Testimony – God Restores a Broken Marriage
ne of the more frequent type of emails we have received over the years since we have been online is from married couples, where one of the spouses has left the other one for another partner. The one spouse who has been left behind then starts praying to God to bring their spouse back home.
The pain adultery causes in a marriage relationship is extreme and traumatic, as a broken heart is one of the worst kinds of pain you can go through. For those of you who have been on the receiving end of adultery, you know exactly what I am talking about. You feel like your whole world has been shattered and that you will never be able to trust your spouse again, even though you are asking God to bring your mate back to you as you cannot stand the pain of that broken heart.
For those of you who are still praying to the Lord for the restoration of your marriage, below is a powerful testimony we have just received from a woman by the name of Crystal. Crystal had what she thought was the perfect marriage when all of a sudden her husband tells her one day he wants out of the marriage, as he had been having an affair with a woman online.
As you will see when reviewing her testimony below, Crystal was determined she was not going to lose her good marriage over something like this, so she stormed the throne of God asking Him to move to bring her husband back. Here is her word-for-word testimony, and then I will point out a few key things she did to get God to move on this extreme situation.
My name is Crystal and I’m here to let you know that with man it may seem impossible……but with Almighty God…..NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE…
I made a promise to God and to myself that WHEN he restored my marriage, I would testify and tell the world….I would share EVERY single detail no matter how shameful and embarrassing it would be, in the hope and knowledge that I would someday be able to bring some kind of hope for a hurting wife or husband who would’ve been going through what I once was.
I’ll try to be as brief as possible but I really don’t want to leave any detail out….no matter how small, because it may be the very thing God wants to use to inspire and encourage a stander or prodigal spouse.
I don’t want to apportion blame too much here but suffice it to say we had some in-law issues which contributed greatly to our demise….but that is another story and I want to concentrate on how God showed up and showed off in the mist of my situation. Today is March 16th 2011…. My husband of 1 year and 5 months left me on November 30th, 2010… .BUT…. all thanks and all praise be to Almighty God, he is now back home and we are rebuilding a marriage that from all counts and to the naked eye in the natural realm was dead.
As far as I could see we were the perfect couple……went out together…….stayed home together……laughed, joked……..we were like two peas in a pod……of course we had our regular marital problems….no marriage is perfect……..in addition to the above we also….. argued and sometimes told each other some harsh words…….LIKE EVERY OTHER COUPLE……it isn’t right but it happens…..
In spite of all this , I believed he loved me just as much as I loved him……you could imagine my surprise and heart break when one day after a short disagreement……and I mean short….lasting no more that a few minutes…..my beloved husband packed his clothes and walked out of my life…….
All this happened on Nov 30th 2010…..I held off from calling him because I was still upset and I figured I didn’t do him any harm…..he was the one that stepped out in our marriage and on our marriage…..ours wasn’t a physical stepping as in outside sex….it was an on-going 5 month relationship on the internet, with someone he had been previously involved with.
The days went by and he didn’t call so on December 5th 2010….I called him…..he refused to take my calls so I texted him only to be told that he wasn’t interested in me and I should go on with my life….that I should never call or text him again……..that was like a dagger through my heart……I felt as though someone had literally ran a knife straight through my stomach and was twisting it repeatedly…..but that isn’t the worse yet…..
I persisted in calling him that same day and eventually he picked up the phone…he was as cold as ice……I felt frightened even listening to him……he told me….I NEVER LOVED YOU……I AM SORRY WE GOT MARRIED…..I FELT TRAPPED IN THIS MARRIAGE…..I DON’T LOVE YOU LIKE A MAN SHOULD LOVE A WOMAN…..THE FEELINGS I HAVE FOR YOU IS THAT OF A “GOOD” FRIEND……I DON’T WANT TO BE WITH YOU AND YOU SHOULD GET ON WITH YOUR LIFE…..I’M
NOT COMING BACK…….I have never felt pain like I did then in my entire life……..it is amazing when you are down on luck how quickly you remember that GOD does exists.
I was a regular church goer and I tithed but I still didn’t have that personal relationship with God…..well God has a way of getting our attention in ways unimaginable….and he got mine.
I cried DAILY AND HOURLY……I felt all hope was gone….I mean how do you get someone to love you again when that person is saying I never loved you at all…..YOU CANT….BUT GOD CAN……
I had built my life around my husband and now he was gone……I felt like I lost the better part of me…..I couldn’t eat….I couldn’t eat ….I didn’t want to socialize and I forced myself to go to work…..but God had a plan…….even though all seemed lost……God was turning my situation around even as I was hurting…..what the devil meant for evil God was turning around for good.
I enlisted the help of three persons…….a Prophetess, an Apostle, and a church Pastor…..these were all spiritual people I knew……and strong men and women of God……I knew I wasn’t strong in my spirit and my faith was way less than even that of a mustard seed.
I still cried every day but I also engaged in some radical and spiritual warfare for my husband…..I spoke the word of God over my marriage EVERYDAY and I prayed hedges of thorns around my husband EVERYDAY…..I pleaded the blood of Jesus over him and claimed my marriage in the name of Jesus.
Remember I wasn’t rooted in God so my prayers wasn’t as flowing as other people but everyday I gain more and more strength and my faith began to soar…..I prayed that God would soften my husband’s heart and remind him of the love we once shared……I asked God to send Godly people in his life to speak to him even when I couldn’t and God heard me….
I think I either bought or borrowed every book on marriage…warfare….prayer…you name it ….every website I could think of…….. And I just wrapped my husband up and prayed what ever pray I could even verbatim from some of those same books…….I became like a one man army…..
At times the devil whispered in my ears and unbelief and doubt settled in….I would call my prayer warriors for encouragement and go to God crying and in a few hours would be right as rain and ready again to go up against the gates of hell for my boo. To make a long story short……Sunday January 16th 2011….I got a text from my husband….who accidently had AGAIN on the 14th January 2011…..told me he felt the same way and I should go on with my life.
He said he wanted to talk and wanted to know if he could come by the house…he wanted to know if I could forgive him for what he did and for us to try again at our
marriage…I had released my husband and my marriage to God and I knew God was going to do something…. but I thought it would be perhaps a Hi hello…how are you….or perhaps a few weeks down the line he might drop in a call or something……….I had no idea that MY GOD was bringing my husband home that day….that instant…
He told me that after he spoke to me on Thursday….he went to God himself and talked to him and asked him to speak and show him what he should do……..he said from the time he said that everything just went crazy…..everything he saw reminded him of me….. when he went to sleep his dreams were constant replays of our life together….. he started thinking about stuff that happened before and after our marriage that were nothing short of miraculous…..
In short…..God was speaking to him all along but he was too proud to just walk back and admit that he was wrong but he wanted to so much….. He wanted to give our marriage a chance and he loved me and wanted to be with ME.
I give all the thanks and praise to God for what he did……it doesn’t matter what your situation looks like….it doesn’t matter how impossible and dead it seems……it doesn’t matter what your husband or wife is planning……..we plan but God is also planning and he works EVERYTHING out together for those that love the LORD..
DO NOT GIVE UP….THE DEVIL AND EVEN YOUR OWN MIND IS GOING TO TRY TO TELL YOU TO MOVE ON…LEAVE HIM/HER ALONE…HE/SHE DOESN’T WANT YOU…..THERE IS NOTHING YOU CAN DO…..THERE IS NO ONE THAT CAN HELP YOU NOW…..DO NOT LISTEN……even in your tears….cry out to God….when you don’t know what to say…..just say JESUS….nothing more……tears is a language God understands and he is going to work it out…..
This isn’t every single detail of what happened there are parts missing…but my short journey has been nothing but incredible and miraculous…but I want you to know that with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE…
Be encouraged
Notice several key things Crystal did to get God to move on her behalf.
1. The first thing she did was to fully surrender the entire matter into God’s hand. Notice she said she had faith less than the size of a mustard seed when she first started to approach the Lord for His help.
