to keep intact all of her photos and all of their memories of her.

They were all to look forward to the future when they would once again be reunited with her in heaven.

When this couple received all of the above from God the Father through the Holy Spirit, they were then all set free from the mental captivity they had placed themselves under, and they were then able to pick themselves back up and get back into fully living in their present again.

The other revelation that the wife received from God the Father was on the question as to why – why did God allow her daughter to be taken home so early?

God basically told her there will be times when He will not tell you why He allows something specific to happen in your life, like the early death and departure of a close loved one.

Sometimes it may be better that you not know why God brings someone home so early. Maybe that person was going to have something really bad happen to them somewhere down the road and God wanted to spare them the pain of having to go through it – so He arranges to have them brought home early.

There could be many different reasons as to why God may have brought this person home early, and maybe with half of those reasons you are better off not knowing.

She finally came to the conclusion that if it was God’s will that she not know why He had brought her daughter home so early – that she would simply have to trust God that He did have a good enough reason to bring her home early and to let it go at that!

The Bible says that we can only “know in part.” We will never get all of the answers to all of life’s problems and dilemmas. God will answer many of our questions if He is properly approached.

The Bible says to “ask, and you will receive.”

But when God does decide not to answer a specific question you may have, then you have to accept the fact that He has a good enough reason not to give you His answer, trust that He knows what He is doing and what is best for the situation at hand – and then move on with the rest of your life.

If you don’t, you will run the risk of getting stuck in the misery of your past. And if you do not pull up out of the misery of your past, then you will never fully accomplish whatever God’s perfect plan and destiny would have been for your life.

Conclusion

For those of you who have had a very difficult time in accepting the death of a close loved one, really chew on the above Word given to this couple by the Holy Spirit.

For those of you who may know someone who is really having a hard time handling the death of a close loved one like a child, a spouse, a parent, or a best friend, give them a copy of this article and/or sit down with them and give them the above Word from the Spirit of God.

Share the above testimony with them on this couple and the other woman who had lost her son.

Pray that God will move in on them with illumination and insight so they can fully grasp and understand that even though the death of a close loved one is a very painful experience, that their loved one’s death is now a new beginning for them.

Their close loved one is now in the most perfect place imaginable and they will be reunited with them once again in just a very short period of time. This life on this earth is just for a very brief moment in the eternal scheme of things – but the life to come, where they are at now, will be forever.

Remember what the Holy Spirit Himself has spoken – your loved one is no longer “dead in your past” – your loved one is now “fully alive in your future” – which is heaven.

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  1. Hey everyone I have been reading this post because I have been going through suffering and confusion and thoughts concerning the life/soul of a sibling that I lost a month ago in a car accident… I and everyone I know in my family can truly say that he was a good kid had a great smile had a good personality and a great heart. And I don’t say that just to make me feel good about myself but I truly know the heart that he had . I am a worshiper in church and I am in church every week and I do it because I love the Lord and I know that he has called me and save me through his grace and love. I love what i do for God. My sibling was only 18 years old. Thankfully he was not into drugs and did not have an evil heart, he always had a great heart. I know he didn’t go to church I am pretty sure though that he had a understanding of who Jesus was. I travel a lot, on ministry/worship trips
    And I had told him that on the next trip I want him to come with me and my goal and purpose through that was that he could know Jesus better and in a more intimate relationship with Jesus. He said” lets do it” he never rejected the thought/plan. But unfortunately and very painfully that did not come to pass because he passed away in this car accident. I really refuse to believe that God would leave me here suffering and wondering if my brother is in his presence and that we will meet again knowing what I had planned for my sibling in the future to know Jesus . I know that the God I serve and love is a God of love mercy and grace, and have believed that the same mercy and grace and love that i have over me, extended(as if i were a portal) over the life and spirit of my brother.

    I would appreciate any feedback and spirit guided words about this because i have been battling with this a lot., i just miss him and love him so much, i just want that guarantee of seeing him again when its my time!

  2. I lost my son over two years ago. He was 31. I have cried every day since his death.q the stress is causing me health problems. I understand what this article says. But it is so hard. I don’t want to cry it just happens. What can I do?

    • I too lost my son in 2015, he was 29, He left behind 3 beautiful children. He was shot by a stranger while trying to get a gun away from his younger brother who was a heroin addict. One month before this happened I took my mother in because my sister was going to put her in a home. Also, my grandchildrens mother pretty much lost it so me and my daughters were taking care of my 3 grandbabies and my mother. My twin girls worked while I took care of everything else. Eventually, their mother did better but not one of her family help her except us. Her own mother moved in with her with her other son, living off my son’s money for his kids. In November 2018, my mother broke her hip and one of my twins had to stop working to help me take care of her. She was now bed ridden and it was aweful. She died in March. We had also taken in my sister who got a divorce and had her granddaughter to take care of. She moved out when mom died because we no longer had enough money to take care of her and her granddaughter. Now that everyone is gone except me and my girls, things are finally surfacing. The man that murdered my son was released on self defense laws. It has been aweful…..I too cry every night. I go no where and hide away from friends and the world. I am pretty sure I will see my son again as he was Baptized at a young age and was a good person, but the guilt I carry with me is what I struggle with. The choses I made in my life that may have change the outcome. Yes I miss him, he was always the one to tell me everything is going to be alright. Even though my younges son has been clean and sober for over 2 years now, it still bothers me that if it weren’t for his addiction, Cameron would never have been there that day and would still be alive. I am seeking counseling for the 1st time since he died in 2015. Maybe it will help …I hope so. I am a different person …I am not that funloving…life always turns out…god is always wat ching over me kind of person anymore. I hope to see that person again some day…So hang in there, I understand the tears….I am luckier than most that I have 3 small pieces of him with me. May God give you comfort,