As we have showed you in our article titled, “Bible Verses on Faith,” the Bible tells us that faith the size of a mustard seed will move mountains. This means that you do not have to have large amounts of faith with the Lord to get the show going with Him. God will take whatever level of faith you are operating at with Him and then move to help you out with your current situation as long as you are directly seeking after His help and are willing to fully surrender the entire matter into His hands.
2. The next thing she did right was to enlist the aid of three powerful prayer warriors to help her with her prayers to the Lord. This is what is called the prayer of agreement. We already have an article on how powerful of a strategy this is with the Lord. The title of this article is, “Prayer Secret #6 – The Prayer of Agreement.”
3. Also notice she went into a very heavy seeking mode by searching out every good book she could find on marriage, prayer, and spiritual warfare. The Bible says to “seek” and then you will find what you are looking for. And this woman went into a very heavy seeking mode. I believe when God sees this kind of intense seeking activity, He is really moved, and sometimes that is what will get Him to move to answer the prayer.
4. Another thing she did when she went on the offensive was to plead the blood of Jesus around the situation. If you have a spouse that has left you for another person, it would be our recommendation to plead the blood of Jesus around them, and then plead the blood of Jesus against any demons who are trying to get in the middle of this, along with pleading the blood of Jesus directly against the person they are having the affair with.
All in all, as you read her incredible testimony, the thing that stands out is her fierce determination that she was not going to let her marriage go, and that she would take a hold of God and keep praying to Him until He brought her husband back home to her.
We want to personally thank Crystal for allowing us to release her testimony on our site, as it will help show others that God can move to restore broken marriages, no matter how hopeless things may look in the natural.
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Hello,
I was involved in a 2 year relationship with the woman I love. We were intimate only a few times in the beginning but decided that we want God to bless our union. She and I have never been previously married nor any children. I am 39 she is 36. We live in the same building but not the same suite. 1 month ago she ended our relationship and immediately began a relationship with a very not nice man. She then moved him and his son into her apartment the next week. I read scripture and pray and talk to Him often. I have since cried out to Him many times. Before meeting her I asked Him that the next lady whom I open my heart to may she be the one He willed for me. Then there she was! I was going to marry her and if it was His will have children with her. It has been 1 month and I just wanted to say that reading these posts boost my faith that He will intervene and soften her heart and bring us together. I know I am not married yet but again thank you so much for reaffirming my belief that God will help soften her heart to me. There was never any abuse of any kind in our relationship. She was my princess. This man she is with is very bad. I know I am not supposed to say anything negative about others but he is a very not nice person. Anyways, thank you for all the posts and knowing that there are others who know what believing and praying and keeping faith in Our Lord can and will do! God bless you all. Praying for you all. May Jesus Christ keep holding our hands through our trials and tribulations.
-Dennis
I am in the middle of this same storm. I have been with my husband for 6 years. I am saved, he is not. My husband said the same things the me is weekend, almost word for word. He left today. I am broken and spilled out.
Forgiving one another is the hardest thing to do and the most beneficial. As God’s chosen people we are to forgive all grievances we have between one another because of the example set forth to us by Christ…
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves. Never be lacking in zeal, but keep your spiritual fervor, serving the Lord. Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer. Share with the Lord’s people who are in need. Practice hospitality.”
“Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse. Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn. Live in harmony with one another. Do not be proud, but be willing to associate with people of low position. Do not be conceited.
Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord. On the contrary:
If your enemy is hungry, feed him;
if he is thirsty, give him something to drink.
In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head.”
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.”
God has said,
“Never will I leave you;
never will I forsake you.”
So we say with confidence,
“The Lord is my helper; I will not be afraid.
What can mere mortals do to me?”
Barry,
You asked at what point do you not stand and I came across the following scripture during my own research. I’ve wrestled with not sharing this with you because I’m the last person who wants to remove hope from anyone. But the Spirit said it’s not my job as to how you interpret it – only that I share it. So here goes…
“This is what you must do if a husband writes out a certificate of divorce, gives it to his wife, and makes her leave his house. (He divorced her because he found out something indecent about her and she no longer pleased him.) She might marry another man after she leaves his house. If her second husband doesn’t love her and divorces her, or if he dies,her first husband is not allowed to marry her again. She has become unclean. This would be disgusting in the LORD’s presence. Don’t pollute with sin the land that the LORD your God is giving you as your property.” (Deuteronomy 24:1-4 GW)
Now, the Spirit also brought to my attention the following related verse:
Jesus answered them, “Moses allowed you to divorce your wives because you’re heartless. It was never this way in the beginning. I can guarantee that whoever divorces his wife for any reason other than her unfaithfulness is committing adultery if he marries another woman.” (Matthew 19:8-9 GW)
I’m going to share more in a separate post, but don’t let the devil make you feel guilty, like a hypocrite, or anything else – that’s what he uses to distract you. When you feel that way, you need to tell the devil to “talk to the hand” – if he has any problems, he needs to talk to God about it. If you’re not strong enough at time to say that, then you need to just ask God for forgiveness, cry and ask Him to help you, or anything else – just be yourself with God. Share your anger with him, share your hurt, share your feelings of betrayal, abandonment, and anything else with Him.
That’s what He wants from you – to be your best friend.
I recently read a book called “Heaven is for Real” (http://www.amazon.com/Heaven-Real-Little-Astounding-Story/dp/0849946158/). Whether you choose to believe it or not, it is a moving story that really helps put into perspective the pain, suffering, hope, and deliverance we all experience and hope for. I highly recommend it, as well as another book I’ve recommended before (I think) called Praying for the Impossible (http://www.amazon.com/Praying-Impossible-Miracle-Charismatic-Classics/dp/1577945131/).
Sheeba,
Having been Roman Catholic myself in the past, I can tell you straight up – you would not be equally yoked with this person. Yes, I know the bible says we can have the desires of our heart. But that applies to us – not to other people or against their will.
Now, here’s where I’m stepping out in faith…
Since the bible says me and my wife are 1 in God’s sight, and I’m the head of my family, and I have authority over my wife (Ephesians 5:22-24, Matthew 19:6, Genesis 18:19), I’m believing that my prayers can override my wife’s will. BUT, that’s because she’s my wife – this person is not your spouse (yet). Time will tell if I can apply God’s word in this manner or not, but I’m believing it with all my heart and I can’t accept it any other way since I’ve found specific scriptures on it (like a dog that won’t let go of a bone).
I’m not saying this to discourage you, but rather give you options – you can pray for this person to be saved (God may be using you for that purpose) so that you’re equally yoked. You can choose to pray for a husband and trust God in whomever He delivers to you (whether it’s this guy or not). The Holy Spirit may present you with other options – I don’t know.
But what I do know is, if you’re not equally yoked AND you’re not married yet, you’re LUCKY! Marriage is hard enough when people have a common foundation to work off from, let along coming from different beliefs.
Dennis,
I prayed the same thing before my wife showed up. A lot of what I said to Sheeba applies to you too.
I’m not trying to discourage you – you need to grab a hold of God’s word as your Spirit receives it and run with it! Just always remember to be open to how He wants to do things. I’ll post another entry giving everyone an update on my situation, that illustrates this point – sometimes the very thing we try to avoid is what God will use to work on the other person.
So far, God has NOT allowed anything contradictory to His word. For example, my wife has said she wants to get a divorce. I asked God if I should give her the divorce, let her go on her own and come back to me if it was meant to be. God’s word is VERY clear on divorce – marriage is honorable in EVERY way; I hate divorce says the Lord God of Israel; what God has joined together let not man separate, put asunder, or divide. So I won’t divorce her… if she wants it, she’ll have to do it. Yet, no matter how many times she’s said it, she still hasn’t gone through with it. Another fear of mine is that she will do something to further an adulterous affair. And, while she still talks to the other person, God has not allowed anything else to happen.
For that, I’m very thankful and grateful!
Just be open and trust God. It’s ok if you melt down and don’t trust Him and get angry at Him and tell him how you feel and what you’re scared of. He surprised the heck out of me even when I thought it was truly over! He is being faithful to me and I’m sure He will also be with you.
LG,
My heart goes out to you – I am SO sorry for what you’re going through! I wouldn’t wish it on my worst enemy (yes, even though he is helping to make things worse on my end I know it stems from my wife). Instead, I wish for God to crush him like the dust blowing in the wind. But that’s another post…
Please read all of the comments on this post from the beginning. There’s a reason you found this website and this post specifically. God is speaking to you.
But here is something you should know:
“If any Christian woman is married to a man who is an unbeliever, and he is willing to live with her, she should not divorce her husband. Actually, the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and an unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise, their children would be unacceptable [to God], but now they are acceptable to him. But if the unbelieving partners leave, let them go. Under these circumstances a Christian man or Christian woman is not bound [by a marriage vow]. God has called you to live in peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:13-15 GW)
The key words are “he is WILLING to live with her.” Your husband is not willing to live with you at this point in time. He may stay this way or change his mind.
Whether you choose to fight for your marriage or walk away, I believe God will honor you either way. But just be aware, the fight is not easy because you’ll be fighting against the strongest enemy out there – yourself.
I will keep you in my prayers – please continue to keep us updated on your challenges, successes, setbacks, etc. so we can lift you up and pray in agreement with you whichever path you choose!
Dear LG
You have come to the right place, you are going thru exactly the same thing that many of us are going thru here, if you go and read all the previous posts you will find amazing resources that will help you through your walk.
Let me tell you a little about myself and what I have been going thru to encourage you and let you know you are not alone, believe it or not there are mani mani mani mani ppl out there who are going thru what we are going thru and soooooo mani who have overcome – God has restored their marriages and he IS going to restore yours and mine. Let me point you to the following website – its called Rejoice Marriage Ministries http://www.rejoiceministries.org/
If you havent come across it alredi pls go & visit this site – when I found out about my husbands adulterous relationship this was the 1st site i came across & the posts here encouraged me sooooo very much then I found the Rejoice Marriage Ministries website. Sign up for the daily devotionals especially and have a look at the Question & Answers! It has been my pillar of strength & taught me how to stand & battle the enemy satan – he is out to steal, kill & destroy marriages and he has deceived your husband thru the ways of this world and by his tricks & schemes. Know your enemy today Kim, it is not your husband or the other woman if there is 1 it is satan!! NB Timothy 2:26 – Pray that your husband will come to his senses & escape from the trap of the devil NB Pray for his salvation – look for the verses in the Bible regarding salvation & start praying for your husband but its important to apply the word of God as you pray.
ok, so let me tell you a bit about what I have been going thru & how God has been showing up mightily in my situation alredi. I have always trusted my husband completely and never saw the signs & maybe they were there but becaus of my trust i neva saw them. On the 7th of February I found out about my husbands adulterous relationship with a work colleague – they went on a 2wk course together-thats how they met & their relationship started. We are married for 7yrs on the 5th of February. At the same time I also found out about another relationship he had about 2yrs ago – that relationship lasted for 6mths & i had no idea.
I was absolutely devastated when I found out, I couldnt eat, sleep, watch tv, study, concentrate at work – my boss even called me in to question why my work had suffered and I lost out on an increase this yr – but I didnt let it bother me b.caus God is my provider!
When I first found out I had thoughts of leaving my husband & when I confronted him he told me that he wants to be with the other woman and that he is in love with her and that she understands him and loves him the way he needs to be loved and that he wants to be with her,not me. I pleaded with him to try and make our marriage work, to go away for a weekend, to go for councilling etc. at 1st he said yes – i think more to placate me but later on flat out refused. If you go back and read sum of my previous posts you will know what I have been thru.
Needless to say this whole situation has drawn me closer to God. Get into his word & you will soon realise that Gods plan is to restore your marriage & save your huband! & he will! It doesnt matter if your husand is saved, was saved, never knew the Lord it is all the same to God – he wants your husband to know the truth of his word. 1 specific area where God showed up mightily was that my husband was taking our 5yr old daughter to spend time with the other woman we had a disagreement about it but I told my husband that as adults we cud emotionally deal wit it but not a 5yr old. I left the situation in Gods hands & covered it in prayer & guess what? 2days later he came bac & told me that he spoke to two different ppl – I think the 1 was a student studying psychology and they told him the same thing – that it would be confusing for her – he told me that he wud not take her anymore!
I have been praying a hedge of thorns around my husband – look further up at the posts a guy name Robert posted a prayer called Hedge of Thorns which you cud use to pray for your husband & marriage – it is powerful! Plead the blood ova your marriage & husband everyday – confess the name of Jesus & remember he died on the cross to give your victory in your situation. Nothing is impossible for God! Hebrews 11. Ezekiel 37:26-28 God says that “HE WILL” replace your husbands heart of stone & replace it with a heart of flesh. Pray this ova your husband for his salvation. Also further down the valley of dry bones Ezekiel 37 believe that God will restore the dry bones of your marriage & breathe life into your marriage. Confess with your mouth – speak it out to God! Matthew 18:18 Bind the spirit of lust, sexual immorality, impurity, hatred, jealousy, discord, drunkeness – you know which ones you need to bind against your husband & marriage & loose the fruits of the spirit ova your husband & marriage which is love, patience, kindness, self-control. Galatians 5:16-26.Pray that God will touch, cleanse & sanctify your husband. Jesus died on the cross & defeated Satan so that your husband can be set free from the devils tricks & schemes.
To make a long story short – & there is so much more to tell you… God has been softening my husbands heart… I have been letting Go & Letting God!! it wasnt easi to let my husband go & let God deal with him but God helped me. A while bac my husband asked me to get my own place – which I did. On friday he packed up to move in with the other woman & his family but… as he hugged our daughter he was weeping! he evn said he doesnt reali want to go anymor but needs to find himself he admitted that he thot the other relationship would help him to find himself but it brot him nothing. We both agreed it wud be better if he left so that he cud come back when he was ready to commit completely to our marriage. I let my husband go so that God could deal with him and he is I can see the signs alredi, he has admitted to me that his relationship with the other woman & members of her family arent going well.
He left on a good note we even hugged and he has been so tender towards me. He has been so concerned about me & my daughter living on our own. On sun morning he saw my daughter & i walking to church and texted me to tell me he is weeping bcaus he cant stand seeing us like that. He also told me he is an emotional wreck and is finding it hard to adjust to this new life his living. he has told me thrice he is depressed – God is working. I tell you all this to be encouraged – God will change your husband and as you pray you will see, never give up on God – His timing is not our timing!!!
BE BLESSED MY SISTER – GOD WILL MAKE A WAY! LIVE BY FAITH BELIEVING GODS WORD & NOT BY SIGHT!!
Sonet
Robert,
I have been thinking about you & praying for you sooooooo gud to see your posts! I cant wait for your update, read my post to LG – its part of my update! Let me know how you are doing my brother I have missed your posts.
Sonet
Martette, Hollis, Sendy, Barry, Sonnette, Ruby, Kim & Crystal…
Thank you ALL for your prayers, words of encouragement, support, and just plain ol’ wishing you would know what to say but find it hard to do so!
I love you all and pray one day, we can all get together, meet, and give each other a great big hug!
UPDATE:
Here is a message I sent to my prayer warriors last Wednesday (only those who know me and/or my wife personally)…
As you know, I’m nearing the end of my 90 days to save my marriage, where my wife is ready to move forward with her life without me.
Yes, I know God operates on His own time schedule; yes, I’ve “let go and let God”; yes I believe He is able and will preform what His word says; yes, I know what I’m asking for is in the Bible – I’ve written all the verses I could find. But I’m also human. I haven’t seen any improvements to let me think anything is going to change at all (at least any time soon). I wonder if the signs I’ve seen were really even signs at all. I’m at a very low point spiritually, emotionally, and probably physically.