      • And the worst guilt is when we were waiting to find out if my sons were ok..I never once prayed to god. I just thought because I always believed that this kind of thing could never happen to me…that they would be ok. I never pray and asked
        god to save my sons.

  3. Three years ago, my mother passed away and the pain is still very much alive, but I started to accept and not be so angry at God for it. Then, this Easter we get word that my uncle who i’ve always been close with passed away. This is my grandmothers last child to pass away. We have been in a whirlwind and have been questioning/angry at God as to why he takes our loved ones. This weekend we will be having my uncles service and i’m so glad i found this article. Thank you for helping shed some light into losing our loved ones.

  4. My son Travis just became a father. He was shot and murdered being robbed and left his 2 week old son and wife behind. this was in 2012. Noah, his son, is now almost 7 and has never really known his father, but he says he “recognises” him. Like he has seen him before. I know there are not answers that we in our human sense can understand why God took them home, But, I see miracles in my grandson every day by the light of His love.

  5. Dear Bridgette, I am so sorry for your loss. I also am beside myself with grief. I have to pray myself out of bed. My 21 year old son died instantly in a car accident on Jan 31st, 2019. I have cried everyday since. I know my son is in heaven. I saw something I didn’t understand but I know my son is in heaven. My phone is silent. I am in despair. But i know that God is a good God. I hope that you feel his comfort. Cynthia

  6. My 43 yr old husband died 20 days ago in motorcycle wreck, he most likely had a heart attack while driving. . He died 10/30/18 which is 3 yrs to the day that he had a almost fatal heart attack in 2015. I am trying to look at the 3 yrs i got as a gift from god and not question his will, but i am in such physical and mental pain i cant. My husband was not perfect he had several issues such as drinking to much alcohol even after god gave him a second chance at life with me and the kids he continued to battle the demons of addiction even though he knew it was killing him … but i know for sure he was a firm believer in the Lord and his son Jesus Christ. I worry because he didn’t do any better with his demons during his second chance , he did pray about it…. is he in Heaven?? he had a heart of gold and loved everyone . The only comfort i get is from reading bible verses , i think he is there but i don’t dream of him or anything . I need to find peace with god for me and my kids .

    • If your husband accepted Christ as his Savior he is saved. Believers battle demons all the time. Battling demons is not a sin. Jesus battled Demons. The mere fact that he was “In battle” with demons means he was saved by Christ. If he wasn’t saved he wouldn’t have been “in battle” with the demons. He would have accepted the demons if he wasn’t saved.

      • Thank you Jim for your reply I too lost my daughter and she was in a similar situation and I worried and what you said makes sense…She was a christian but had demons attacking her everyday in her living situation. She passed away Oct 21, 2018 of a sudden heartache. I am still working my way through trying to understand why. She was trying to overcome alcohol. She loved the Lord. Your words have comforted me. Thank you Connie

    • Praying for you sweetheart. I just wanted to give you my testimony.
      I lost my Mom going on 14 years next month in March on the 9th.
      My Mother and I did not get along my whole life. Honestly, she wasn’t a very good Mother to me at all. She used to tell me that she wished I had either died at birth, or she wished she had had an abortion with me. I was the only daughter out of five of us girls that I felt like she absolutely hated. I had stopped speaking to my Mother for three years because she used me for over $6,600.00 and refused to pay me back that money, causing my sons and I to go without. I was taking my family to a town where we used to live where my Mother still lived, for my oldest son’s doctors appointment. As I was getting closer to my old home town, I heard a Man’s voice tell me to go see my Mother. I thought it had been my husband at the time saying something to me. He said he hadn’t said anything. I heard the same voice and the same message three times. The Third time I heard it, I knew it was the Lord. I went to see my Mother, and after spending three days with my Mom, the Lord told me she was going to die the next morning.

      I tried to tell her three times, but it came out in a different language that neither she nor my husband could understand. God has told me that it was for me to know only, not my Mother or any one else in that household that night. He was preparing me for what was to come.

      The very next morning, my Mother died as she walked into the hospital to pick up my dad, as he was slowly dying himself, and the hospital was sending him home. My mother had collapsed on the floor and 10 minutes later, she was in the Arms of Jesus.

      Those three days that I had with my mother were a wonderful gift to me from God because those three days were the best three days of my entire life with my Mom.
      I was given a glimpse of what was to come for her and I in Heaven as a relationship.

      I Thank God for giving me those three days. It’s been almost 14 years, and it still feels like yesterday and I still dream about her, But I am SO thankful to Christ Jesus that I got those very special days that were meant for just her and I. <3

      The pain is still there and it always will be until I too, am in Heaven, and I still miss her more then anything, but I am SO thankful I got to spend those last three days with my Mom. They were most definitely A Very Special Gift to me.

      May the Lord continue to comfort you and may He give you peace, comfort and understanding that only He can give.

      • What an amazing testimony to the love of the Father. Thank you for sharing this.

    • Yes yet if someone dies and you know they were not saved then sorry they r not in heaven. That it why it is so important for Believers to spread the gospel and pray that others come to Christ too, get saved. Yet we r not to wallow and stay in disappointment if they never do in t end because either they’re Saved and go to Heaven or not saved and the wrath of God remains upon them and they will live in everlasting Hell like Bible says….Also there r real demons that torment and hinder here right now on Earth. Problems, addictions, quirky ways, strange habits,bad behaviour, Sins and iniquities are not demons and should not be called demons, yet these things including sicknesses CAN be promoted, incited, egged on, exacerbated, and even caused by demons [Possession, Oppression, Suppression, Depression] note tho that Christian Born again and filled w Holy Spirit cannot b Possessed but can go thru last 3 til JESUS sets them free casting them out{breaking their attachment}

    • Amy, your husband believed, yes I truly believe he is in heaven with his Savior… John 3:16. And you will be reunited with him upon Jesus’ return.
      Believers are forever His, God says so and it is true.
      God never says anywhere in His Word that any of us will never struggle with sin when we believe in Him. Quite the opposite, as the devil wants us to doubt our salvation when we sin, which could lead us to stop trusting in Our Father God and the grace through His Only Son Jesus.
      It is NOT by any works (trying to be good enough) that we have salvation, it is through grace alone by our faith which is given to us by God himself. It is through our faith that causes us to desire to please God, but on this earth there is no such thing as being without sin. I must add that God’s grace is not a “free ride” to sin purposely, as sin is what separates us from God. Jesus paid the price for our sins. As believers we should acknowledge our known sins and ask forgiveness, He is faithful & just and does forgive!
      Blessings and may His peace and truth rest in your heart.

  7. I’m confused!! In the bible the book of Revelation says no one is in heaven or hell!! The bible says when God comes back that will be judgement day!! Everyone will go before him and be judged. It’s then that God will decide your fate!! Either you go to heaven or you go to hell!!
    When a loved one dies people always say Heaven gained another angel!! While it makes you feel better, if that’s possible, it’s not true!! Keep up!!

    • People that are Believers in Christ Jesus ARE in fact IN Heaven. There is Scripture that Proves it many many times. If you do NOT believe that Believers are in Heaven right now, then you are calling Christ Jesus a Liar.

      To be absent from the Body IS to be present with the Lord.
      2 Corinthians 5:8

      Also, there is NO such thing as “soul sleep” if that is what you are leaning towards.

  8. John
    I am helped by the revelation from the Holy Spirit to the hurting mother on the loss of her loved daughter.It’s exactly 1 year and 2 week since 34 year old son went to be with the Lord.Also 20 years ago I Iost my daughter at 21.. The pain has been overwhelming.I keep telling God that I can’t manage a lone.Without His help my life would just collapse.Many occasions excruciating pain wakes me up in the middle of the night.I plead with the Lord to hold my to help me stand and I get some peace enough to catch a sleep.I also ask God for a assistance that I may not blame Him.The loss of a loved one is a painful deep wound that Yehova God soothes and binds.He assures us that His is close the brokenhearted and heals the hurting spirit.May He give us the strength to wait up on Him.

  9. I lost my son in a drowning on June. 1. 2018 he was trying to rescue another teen in a flooded river. All day long the holy spirit impressed pain me that something was wrong, I had a heavy feeling that day that something bad was about to happen. I have back problems so I was on pain meds. I don’t understand why I didn’t seek the Lord’s presence on what was going on. I believe if he did my son maybe would not have died or I would have been instructed him not to go or would have had peace about it. He had just turned 18 on may 11 of this year. I can’t forgive myself for not seeking the Lord that day. Basically I didn’t listen to the holy spirit when he was speaking and my son died because I didn’t. It’s torment now.

    • Hi Michael,

      That’s Satan the Accuser. Don’t listen to that voice in your head! We all live with guilt and regret. Allow Jesus to heal your heart to help you keep moving on. I felt the same pull as you did – I think that’s just our human instinct, that when we really love someone, our connection is so powerful that we can sense things. I knew my boyfriend died before hearing the news.

      Ephesians – armor of God. Really visualize what each part means and that you’re wearing it to protect yourself from attacks. During my grief, I was under attack too. My pastor taught me this. I hope it helps!

    • Michael,
      My Son whose name was also Michael, died 10 yrs ago at age 22 in a motor cycle accident. My family plays the same type things over in their minds that they could have somehow prevented that tragedy, or they were somehow responsible for his fate. I on the other hand feel as thought the Lord sent me clear understanding that the Lord was always in charge and that Michael’s ultimate fate had nothing to do with any of us.

      The first point I would like to make is that as heavy as that loss was on your heart that day, and as as surprised as you were by it, God was not surprised. Only the Lord determines our days here on earth so I had to learn to trust that the Lord had a greater plan for both my son, and for me and my suffering.