I love my wife, I love my family, and I desperately need your prayers tonight!
I recently read a book that talked about God answering the prayers, not of the sick or dying, but of the friends of the sick and dying. One such incident was Lazarus. Another one was of the paralytic…
“And, behold, they brought to him a man sick of the palsy, lying on a bed: and Jesus seeing their faith said unto the sick of the palsy; Son, be of good cheer; thy sins be forgiven thee. Arise, take up thy bed, and go unto thine house. And he arose, and departed to his house.” (Matthew 9:2,6-7 KJV)
Jesus saw the faith of the paralytic’s friends and was moved by it. I’m at a point where I’m afraid to hope, and afraid not to. I need to borrow the strength and faith of some other believers.
I need you.
Please dial into the toll free number below from 8 pm to 8:30 pm Eastern time so we can pray in agreement in the presence of the Lord.
I don’t know what else I can do in faith, so this is my last effort. I don’t want to talk about the situation (it’s too painful) – I just want to offer up our prayers to Him and hope He is moved to take action.
Thank you for your support.
RESULT:
Thank you all again for those who dialed in and prayed with me, as well as those who wished they could’ve but weren’t able to.
Things hit rock bottom this past Sunday. As much as I tried to avoid it, we eventually got into a big argument. She stormed out of the house for about an hour and spent almost the entire next day out of the house, leaving me alone with the kids. She told me, unless we had something to talk about regarding the kids, we didn’t need to discuss anything else with each other going forward. When she came back, she asked me if she needed to spend the rest of the week out of the house and I said it was up to her – I don’t hold onto grudges.
With the kids being occupied, she asked me to go upstairs so we could talk. I cringed because lately, we always end up arguing, getting frustrated, hurt, etc. You have no idea the amount of stress I’m under, nor the emotional and spiritual toll this has taken on me. My eye twitches all the time because of the stress.
Then she said she was going to give “us” more time. Spending time alone today, without the kids, made her realize how much she missed them. Then it made her realize how hard it must be for me to be away from them all week, for almost 6 months now and the responsibility of providing for all of them on my shoulders. I added I missed her just as much – not just the kids. She said while she still doesn’t feel differently about us, she feels she owes it to herself and to me to give us more time to see if things will change. She also asked how much longer did I think I it was going to be before I would be able to transfer back down to our home state. I told her I felt it wouldn’t be much longer now. I asked her if she would honestly pray together vs. just praying to appease me and she said yes, but not every day – she’s not like that.
Praise God!
Here I am, wanting to avoid getting into an argument at all costs, and God uses the very thing I’m trying to avoid to reach out to her – how awesome is He!?
Please, continue to pray in agreement with me and lift us up in your prayers – specifically for God to give her a new mind and heart according to the Holy Spirit, and that God protect our marriage in EVERY way.
• “Create in [her] a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within [her].” (Psalms 51:10 KJV)
• “Marriage is honorable in every way, so husbands and wives should be faithful to each other.” (Hebrews 13:4 GW)
IN CLOSING:
I wanted to share this with you because I pretty much gave up. And, while God hasn’t restored our marriage yet, I finally have confirmation He’s been hearing our prayers!
Thank you for being a blessing to me and my family! I pray that God smiles down on each of you and your own personal struggles. Thank you for sowing good seed into the ground of my marriage, so that my marriage may have a good harvest and in turn may yours too. My prayer for you today is this:
“Give, and you will receive. Your gift will return to you in full–pressed down, shaken together to make room for more, running over, and poured into your lap. The amount you give will determine the amount you get back.” (Luke 6:38 NLT)
Thank you ALL for being in my life!
P.S. – Sonnette, what are you doing up this late/early too!? I am SOOO glad to hear about your progress – PRAISE GOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Robert there seems to be a huge time difference between us. I live in South Africa. and it is 10h30 in the morning rit now & i am at work!! so no, im not burning the midnight oil!
Robert, thank you for your words, thoughts and prayers. I was raised in a Christ centered family. I know that scripture very well…”the unsaved husband is sanctified by the saved wife”. I cannot imagine it is God’s will for any divorce. So many chruches tell people that going through this, it is because God has something better planned for them. That contradicts God’s word. he hates divorce and he never lies or changes. I do not understand why they teach that. I have seen no Biblical truth that God approves a divorce for any reason. It is a sin. Thankfully He forgives our sins. Everywhere it is written to forgive, love, be patient, longsuffering. My husband has become so negative and discouraged. His heart has heardend and turned to stone. He has no signs of guilt, shame, concern or a conscience. He has become very Jekyl and Hyde, almost bi-polar symptoms. He sees none of it. He believes nothing is wrong with him. We use to do Bible sudy together. He has struugled with his Faith and belief in God. He has not had an affair, that I am aware of, but he has struggled with lust(adultery in God’s eyes), anger, bitterness, resentement, pride, grudges- love hate love hate- extreme t extreme. I watch his moods change and his personality change in seconds sometimes. Something aout it makes me feel as though a demon is inside him. I don’t know but I do know that Heneeds Jesus so badly and does not know it. Very much like a sick person who does not know they are sick, so they do not get the medicine, help they. I pray God does not forsake him for what he does not know or understand. He had an unhappy childhood. Very little love and no Jesus in the home. He blames God for all that has gone wrong in his life. I, as King David did, soak my pillow and bed everynight with tears. I seek God in everything I do. I do not pull out of my driveway without praying for my safety as I travel. The stress and strain of the past few monhs has sent me to the ER with bloody vomit(possibly e peforated ulcer in my stomach-no medical so it has been my prayer for God to heal it). I, my family and I are the only Christians in his life. He is a restaurnat manager and there are no Godly influences there or in his family. No matter what happens, his salvation matters most to me. I pray day and night and in between for God to do a work in his heart and life. this has been my prayer for years. A part of me says, “just throw in the towel your prayers have done nothing.” Then a conflicting spirit says, You cannot divorce him, he is your husband, you are one flesh in God’s eyes”. Broeken and spilled out is such an understatement. My chest literaly feels like a bus is on it. I weep for hours, deep breaths are very hard. I just tremble and shake. I am petite and get cold easy and even with this warm weather I cannot get warm. I shiver, tremble, cry, shake, vomit and then I do it all over again. Sleep rarely happens. A nap maybe then I awake gasping and trembling, weeping. I feel utterly abandoned, forsaken. I know God has not done that but it sure feels that way. I believe I have called on every promise from God in prayer. I have pled the blood of Jesus over him for years. I pray the blood of Jesus over me as pray. I pray for my own life, well being, encouragement. I always ask God to increase my Faith. No matter what, God is my rock, my strength, my deliverer, my fortress, my defender, myy life, my everything. Jesus in my power and strength. I would have no doubt succomb to suicide from this deep pit of pure sadness, grieving, mourning and sorrow. I am alive because jesus loves me. I so very proudly accept your prayers. I have been blessed by your kindness and Faith. Thank you.
Sonnette, I too sincerely give you my thankfullnes for your words and prayers. I will add you all to mine.
The Need for Self-Discipline…
Brethren, [Sisters too] I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly; I do not fight like a boxer beating the air. No, I strike a blow to my body and make it my slave so that after I have preached to others, I myself will not be disqualified for the prize.
All of us, then, who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. Only let us live up to what we have already attained.
Join together in following my example, brothers and sisters, and just as you have us as a model, keep your eyes on those who live as we do. For, as I have often told you before and now tell you again even with tears, many live as enemies of the cross of Christ. Their destiny is destruction, their god is their stomach, and their glory is in their shame. Their mind is set on earthly things. But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body.
“Lord, give us that hunger to know You; And deliver us from the pride that makes us want to use You. Let our prayer be today, And Always; ‘He must increase, but I must decrease.’ Amen.”
Right on, Kim. That hit the spot this morning. Thanks!