      Here is what the Lord showed me to help me understand that he was fully in control and Michael’s death was not an accident. My sons death was determined within a split second of time. He was on a motorcycle when a car ran a red light in front of him. He has less than a second to respond. He T-boned the rear passenger door of a PT cruiser. Later I became aware there was a passenger in the front seat of that vehicle. The Lord highlighted for me how many different outcomes could have happened within that split second. My son could have missed that vehicle completely, he could have hit the passenger door in the front seat and that boy may have lost his life that day also. My son may have sustained injuries that were not life threatening. But none of those things happened. What did happen was that my son sustained injuries that cost him his life, and the passenger walked without a scratch. Just like the situation with your son, The Lord was in control and nothing would have changed his outcome on the tragic day.

      My struggle like yours is more about my failure to keep my son safe, and the lack of understanding as to why God allowed my son to die that day. I know you understand the finality of the loss you just suffered. Sadly, a loss of that level is traumatic and it will take a long time to grieve it, accept it, and it will likely take the rest of your life to heal from it. You will never stop loving or missing your child and that is okay. You will however learn to live your life again slowly. There is no other pain like the loss of a child, but there is also no greater love than the love of Christ as he carrys you through this season.

      The Lord continues to carry me and strengthen me as I continue to mourn my Son. I may not grieve as I did when I first lost him, but I do continue to grieve unexpectedly.
      What I have gained as a true blessing is a faith in the Lord that continues to change my heart and complete me.
      Their is no timeline on your grief so just go one day at a time. The Lord continues to reveal things to me to help me better understand his Love for me and I as m confident he will fo the same for you. Keep your eyes open and ask the Lord for clarity and understanding. The lord will not waste your suffering and he will work it together for your good. I dont expect to ever fully understand why God chose to bring my son home that fateful day, but I do trust that when I go home, my Son will be there, and God will reveal to me all he has done through that tragic loss. Until then, I will continue to trust the Lord to strengthen me when I am weak, comfort me when I am sad, and grow me closer to him through the rest of this journey.

      I am so sorry for your loss. It takes a lot more energy then we often have strength to give to endure such loss. Do the best you can to channel your energy into the Lord and he will heal your heart and bring you peace.

  10. My brother in law was victim of a homicide thirteen months later my nephew became a victim I am trying to keep my faith I keep questioning god why why why? What is left what can someone say to my sister and her family that we haven’t already said I am so lost right I don’t understand

  11. I was looking for a prayer online through words of the Bible because I just found out a very closed friend of mine has been taken to hospice. I came across this article, coincidence? I don’t think so. This was meant for me to read today. Thank you Lord for helping me find it and giving me comfort. To read what I know and just have it confirmed was a blessing for me.

  12. I lost my son on May 16, 2018. He was only 21 years old. I am devastated beyond repair and feel like I will never be able to move on. God has blessed me with such a loving and gentle soul and the best relationship a mother and son could have. Then in a flash he left this earth. I read the article and feel that could true for my beautiful son, he is my future. I long to see him again and do not understand why he left so early in his life. I have been told to “rest in God’s decision”. I struggle with that but hope to find a sign that he is in living surrounded by light and love. I feel him around me sometimes, it is peaceful, then I become overwhelmed again with saddness. I pray I can become stronger in faith and ensure that i am able to see him again someday.

    • I am so sorry. I lost my 55 year old husband on May 28th of this year. I needed to hear these words as well. Some days are still very hard but my hope is in Jesus. Prayers for you.

      • I lost my husband of 35 years on May 26, 2018. I feel so lost and lonely.

        • The second year that Iodt my wonderful husband and soul mate is coming up on Oct.13, 2018. I am having a very difficult time this year I think last year I was still in a zombie state so it wasn’t as bad. My faith I believe is what has gotten me through to this point. But I keep feeling so very lonely that I may not ever be with my Joe again and that would make me physically sick…For some reason today when I seemed to be at my lowest I came upon this article!!
          Praise the Lord….,thank you. God is good He is with us..through it all.

      • I lost my husband June this year. I look forward to that reunion in Heaven with him one day. Yes, its still very hard without him here by my side, but knowing hes now healed and suffers no more is of great comfort!

    • Hello KS,

      I am so very sorry. I will be praying for you, I promise I lost my son July 3, 2016. He was only 27 years old. Hid birthday is Feb 23, a day after mine. I am working through my journey of grief. It is not easy but you will get stronger day by day, It may appear that you are stuck and can’t move forward but you can you will. Let do it for our boys. They will be so proud of us. Love you

  13. The first story about the couple that lost a girl reminded me of myself. When my son died I was unconscionable. I was in a terrible depressed state. I ended up having a nervous break down. I wanted to kill myself. I believed that I would never feel better because my son will still be gone. Anyway, after the nervous break down I didnt feel much better, every day I was depressed, but I found a religious meeting that helped me a lot. Then I found a good church, and slowly I was able to feel better. Then I got on the right anti-depressants, and I felt the best. For 40 years I asked God for a sign, and I can’t say he didnt give me any because he did, but I wanted to know if I was going to heaven. Well it is a long story but I will try to make it short. A friend on his death bed asked God to help him believe and he got up and walked.The hospital took a film of him, and people were asking for his autograph.Then he started getting messages from God and everything checked out. He told me things I didn’t know was in the bible, read my mind, I mean it was bazaar.Anyway he said God said I was going to heaven if I didn’t kill myself or do something really bad and not ask forgiveness. I have been walking in the twilight zone ever since, and I will believe it until the day I die and be grateful to God and Jesus.

    • What about mental illness and sucide, Can God understand: he knew not what he was doing at that time of death? Can God forgive a loved one who had brain tumors and brain injury, mental illness and depression, on the wrong pills for sleep all contributed to his untimely death. I am so worried about his soul and love him still. Please help me God I am not getting over this trauma.
      Thanks so much

      • My brother in law committed suicide and I can tell you for a fact god does understand god does forgive , we know my brother in law is in heaven, we seen an amazing medium that confirmed it, I am so sorry for you loss I want you to know he is in heaven! He is with the lord waiting for you. Ask him to feel he is there , he will come to you.

        I just lost my brother , my mother lost her son, he is only 37, we are trying very hard through god to understand and my brother has been a strong spirit , I call out and he answers. God Bless! (((Hugs)))

        • Thank you Sheri,

          I am still suffering and cry daily for him and pray for his wisdom. I am without
          a job and losing everything without him.
          But I still love him as a 4th wife with 0 income on the verge of homelessness

          Thank you,
          Ann

    • Believe that Jesus died for you on the cross. Repent of your sins and live for Him. That’s how you will know you’re going to Heaven.

      • AMEN! John 17:3 John 17:3 New International Version (NIV)
        3 Now this is eternal life: that they know you, the only true God, and Jesus Christ, whom you have sent.

        Romans 10:9 New English Translation (NET Bible)
        9 because if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved.

  14. I lost my mom 5 months ago I was very close to her she was the one who showed me to love Jesus with all my heart she was a big Worrier she was a great mother my mentor she was my encourager etc I wanted to die I was getting depress sadnesswas eating me alive I was constantly crying I asked the Lord to take me home so I prayed and ask Him to speak to me and to set me free so I got my answer and my healing the testimony of the couple you spoke about and the scripture you gave on Luke 9:62 God spoke to me I was crying and I felt my chain’s broken in Jesus name Im very happy my joy has been restored Praise God thank you very much God bless you

  15. These comments, for the most part, are very encouraging when dealing with the loss of a loved one who was a believer. What about dealing with the loss of a loved one who didn’t know Christ? I am a strong believer and my focus is not on the past or wrapped up in false guilt about “doing more” to share Christ when they were alive. I shared and they didn’t respond, I know each person needs to make that decision personally, but I have trouble finding any comfort about their deaths because I know, short of something miraculous that may have happened in this person’s heart just before their death, I will not see them in heaven. I would appreciate any specific verses someone could share in this regard. Thanks.

    • Dan, this is exactly how I feel about my son. He passed on 6/21/18 and he was Agnostic. I’m so afraid of how he is, where he is, if I’ll see him again. I think about it all the time. He had some pretty dark interests and that scares me so much. I raised him to believe in God and Jesus. But when they get s certain age, they just go their own way sometimes.

    • Dan
      I have the same struggle and I believe it will haunt me till the day I die. Here are some verses I try to find hope in so I am not distracted from my Love for Jesus.
      Roman’s chapter 10 is about salvation. So how clear is it? We certainly have clarity about what we are supposed to do to be saved. We get tripped up when we try to understand the heart of someone else.

      Romans 10:9-11
      “because, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. For with the heart one believes and is justified, and with the mouth one confesses and is saved. For the Scripture says, “Everyone who believes in him will not be put to shame.”

      Two points here for salvation:
      1) Everyone who believes,(with the heart one believes and is justified.)
      2) If you confess with your mouth (one confesses)

      My understanding of salvation is that it is a free gift from God. Believe it in your heart, confess it with your mouth and you are saved.

      When we believe in our hearts, the holy spirit begins the work of exposing our sin and changing our hearts. This is a process after salvation.

      Luke shows us that we can be saved in the last hour.
      Luke 23:42-43
      “And he said, “Jesus, remember me when you come into your kingdom”. And he said to him, “Truly, I say to you, today you will be with me in Paradise.”
      We are asked to have faith in the unseen. This man saw evidence of Jesus in his lifetime, repents on the cross and Jesus promises to see him in paradise. That suggests that belief and genuine repentance is enough.

      The bible further states the God wants to save all.
      Matthew 18:12-14
      “What do you think? If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them has gone astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine on the mountains and go in search of the one that went astray? And if he finds it, truly, I say to you, he rejoices over it more than over the ninety-nine that never went astray. So it is not the will of my Father who is in heaven that one of these little ones should perish.”
      Here we are told God want to save all. So the question then becomes, if we were meant to be saved, would the God allow us to die before we were saved.
      2 Peter 3:9
      “The Lord is not slow to fulfill his promise as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing that any should perish, but that all should reach repentance.”