And a big thanks to all of you who contribute here. Robert, false-starts are a reality. Tread carefully & stay the course. You’re a great inspiration, brother.
“Whom the Son [Jesus Christ] sets free, is free indeed”…
“Though I [Kim] am free and belong to no one, I have made myself a slave to everyone, to win as many as possible. To the Jews I became like a Jew, to win the Jews. To those under the law I became like one under the law (though I myself am not under the law), so as to win those under the law. To those not having the law I became like one not having the law (though I am not free from God’s law but am under Christ’s law), so as to win those not having the law. To the weak I became weak, to win the weak. I have become all things to all people so that by all possible means I might save some. I do all this for the sake of the gospel, that I [Kim] may share in its blessings”…
“God has heard their [our] groaning and have come down to set them [us] free.”
To God Be All The Glory, Great Things He Has Done [And WILL continue to do].
“There is now therefor no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. For God has not given to us a Spirit of fear but of power and of a sound mind, and perfect love (Jesus Christ) cast out ALL fear.”
dear ROBERT n SONNETTE,am soooo HAPPY for u guys! i was upset about ur conditions,n am glad God has started His miracle un ur lives!…my prayers have been weak,SORRY,am dealing with certain issues with my parents…but GOD HAS BEEN SO GOOD TO ME-He has been encouraging me in different awesome ways…NEVER STOP PRAYING and NEVER GIVE UP!
Yesterday, she starts talking about how she wishes we would’ve had more children. I shared with her that I also felt the same way. (I didn’t share that I had prayed to God about it too – specifically that, if it was His will, to place upon her heart to have more children and I would be in agreement with it.) I told her we could get her tubes untied and she said we would have to do it soon because she didn’t want to have kids when she’s too old. Then, later on in the day, she says she’s not going to get pregnant because she can’t see herself doing “that” (sex) with me. I didn’t respond or press the issue any further.
Today, she clarified that she’s not giving “us” more time – she’s giving “herself” more time. She’s pretty much already made up her mind, but what she wants more time to think about is whether or not she should sacrifice her happiness to stay in a marriage for the greater good. Either way, she wanted me to know there’s no way we would ever be a couple again, even if she decided to stay in the marriage.
As you can imagine, this is all very confusing, frustrating, and draining! But then I remembered when we first started going out, she said she wasn’t looking for a relationship – she was only looking for a friend. I told her that wasn’t a problem and was a complete gentleman & friend until she let me know she was ready to move forward. Maybe God is repeating the same “pattern” all over again? I don’t know, but I have to choose where I’m placing my faith, so that’s where I’m placing it – that regardless of what she’s saying or calling it, that it’s really God working behind the scenes and that I shouldn’t place any importance on the “name” but rather the “actions.”
Aaarrrggghhh!!!
FYI – here’s the covenant I made with God when all this started, sealed it with the blood of Christ, and asked God to honor it, bless it, sanctify it, and consecrate it.
If God restored my marriage, I would:
1. Share my restoration testimony with others (just like Crystal did on this forum)
2. Share the love of Jesus with others more (especially when teaching my classes)
3. Have more children if He placed it on her heart
4. Do whatever ministry He called me to do, as long as he made sure she was in agreement
5. Do whatever I could through prayer and actions to restore broken in-law relationships
I’ve already been doing all of them except #3 and have been trusting God to do His part.
So when you give me thanks, or tell me I’ve been an inspiration, or are happy because of what I’ve shared, or even tell me you’ve missed my posts… I turn it all over to Him for His glory!
I am grateful to be able to give Him the praise, honor, and glory. I pray so hard, so intense, and with every ounce of faith I have in the moment to give her a new mind and heart towards our marriage. Sometimes (too often), I barely have the strength. But I hope God uses what I give to Him to restore my marriage and avenge me against the enemies of my marriage.
Someone asked if that was being really genuine with God – giving Him something in exchange for Him doing something for me. At first, I felt bad about it. But then thought no – His word is based on giving and receiving. We have to initiate things with Him and He responds. He’s given us permission to sow a seed and expect a harvest. I don’t know if I’m right or not, but I’m staying the course unless He reveals to me differently.
I pray that God will continue to resurrect our marriages this Easter through the shed blood of Jesus Christ.
Thank you all for allowing me to be a blessing to you.
Kim,
thank you for your words of encouragement – God is speaking thru his word thru you to us. I love that verse which speaks about God not giving us a spirit of fear but of power & of love & a sound mind – I had to say it ova & ova to myself when I found out because I was soooo scared of my husband leaving me and being alone – But Praise God I have been able to let him go in order for God to work out his salvation in my husband so now I trust God completely.
Ruby,
Thank you for your encouragement it means soooo much too me & dont worry I will neva eva give up on God – believe it or not this situation has strengthened me & my relationship with God soooo much & I have learnt soooo much of Gods word. I can alredi see signs of God working thru my husband whereas b4 he wud neva admit to missing me or saying he luvs me he does now.
Robert,
Pls do not be discouraged by your circumstances, by what you see or what your wife is telling you in the natural. I have had to spk to myself ova & ova about this despite the fact that my husband does communicate with me & tell me that he misses me & our daughter & luvs us – when I 1st found out he wud neva evn say he misses me or luvs me – Its only god! – *he moved in with the other woman & her on fri last week & this I have to deal with daily* – he is stil being blinded & deceived by the enemy… but im trusting God that he wil let the Holy Spirit reveal the truth of Gods word to my husband.
I am praying for you Robert – LIVE BY FAITH & NOT BY SIGHT!!!! keep up ur faith levels – God is working on the other side of the mountain. Most of all Let Go & Let God!
Here is Charlynne Cares devotional for Tuesday this week I hope it encouages you as much as it did me!
http://charlyne.org/cc/view.php?month=main&id=4764
Also read the fictional story called TWOEASTERS written by BOb. I enjoy reading so I absolutely loved it – was a tear jerker
http://rejoiceministries.org/books/easter/TwoEasters.pdf
Robert God is right there with you in the midst of this as long as you trust in his perfect timing!! he will change & soften your wifes heart of stone & replace it with a heart of flesh & he move her to follow his decrees & obey his laws. Ezekiel 36:29-27 Note it is “I WILL” ova & ova again as you read
Ezekiel 36.
Sonnette
To Every1
I want to wish you all a HAPPY EASTER! as I partake of the body & blood of Jesus I will be reflecting on & remembering evry1 who has posted & every marriage out there who is going thru hardship & most especially the unsaved. JESUS STAYS THE ANSWER!
Keep up the faith! I know we serve a Great & MIghty God who answers prayers in his perfect timing!
God bless you all and I hope that you all have a truely blessed Easter!
Robert, Heaven is For Real has been on my end table for months & I’ve yet to read it. I guess it’s about time I read it, now. Thank you!!
From what I understand of healing marriages involving these circumstances, several false starts such as you described aren’t uncommon.
When my wife and I communicated or interacted (mostly out of necessity), the nicer I was, the more cruel she became. There were a couple of times I grew tired of it and threw it back at her. I realized my words had little to no effect. She’s confused, frustrated, ashamed, etc and it’s easier on her to place fault on the spouse – even if she had to create it. I’d said enough and resolved that my actions would represent anything I had to communicate.
Joseph, upon seeing his brothers who betrayed him for the first time in many years, was angry because he felt they hadn’t changed a bit. He got passed that somehow. I’m curious how…
I notice whenever my wife speaks to the other guy, she becomes cold and distant towards me. I keep praying, asking God if he will bless me if I go have a talk with him, but I get no answer.
I hate this!