      These verses suggest to me that belief comes before repentance. So my question is, does that mean belief is enough for God to ensure you reach repentance before you die? (Even if it is your final hour that brings you to full repentance. The bible talks about the good fruit and bad fruit that we produce in the flesh. But how can fruit, good or bad be produced from a person who repents in that final hour. Can they have good fruit because they believed before they confessed. If so can we assume they knew the lord, believed in the Lord, confessed on their hearts without confessing with their mouths. Could they have confessed with their mouths through righteous behavior, but lacked understanding of the need to testify because they did not read their bible or go to church? I dont have these answers, but I find hope that the lack of testimony might not mean lack of belief.

      Matthew 13:16-17
      “But blessed are your eyes, for they see, and your ears, for they hear. For truly, I say to you, many prophets and righteous people longed to see what you see, and did not see it, and to hear what you hear, and did not hear it.”
      These verses are about why Jesus spoke in parables. These last verses suggest understanding only comes from God. It also indicates God determines what wisdom we are to understand. Understanding and wisdom are revealed by God. We are only judged on the sin that we were given wisdom to understand. If we did not have understanding of the sin we will not be held accountable to the sin.

      So clearly the bible and our understanding of if comes from the spirit. The spirit sees the heart, we see the surface. My hope is in Gods promise. I lost my son. I did not raise him in a church. I did encourage him to seek the Lord through prayer and to believe in the Lord. His heart showed love, compassion, etc. I want to and need to believe that the Lord would not have allowed my son to die if he had not been saved. I study my bible and I am not clear on that answer. A preacher will not travel into grey area like that because they are called to show us how the Lord wants us to act. They are called to help teach, the spirit is called to reveal the teaching to us. I dont believe we are to be caught up in the salvation status of others and I do believe we need to focus on our own santification first.

      Good luck with your journey for these answers. The truth is we wont have them until we go home. We are powerless at the salvation of others. We can tell them truth, live the example, but at best we can only have faith that the Lord is just and when that time comes we will have understanding.

  16. I just loss my husband of 21 years of marriage 3 weeks ago and buried my Mom 2 years ago and lost my Son in the army 8 years ago I am trying once again for a new normal as when I lost my son I did not want to live I had my best friend my husband beside me and now he is gone he was only 50 years old and had a massive heart attack at are home in front of me. I try so had to be strong and tough but I sometimes question god how much more can I take ? I am looking so forward to seeing my family again

    • I am going through something similar and it’s seems so unbearable. How are you holding up? I lost my significant other of 3.5 years 3 weeks ago and most days I feel like it’s so unbearable that I just wanna go be with him…. we were closer than close and besties as well… birthdays are 3 days apart and were in love not just at the beginning but our honeymoon phase lasted the entire 3.5 years… everyday is so painful. I wanna learn how to help myself… you seem like a strong lady. This is my first time posting public about my loss but your story gave me strength to respond to your post. I hope u will respond back. Maybe we can help one another…

      • This is so very sad, I want to cry just reading this. I hope you feel stronger everyday, I can’t even imagine. Praying for you

  17. my mom is currently in palliative as i write this. its definitely hard. i am middle aged now n losing a role model parent means i no longer am a kid but need to assume the role of an adult. it is not easier when some of us are more emotionally built rather than practical. my mom still worries about me n luckily since last yr i have finally committed to being a full on Christian. i know she is in pain n suffering… so i must be the adult now and step up to say farewell to her instead…n hold on not to her hand but her memories…but yet not live in the past but in the future…. anticipating meeting her again. the sad part is that we do not assume the same roles as we did in this world. i do sincerely miss her. its toughest to come home to see her absence.

  18. I understand that when your love one dies either unexpected or straged, and those that are missing and What about the families find no closure. I truly understand God message of were are love ones go regardless. But why is it that some get the message and others do not. I am talking about the holy spirit talking to the women

  19. I am a 69 year old father of two men whom I cherish beyond words. My eldest whom I’ll call by his first name only. Sean is his name. Sean struggled with addictions but the last six months I noticed the difference in him, that of Peace and Tranqulity. Sean suffered immensely from losing his two daughters as the result of his addictions. He lived with us for several months before his passing. Approximately a month prior to his leaving us I asked him if he believed in a higher power. His answer brought me instant hope. He gave me a look I have never noticed before and he said, “yes I do”. I knew immediately he had recovered. Then on December 9, 2011 I was on my early walk when my called and said I needed to come home now. I knew immediately what had happened. The next morning I knelt by his bedside and clutched onto my son’s Bible and my Book of Mormon and prayed with tears streaming down my face and I asked our Father in Heaven if Sean was happy and safe. Then three days after his departure as I stood in my living room and sense something pass through my body. It gave me chills up through my head, my hairs stood literally on end. I sensed that is was my son. On December 19, 2011 exactly ten days after he left I witnessed something miraculous. At 1:10 a.m., something woke me up. Two orbs the size of silver dollars appeared out of nowhere. The top one was bluish grey in color and the one about an inch lower was yellowish gold. Immediately after they became absolutely still a Light so Bright I couldn’t look into it as I looked away and at the ceiling. I noticed it started to dim and it was than I turned my head and looked into the light once again. As I did an outline started left to right and it was a perfect outline of my son’s face and I was stunned by pure happiness and instantly gave me Peace in my Heart. The orbs blipped out and the Brilliant Light trailed down towards my son’s urn and disappeared. I have shared my experience whenever I felt the need of anyone who would listen to my testimony.