“I keep asking that the God of our Lord Jesus Christ, the glorious Father, may give you [and I] the Spirit of wisdom and revelation, so that the Holy Spirit will enlighten you, and lead you, and guide you into All truth and understanding that you [and I] may continue to know him better. I pray that the eyes of your heart [and my heart] may be enlightened in order that you [and I] may know the hope to which he has called you, [and I] to the riches of his glorious inheritance in [we are] his holy people, and his incomparably great power [IS] for us [All] who believe. That power is the same as the mighty strength he [God by His Holy Spirit] exerted when he raised Christ from the dead and seated him [Jesus] at his right hand in the heavenly realms, far above all rule and authority, power and dominion, and every name that is invoked, not only in the present age but also in the one to come. And God placed all things under his feet and appointed him [Jesus] to be head over everything for the church, which is his body, the fullness of him who fills everything in every way. Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming. As obedient children, [we] do not conform to the evil desires you [and I] had when you lived in ignorance. But just as he who called you [and I] is holy, so be ye holy in all you [we] do; for it is written: “Be ye holy, because I am holy.”Now to him who is able to establish you [and me] in accordance with my gospel, the message I proclaim about Jesus Christ, in keeping with the revelation of the mystery hidden for long ages past, but now revealed and made known [to us] through the prophetic writings by the command of the eternal God, so that all the Gentiles [us] might come to the obedience that comes from faith— to the only wise God be glory forever through Jesus Christ!
And…Since you [and I] call on a Father who judges each person’s work impartially, live out your time as foreigners here in reverent fear. For you know that it was not with perishable things such as silver or gold that you were redeemed from the empty way of life handed down to you from your ancestors, but with the precious blood of Christ, a lamb without blemish or defect. He was chosen before the creation of the world, but was revealed [to us] in these last times for your [our] sake. Through him [Jesus] you [and I] believe in God, who raised him [Jesus] from the dead and glorified him, [Jesus] and so your [our] faith and hope are in God.
Now that you [and I] have purified yourselves [ourselves] by obeying the truth so that you [andI] have sincere love for each other, love one another deeply, from the heart. For you [and I] have been born again, not of perishable seed, but of imperishable, through the living and enduring word of God. For,
“All people are like grass,
and all their glory is like the flowers of the field;
the grass withers and the flowers fall,
but the word of the Lord endures forever.”
And this is the word that was preached to you-{and to me]
*”God’s Richly Filled Blessings of Love, health, wealth, happiness, joy, and peace, wisdom, and Understanding Be to Us All, I pray-Amen.”*
You are all in my prayers. All though I know many scriptures of encouragement, they are not giving me peace right now. I wish I could lift you all up with wonderful words. I cannot even lift my self up right now.
You are in my thoughts, prayers, all of you.
In Christ’s Love, Lynn
Jesus loves me this I know, for the Bible tells me so.
Trust in God, and His Peace That Surpasses ALL Understanding will fill Us All…
“You will keep in perfect peace
whose minds are steadfast,
because they [we] trust in you.
Trust in the LORD forever,
for the LORD, the LORD himself, is the Rock eternal.
He humbles those who dwell on high,
he lays the lofty city low;
He levels it to the ground
and casts it down to the dust.
Feet trample it down—
the feet of the oppressed,
the footsteps of the poor.
The path of the righteous is level;
you, the Upright One, make the way of the righteous smooth.”
Amen!
I pray night and day and in between. I study the Bible daily, multiple times a day. I was not raised in the secular world. I was raised in Bible school. Daily Bible study and worship. True deep intimate relashionship with Jesus. I know nothing else. The Word of God is programed in me. It is in my blood. I truly know His words. They are just not giving me any peace at this time. My heart feels gutted out. I know Jesus loves me and He lives in me, I just am so very broken and spilled out that joy currently escapes me.
Hi Everyone!
Robert, I can only tell you to keep strong and when your faith does get down let God know and also remember that it is in our weakness that we are strong. Sometimes I wish people would stop telling me this because I don’t think they get the complexity of my problems but the Lord as giving me a living example in my house of someone that even when her faith was low and she kept asking herself if our Father had not listen to her. God knows how much my grandmother cried and weep for me for 6 years. Every time she prayed our Lord about me, she says she would have a vision of me showing her the devil horns hand sign. And I believe her, because my grandmother cannot read or write, yet the first time that I went to a pagan meeting, that same night she told me that I had come back dirty, foul. She had no way of knowing where I had been by reading my notes. And I admire her devotion of prayer to my family, because she keeps praying for all of us. Something in your message trouble me however because you say that your wife when she meets the other man comes back cold and distant toward you. I notice this in my mother last summer. We had an amazing time together out, but the moment that we parked in front of our house, I literally saw a ripple around her and her whole countenance change from happy to angry and resentful. I did not know was happening or what it really meant back then, but now I do. I am ready take the Sword of the Spirit no matter how small it is in my hands and pray for her. When I asked a few weeks back if anyone lived in Atlanta, it was because I was going to pass through and would have love to me any of you. I spend two difficult weeks in Salvador and Guatemala, but guys, GOD never gives up and He is always at work!!!! ALWAYS and I was bless to my able to see this. Long story short, my mother whenever she prays, she would do it to Mary. Yet, in those weeks, she asks us to pray to God together (and we got into the habit of praying all the family before driving or leaving a place) and I learn that my father who had stayed in Canada, was willingly participating in prayer with my grandmother for us. My grandmother was amazed because before he would start blaspheming or would get sleepy and leave. Robert, you and Sonnette names were constantly coming into my mind whenever I prayed. Keep strong brother, for the Lord knows your plight but He knows the timing.
Father, we come before Your throne of Grace
weak and tired. Our tears you have heard and known
and the troubles of our hearts are no mystery to you.
Give us rest Beloved Father and let us learn to lean on You and find
our Sabbath in Your loving arms. Just as You have heard the cries of Israel’s children during the reign of the Pharaoh and deliver them, so Lord we called upon You on this Passover to deliver us from the enemy that reigns on our Spouses and family. Make your Word come alive and renew us and Your living water take our thirst away and that of our family. Lord make your Light disperse the darkness that we found ourselves
in and our hearts always offer a song of Joy and Wonder. Upon your Word we stand for this promise. Jesus, Lamb of God, gives us the strength to keep taking our Yoke with You by Our side and to daily die to our sins just as You died for us. Fulfiller of the prophecy and Light of the World,
intercede for us upon the Father. Lord, may You always be our first and last thought and are hearts be fill with Love as the Bride we are in Your eyes, and our Love for You only Mature for You as our
Journey with You continues. Holy Spirit, fill me with Your wisdom and as the road become shakier and harder, guide me always and help me prevail against my adversaries. Put the Words of God in my mouth and heart to fortify me and fortify those you place in my path. Your Power rebuke the enemy and take away his darts and lies, for you live in me and Your light always will show me the sight of your extended arms.
I plead Your blood Lord of Lords on every heart and mind in the Household of Robert, Sonnette, Crystal, Kim, Barry, L.G and all others in this forum
Fill their life with Your light and be Invited into their abode. Holy Spirit, purify and cleanse their mind and spirit so that they be receptive
to Your teaching and the Truth. Lord, Great is Your wisdom and love, and we are forever thankful for the Grace that you have bestowed upon us
Lord Almighty we give thanks and sing glory to Your name forever and ever. HOLY HOLY HOLY IS OUR BELOVED GOD.
Praise be forever lift up from our mouths and hearts to You.
In your Beloved Son’s name, Jesus Christ,
Amen Amen
Hey everyone. I’m sure with Resurrection Sunday coming up, the devil is working overtime to distract us from celebrating.
As I mentioned earlier, I blocked my prodigal ex husband off my phone due to all the hurt he was inflicting over and over for years on end. I have trusted God that if and when my ex’s heart is touch by God, that he would find a way to contact me. In the meantime, I’ve had to protect my heart and sanity from his hurtful words and actions. Soon after I blocked him, he tried to call me from a hotel room when he was on the road, but it has been silent since then, which has been a couple of months. Until today. He left me a voicemail from his office phone this afternoon. He had sadness in his voice and asked me to please talk to him. I don’t know what to do. He has pulled this many times before, and I’m too afraid to let my guard down because it has ended in heartache 100% of the time for going on 7 years now.
I figure if there is a real change, he will continue to pursue. If not, then I’ll know it was just more of the same.
My hope is in God, not what my ex does or doesn’t do. I know God will take care of me and our children no matter what, and he will bind up my wounds. He wants an abundant life for me. I would like for it to include my ex, but I have come to the peaceful acceptance that God will take turn this situation around for my good no matter what my ex does. I made my ex and our torn marriage an idol, so I had to release it all–truly release it–to Jesus. Now I can concentrate on The Restorer, not restoration. I can focus on the Lord, not my situation. I have come to a place of rest. Yes, it still hurts if I dwell on it. But after 7 years, I’ve learned how to redirect my thoughts and combat the enemy’s attempts to destroy me. It’s a miracle in and of itself for me to have come to this place considering what shape I was in just a few years earlier. I nearly grieved myself to death over my broken marriage and my husband’s adultery. God has taught me a lot, and I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Robert, I wouldn’t advise speaking to the other man. It’s a trap of satan. I wrote a long email to the ow, and my ex had extreme hatred towards me for it. It’s been 3 years since I sent the letter, and as of last December, my ex was still harassing me about it. However, I do think it speeded up the process of their ungodly relationship being destroyed, but it was not my place to intervene in that way. I feel like I played God, and it backfired. I feel my ex will forever hate me for it, even though his reasoning makes no sense. But, as we know, listening to an adulterer talk is like listening to the devil himself.
Happy Easter to everyone! Praise Jesus for His finished work on the cross!
You guys are awesome! Thank you Lord!
I had a disturbing dream last night regarding incest. When I looked up the meaning, here’s what it said:
“A dream of incest is a warning that you are contemplating some discreditable action; resist the temptation no matter how strong the pressure or how promising the proposition. It will turn out to be a matter of lasting regret, if not remorse, if you give way.”
Based on everyone’s responses, I think God is telling me to leave this guy alone and let Him deal with it.
Thank you all for being the voice of God for me when I couldn’t hear Him myself!
I love you all in Christ
Robert where did you read the dream meaning?
Sometimes you have to play around with the words and try different synonyms, but I’ve found this site to be the most balanced (and accurate) in its interpretations:
http://www.glamour.com/horoscopes/dreamdictionary/
Normally I don’t act on a dream unless I have a secondary confirmation or repeated dream meanings, but this warning struck me as out of the ordinary, so I’d rather play it safe and wait on God than to act on my own will.
Often the best way to dialogue with someone on a controversial topic is to respond back with a [Revelation story] question.
The LORD sent Nathan to David. When he came to him, he said, “There were two men in a certain town, one rich and the other poor. The rich man had a very large number of sheep and cattle, but the poor man had nothing except one little ewe lamb he had bought. He raised it, and it grew up with him and his children. It shared his food, drank from his cup and even slept in his arms. It was like a daughter to him.
“Now a traveler came to the rich man, but the rich man refrained from taking one of his own sheep or cattle to prepare a meal for the traveler who had come to him. Instead, he took the ewe lamb that belonged to the poor man and prepared it for the one who had come to him.”
David burned with anger against the man and said to Nathan, “As surely as the LORD lives, the man who did this must die! He must pay for that lamb four times over, because he did such a thing and had no pity.”
Then Nathan said to David, “You are the man! This is what the LORD, the God of Israel, says: ‘I anointed you king over Israel, and I delivered you from the hand of Saul. I gave your master’s house to you, and your master’s wives into your arms. I gave you all Israel and Judah. And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more. Why did you despise the word of the LORD by doing what is evil in his eyes? You struck down Uriah the Hittite with the sword and took his wife to be your own. You killed him with the sword of the Ammonites. Now, therefore, the sword will never depart from your house, because you despised me and took the wife of Uriah the Hittite to be your own.’
“This is what the LORD says: ‘Out of your own household I am going to bring calamity on you. Before your very eyes I will take your wives and give them to one who is close to you, and he will sleep with your wives in broad daylight. You did it in secret, but I will do this thing in broad daylight before all Israel.’”
Then David said to Nathan, “I have sinned against the LORD.”
“Even now,” declares the LORD,
return to me with all your heart,
with fasting and weeping and mourning.”
I am in a storm much like Dennis is. I asked God that the next woman that he brought into my life would be the one he had made just for me. I had just recovered by a miracle from a heart attack and stroke that had occurred in the same week that happened a year before. I was researching Slavic culture and “stumbled onto” a blog written by a Russian woman who had immigrated from Russia to America. On her blog in the right margin were some photos of womens faces. I clicked one thinking that the photo would enlarge, instead I was directed to a website that allowed women from Russia and Ukraine meet men from the West. I explored the site for two days or so and then I saw a picture of a normal looking girl that you would find next door. I clicked on her photo and read what she wrote about herself. She said that she was a Godly woman that was raised with traditional family values and that she was seeking a Godly man whose focus would be family and not his job and that her chosen man would have to love and obey God and be the loving father and husband. I wrote her a short note. She replied and asked if we could chat. I had a little time before work so we talked for a half hour. She enjoyed our talk so much that she asked if we chat again the next day at the same time. These chat dates turned into an everyday event. We talked everyday for an hour at least for nine months at which Yulia decided that her search was over and that I was the one she wanted. I felt the same way about her because during our chats each day we found that we were a perfect match. We shared the same values and ideas on family and raising children and we both love God. In August 2008 I flew to visit her for two weeks. Our love only intensified during our visit I knew that God had given me my bride at long last. I returned from my trip and the next week lost my job. I was devastated, How was I going to file the paper work for Yulia’s K-1 visa without me working? I searched for a job six hours a day six days a week and after three years I was blessed with a new job at half the pay I had before. Yulia and I communicated by email for those three years. Sometimes i would call her on the phone and have short conversations with her. English is not Yulia’s best language so our phone calls were short and rare. I would send her a short text message each night so that she could read it in the morning to know that she was in my thoughts. I was the best husband to be that I could be for her from 6000 miles away. Now this spring I was planning on being her birthday present for her 30th birthday in May and spend three weeks with her to talk about doing her visa paperwork and to spend time with her to practice being a couple. Sadly She informed me that she needed her man there with her and that she needed her kisses and hugs and was with another man and they wanted to marry in a few months. Now I am in an intense battle to have God restore Yulia and I’s relationship before she marries this guy.I do not think that God is a part of this new relationship. I did nothing wrong except be too far away to hold her and give her the affection that she needed. I love her and her family more than words could say and I feel as if my huge loving heart has been ground into Hamburger. I am praying that God would soften and turn her heart back to me and that our beautiful loving relationship be totally restored. Yulia would sign her email letters to me using my last name, and in our spirits and hearts we considered ourselves to me married to each other and the ceremony would be a formality I was planning on marrying her in the park on a sunny spring day this year. Now I am fighting the fiercest spiritual battle I have ever fought in my entire life to restore this relationship. Ukrainian men are not the best husbands and they have a bad history of treating women badly. The country has a 70 percent divorce rate. I do not want Yulia to be a single divorced mother in a country that is hard to live in to begin with. Please pray with me for God to finish the work that her started in our relationship.
“COMFORT, COMFORT My people, says your God.
Speak tenderly to the heart of Jerusalem, and cry to her that her time of service and her warfare are ended, that [her punishment is accepted and] her iniquity is pardoned, that she has received [punishment] from the Lord’s hand double for all her sins.
A voice of one who cries: Prepare in the wilderness the way of the Lord [clear away the obstacles]; make straight and smooth in the desert a highway for our God!
Every valley shall be lifted and filled up, and every mountain and hill shall be made low; and the crooked and uneven shall be made straight and level, and the rough places a plain.
And the glory (majesty and splendor) of the Lord shall be revealed, and all flesh shall see it together; for the mouth of the Lord has spoken it.