  20. My son was stillborn. When I found out I was pregnant they told me that it was a molar pregnancy and he would not live. It turned out to not be a molar pregnancy and he was “happy and healthy”. Another test showed that he had a high NT scan signifying a chromosome issue. The blood test came back negative. The amniocentesis came back negative and I was told he was okay. The next ultrasound they checked for the fluid build up around the neck (the NT) and it was worse than before. The doctor gave my son 3 weeks to live. He died December 24th, 2017 and was born December 27th, 2017. He had half the time the doctor permitted. God took my child away from me. Let me believe that my baby was healthy in my womb only to let him die

  21. Hello, my name is Angela and I lost my son July 11th 2017, he was born July 4th 1981, he was 35. He went to sleep on my couch and never woke up.Danny was my 1st born and only son and 1year 3months and 14 days my heart still hurts every day. For the 1st 4 months every day I I would wake up mad that I woke up. I no longer wake up mad. I wake up now knowing that everyday I’m 1 more day closer to seeing my son again. I now live to live again. I will say that my life has 4ever changed. I trust God with all my heart, I will never understand God’s why, but He is God and my hope is in Him. I can’t wait to see my son but until then I will live until I no longer have too. Keep me in your prayers as I keep you all In mine.

    • I understand what you are going through. I lost my 29-yr old son and my 59-yr old husband in 2.5 years. I have hope I will see them again….I am not 100% sure they were saved. They were baptised, they prayed, my son wore his cross but is that enough? These comments help because you know your not the only one going through this tragic life. I pray everyday….I just wish I could hear someone respond to me. Some people hear God speaking to them …I want that too!

      • Dear Dar,
        Before responding, l prayed for you & asked God to only have me to share what He would have me to share with you.
        Several years ago my husband & I went to my uncle’s funeral..I have a cousin who I hadn’t seen in years. She was so broken up…not only because she hadn’t seen her dad since she was little, but because she had been praying for his salvation & had not had the opportunity to share the gospel of Jesus Christ with him. As I heard her story,..with tears building up in my eyes,…I hugged her & looked her straight in her eyes & told her your prayers were not in vain…my husband & I had visited him @ the
        hospital before he had passed,..we shared the gospel with him..he had repented & with tears in his eyes,he had asked for forgiveness & asked Jesus Christ into his heart. As I had shared this with my cousin,..it was like a faucet had been turned in her eyes & a stream of tears had been released…we laughed,..we cried…it was confirmation & peace of mind to her that had been lifted from her shoulders.
        I too lost my daughter who was 23yrs young. She was in the military & was saved.
        As a believer of Jesus Christ, more than anything you want to know that your loved ones will be in glory.
        The Bible says that God will not give you more than you can handle..l believe that to be true. Also..2 Cor. 1:3-4….Paul refers to the God of all comfort…no matter how hard some trials can be, we can always trust that our God is faithful & will see us through.
        I hope & pray this was helpful & comforting to you.

      • Dan,
        The only “comfort” I find concerning the death of unbelievers is not really comforting at all while living here on earth, but the comfort comes in God’s promise that when Jesus returns and we are with him there will NEVER be sorrow or pain again. We will not be aware of any “unbelievers” demise. However while still here, we are called to trust and hope in Him. We MUST be in His Word daily, lest we forget.
        Also, ONLY God knows the hearts of those who have passed, so there could still be hope 🙂
        Blessings, love, and peace to you.

    • thank you Angela..your testimony gives me hope,I lost my son in October 2014,some days are better than others however I believe in God’s word that I shall see my son again in heaven I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.Romans 8:18.

      I will keep you in my prayers.. keep me in yours
      Aman

  22. These words were very comforting. As most of my family has passed on. It hurts when we lose our christian loved ones. But we are comforted, knowing they are with Jesus. This is the blessed hope Jesus give us, having beat death on the cross.
    Unfortunately, those who decided not to believe or apply His teachings to there lives. Don’t have this hope. Once we pass on the choice has been made. The only confort here, is knowing it’s not to late for yourself. That the choice was thiers alone. We all have that choice.
    Children are gifts from God. They are with God.
    We all have this choice…..John 3:16

  23. having been through a tragedy in losing my partner, bestfriend, my tempest, my challenger, I feel somewhat cheated of a beautiful life I thought we had. Not knowing that he was suffering and him hiding the fact that he was sick, the aggressive cancer took over within a matter of 5 weeks. what hurts the most is I am strong in faith and I though he was too, but to push me aside and his step kids and grandkids really did the damage. he called his ex-partner back into his life after we had 3 and a half years together, but he still loved me and told me that I will always have his heart, I don’t understand that. I prayed so hard for God to save his life so that he can be a living testimony of his recovery however he was not willing to fight the cancer and gave up so easily. I knew there and then he had no faith, I have been through my ups and downs or the last 3 months as he died 12/4/2017. How cruel for his family not to let me know that he died, to tell me not to go up to the hospital and also to deny me the chance to say good bye, to be ridiculed in front of a community by his family, this is where my heart hurts, I know that my questions will never be answered. I have forgiven and have drawn away from toxic people but my faith in God has not faltered. Reading your testimony leaves me somewhat settled as I still feel him around me, I will never forget all the wonderful times we shared, because I know that God crossed our path for a reason and that was God needed Ali to feel what it was like to have the love of a family, I pray so much for all of you that are going through what I am. When people tell me to move on my response? Tell me how you do that when the one you love so much that it has broken you, you cannot see, touch or kiss, then I will move on.