A voice says, Cry [prophesy]! And I said, What shall I cry? [The voice answered, Proclaim:] All flesh is as frail as grass, and all that makes it attractive [its kindness, its goodwill, its mercy from God, its glory and comeliness, however good] is transitory, like the flower of the field.
The grass withers, the flower fades, when the breath of the Lord blows upon it; surely [all] the people are like grass.
The grass withers, the flower fades, but the word of our God will stand forever.
O you who bring good tidings to Zion, get up to the high mountain. O you who bring good tidings to Jerusalem, lift up your voice with strength, lift it up, be not afraid; say to the cities of Judah, Behold your God!
Behold, the Lord God will come with might, and His arm will rule for Him. Behold, His reward is with Him, and His recompense before Him.
He will feed His flock like a shepherd: He will gather the lambs in His arm, He will carry them in His bosom and will gently lead those that have their young.”
*This Chapter Verses Above From Isaiah 40 reminds us that we are unique, and may touch lives in ways we cannot imagine. I have heard it said, “I am only one, but I am one. I cannot do everything, but I can do something. What I can do, I ought to do. What I ought to do, by the grace of God, I will do.” One godly man or woman can make a dramatic difference, even in the darkest of circumstances as We Cry out to God He will deliver us from All our enemies- Yes!* All my enemies will be overwhelmed with shame and anguish; they will turn back and suddenly be put to shame, and Our God-He alone will Bless Us, For Blessed are all who fear the LORD, All who walk in obedience to him…
“You will eat the fruit of your labor;
blessings and prosperity will be yours.
The eyes of the LORD are on the righteous,
and his ears are attentive to their cry;
but the face of the LORD is against those who do evil,
to blot out their name from the earth.
The righteous cry out, and the LORD hears them;
he delivers them from all their troubles.
The LORD is close to the brokenhearted
and saves those who are crushed in spirit.
The righteous person may have many troubles,
but the LORD delivers him from them all;
he protects all his bones,
not one of them will be broken.
Evil will slay the wicked;
the foes of the righteous will be condemned.
The LORD will rescue his servants;
no one who takes refuge in him will be condemned.”
Now-
“May the LORD bless you, and
may you see the prosperity of our Lord
all the days of your life.
And May you live to see your children’s children.”
Peace be to You, And to Us All,
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Just spoke with a friend of mine and he shared 2 wonderful insights with me:
1. While initially I prayed for my enemy and his marriage, then started to pray battle prayers against him, it’s been placed on my heart to pray again for him. God has revealed to me (through my wife) some very difficult things this other man is going through in all areas of his life. While I don’t take joy that he is facing some great trials in his life, in a way I feel vindicated by God. My friend said when we pray for our enemies, we’re actually helping ourselves – removing hardness from our hearts and bodies(emotionally and physically) that can harm us in the long run.
2. At this point in my walk, I keep getting mixed signals from my wife. I give God the glory for the positive signals and experiences, but just give it up to Him as to which direction he wants it to go. In a way, I’m scared to lead into it with any meaning, so I just leave it in His hands. While I don’t enjoy my wife trashing my feelings and heart, I still have His love in my heart for her. My friend said it’s a taste of our walk with Jesus. No matter how much He loves us and it hurts Him when we trash His feelings and heart, He loves us enough to still be there for us – to give us the freedom to reject Him. It’s certainly a very scary thing! The Bible says we need to be like Jesus with our spouses – willing to die for them so that they may be spotless.
I hope this has spoken to your heart in some way as it did to mine.
It certainly has spoken to my heart, Robert. Thanks! When my sons are with me and we’re saying our bedtime prayers, I also pray for the enemy and it sounds like God is seeking your enemy’s attention and your wife’s, too.
We have no control over others. It helps to us do more preparing than planning in these situations and always try to keep yourself in His perfect will as He outlines in the Bible… Hard to do sometimes. You’ve been spot-on, Robert, and I really don’t think you needed any reminding of that.
hi Guys Just a note to say don’t give up. Thank you all for praying for me when the nights were dark and your words were strength when I was weak and hurting. My wife and I are talking ,am seeing the kids regularly and I praise God that he answered my prayers.I am still praying that my wife returns home and my marriage is restored .I will be praying for all of you just to name a few Robert,Sonnette,Barry, Kim remembering that he cares for us.I thank God and praise his Holy name .Be courageous he always comes through.God bless all of you
Hi All
Farai your comment put a smile on my face
Praise God he is truly awesum & mighty.
Today in church during worship wat stood out for me & spoke to my heart was words spoken by the worship leader about Gods STEADFAST LOVE for us & I’v had a song in my heart “Great is thy faithfulness” but the words in the song say “the steadfast love of the Lord never ceases, his mercies will never come to an end” I’m sure you all know it. Remember Gods love is steadfast for us. His love sets us free. His love is more than enough for us his children. We serve a God of signs & wonders & great miracles. Is anything to hard for him? He hears our prayers and every one of them will be answered in his perfect timing!
I have come a long way since my 1st posts – I can truly say I have the peace & joy of the Lord despite the fact that my husband is living in adultery with the OW. I know that God is gona do amazing things in my husbands life & that he will come 2 his senses & escape the lies of the enemy & be filled with the gift of the Holy spirit. I trust God completely because I know like I know like I know I serve a GOD OF THE IMPOSSIBLE!!!
B blessed every1 and yes let’s keep on praying for each other & fight the good fight! Let’s battle it out knowing we serve a great & mighty & sovereign miracle working God!
God bless u & may the peace of God which transcends understanding guard your hearts & your minds in Christ Jesus. Amen.
Blessed be the Lord God, the God of Israel, Who alone does wondrous things!
Blessed be His glorious name forever; let the whole earth be filled with His glory!
“The just shall live by his faith”…
So teach us to number our days, that we may get us a heart of wisdom.
Turn, O Lord [from Your fierce anger]! How long–? Revoke Your sentence and be compassionate and at ease toward Your servants.
O satisfy us with Your mercy and loving-kindness in the morning [now, before we are older], that we may rejoice and be glad all our days.
Make us glad in proportion to the days in which You have afflicted us and to the years in which we have suffered evil.
Let Your work [the signs of Your power] be revealed to Your servants, and Your [glorious] majesty to their children.
And let the beauty and delightfulness and favor of the Lord our God be upon us; confirm and establish the work of our hands–yes, the work of our hands, confirm and establish it.
*Stay on the course, the path God has taken you on…
You’re building experience and that’s what gives hope in suffering. There’s no way to develop this kind of strength, this kind of toughness, this kind of durability without suffering first. If the coach has scheduled a triple session for you right now, don’t despair. Don’t give up. Don’t quit. Don’t leave practice. Let suffering develop patience, let patience develop experience, let experience develop hope.
You’ll one day thank your Father for the things He denied or the things He postponed for your good. Relax, let your Father drive. You’ll love the destination.*
And the Lord answered me [Us] and said, Write the vision and engrave it so plainly upon tablets that everyone who passes may [be able to] read [it easily and quickly] as he hastens by.
For the vision is yet for an appointed time and it hastens to the end [fulfillment]; it will not deceive or disappoint. Though it tarry, wait [earnestly] for it, because it will surely come; it will not be behindhand on its appointed day.
Amen and Amen!
Much Love And Much Blessings In Christ,
Kim@
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Thank you Kim for the confirmation thru Gods word
I appreciate it 
Was lovely reading your post – it is on target & Gods word never returns void but will accomplish what he desires and achieve the purpose for which it was sent Isaiah 55:11
Amen!
Yes!~
You [We] will go out in joy
and be led forth in peace;
the mountains and hills
will burst into song before you,
and all the trees of the field
will clap their hands.
Instead of the thornbush will grow the juniper,
and instead of briers the myrtle will grow.
This will be for the LORD’s renown,
for an everlasting sign,
that will endure forever.”
& Amen, Again!…
“Come, all you who are thirsty, come to the waters; [Jesus!]”
May Love and Blessings, Happiness and Joy Be Yours & Mine in Christ, Jesus!
Kim@
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