    • My fiancé and best friend died on me while in Oklahoma at his moms house, he had a heart attack . I wasn’t there I feel so guilty I could have prayed more , He was a free spirit and He and I were not keeping God in our lives , infact He had to go to His moms house because we had a fight and my brother in-law came over to our house and fought with Him and then pressed charges on my Jamy , when my poor Jamy only got sucker punched and had more injuries then him , my Jamy was 53 years old I am 36 and my brother in-law was 38 . It was not fair I feel so guilty because I told him to leave because it was too much drama having cops at my parents house and we would still be together but I didn’t want him going to jail he would have been locked up because he owed a lot of money for tickets leading to an open warrant….I can only say that we were meant for each other, He was my best friend…My protector, but we had our arguments..he was used to being the one person in my life but when I turned my life around and we went back to my hometown, He gave up everything for me and moved with me while I was changing my life by facing up to a year in prison for my first ever case of drug possession and while I know I’m telling all …it’s because we gave up the low life life and left drugs behind and we’re picking up the pieces. He was the only man I know that ever truly love me , He was not a church going man but He was saved I just know I heard that being saved is not enough…you have to walk in the ways ..I’m afraid he died in sin and this is what is absolutely killing me inside, I don’t want the man I’m still in love with to be in a place suffering for eternity. I wasn’t his wife but I wonder if I was doing the right things and drawing near to God would he spare my lost love ? I don’t want to be separated from him , I miss him soooo much it’s killing me , I feel so much pain I didn’t even get to kiss him goodbye I barely hugged him because my brother in-law was having the cops come get him , I had to pack his stuff up and watch his car drive away not knowing that was the last time I’d see him alive again, I pray all the time he would be given mercy , I am not judging him but I’m only human I’m gonna worry , he was and is the only man I will ever love . I just want to spend eternity with him and Jesus Christ along with my family. Don’t we all ? I am still stuck in this heartbreak and heartache. I don’t want anyone I know and love to suffer in hell . I pray that we are all clean when Christ returns.
      I’m sorry for blabbering on so long, Jamys death is haunting me….because I wish I could’ve been a better woman to him… I should have insisted he stay with me and we just let him go to jail , I don’t think I’ll ever be okay not knowing what he’s doing right now and where is he doing it. He was such a good man , he just had a child like nature … he was a big kid who could fix anything, he did everything for everyone , working and taking care of me while I was locked up and looking after my mom and dad while I was locked up taking her to and from work because she developed double vision and could no longer drive . He was loyal , never cheated infact he always wanted to be around me he was so romantic, often surprising me with Lil gifts every day, he cleaned up the house did a multitude of things to help take the burden off my family, I was finally able to truly experience love . I don’t want anything or anyone else because he was it . ….l can’t see anyone else in that way, because they’ll never get on his pedal stool it belongs to him my soulmate. I am drawing near to God always but I just wanted to share this with someone. I know I will love him till the day I die. So I’m asking for Jamys salvation if I earn a prize I want it to be him. I know I’m not alone in this pain I thank you all for sharing your stories it does help Father please be with those we loved and lost

  24. This is a lovely story. I’m not sure if it’s true or just a wishful thought that came into the Christian woman’s mind subconsciously. I thought I was a Christian,but my faith has been tested twice in 7 years and now I’m not so sure.
    Seven years ago my youngest son had a high above knee amputation due to a neurofibroma tumour. He nearly died three times. In hospital five months. Came out looking well, and got on with life. In February this year he had an ATV accident while on holiday abroad, he’d ridden these machines before, but this time he ended up with multiple internal injuries from which he did not recover. He could have been fixed if it hadn’t been for a tumour in his pelvis that the drs could not stop bleeding. So much for praying, fasting and believing. God let my son die. He does have favourites. I go to church sometimes, but can no longer sing the praise words as I am full of confusion, hate, anger towards this Being that I believed existed. I feel cheated, conned, and do not sleep well. Is it all psychology to give people hope. My son always believed. But the bible does not say we go straight to heaven, we sleep the sleep of death and only arise when Jesus comes back? I don’t know what to believe anymore.

    • The Bible says that when Jesus was on the cross and the thief repented Jesus said to him “Today you will be with me in paradise” This is proof to me that you do not sleep when you die if you are a Christian, you go straight to be with Jesus.

    • I agree with you Eva I’m confused and don’t know what to believe like you. This has been a devastating year for me. I do believe in God and i will continue to pray but I will never be the same, after the loss of my mother yesterday. She was all I had in this world. After all of my pets are gone, I would like to die in peace, and I don’t want to ever come back again. This life has been extremely stressful, painful and disappointing from beginning to end.

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