Another type of email that we keep receiving on a very regular basis is the exact title of this article – why do some Christians behave so badly?
If we are new creations in Jesus Christ as a result of being saved and born again through His shed blood, and we now have the Holy Spirit literally living on the inside of us to help guide, teach, convict, empower, and sanctify us in this life, then how can so many Christians be getting into so much off-the-cuff, bad behavior with the Lord?
Many of these types of bad-behaving Christians are also chasing many nonbelievers away from the Lord instead of leading them to Him as a result of them making very bad representatives for our Lord.
Many nonbelievers are wrongly judging our God by our actions, words, and deeds – and when they see some Christians behaving very badly in their marriages, in their work places, and in their social environments, they will shy away from checking what our faith is really all about. And this is all due to the hypocritical bad behavior of so many Christians who are not being properly sanctified by the Lord.
What I am talking about in this article is not every minor flaw and imperfection we all have in our personalities.
We all have our rough edges that need to be smoothed out and cleaned up by the Lord. What I am talking about is behavior that would be considered off-the-cuff and pushing the envelope with the Lord.
This kind of bad behavior is what many Christians consider to be unacceptable in the eyes of God since this kind of behavior is going so blatantly against His ways of living for us in this life.
Here were some of the things many people were pointing out to us in the emails we have received on this topic. I have also seen a lot of this kind of activity occur myself in the business world in which I worked in for 30 years.
- Extreme Verbal Abuse
- Physical Abuse
- Very Harsh, Mean, Judgmental, Critical, Demeaning Spirits
- Very Prideful, Arrogant, Know-It-All Attitudes
- Very Controlling and Manipulating Spirits
- Willing to Spread False Rumors and Malicious Gossip
- Various Types of Criminal Activities
Every time we receive these types of emails, people keep asking us the same question over and over again. How can so many Christians behave like this when they have been born again and have the Holy Spirit literally living on the inside of them?
If it is the job of the Holy Spirit to convict and straighten out this kind of bad behavior, then why is He not doing this more with these kinds of bad-behaving Christians?
Many of these bad-behaving Christians are regularly attending their local churches. Many of them have been brought up in good Christian homes.
But yet somewhere along the line some of this kind of bad behavior starts manifesting in their personalities, and instead of getting it quickly dealt with and taken out, it just keeps getting worse until they finally develop strongholds with this kind of bad behavior getting solidly ingrained in their personalities.
I know you all have come across other Christians who are engaging in this kind of unacceptable behavior with the Lord. Some of you have tried to talk to and reason with these people, but to no avail. Many of them are full of so much pride, they will never be able to admit to anyone, including God Himself that they have anything wrong with them.
The Bible tells us that pride will come before the fall, and the reason for this is because pride will blind you and prevent you from being able to see the truth on what is wrong with you.
As a result, these kinds of Christians will never accept any kind of constructive, godly criticism from anyone, including God Himself. This is why the Holy Spirit is not moving on some of these people, because they would not be open to receiving His conviction and truth in the first place.
With many of these people still attending church, and with many of them having already been brought up in good Christian homes, then why is this happening?
If they have been brought up in the Bible and all the ways of our Lord, then how can they justify this kind of bad behavior when the Bible is so blatantly pointing out to them that this kind of bad behavior is totally unacceptable in the eyes of God?
After watching quite a few of these bad-behaving Christians myself in the work place, in their marriages, and in their social environments, I have come to the conclusion that there are 5 main reasons why these people are not changing for the better in their walks with the Lord.
Here are the 5 main reasons, and then I will talk about each one of them under the captions below so you do not let this kind of bad behavior bother you, upset you, distract you, or knock you off course with what God is wanting to do with your life in the divine plan He has set up for you.
- They Have Not Established a True, Good, Personal Relationship With the Lord
- They Are Not Operating in a True Full Surrender With the Lord
- They Are Not Reading and Studying Enough From the Bible
- They Are Not Being Properly Sanctified by the Holy Spirit
- Some of Them Will Have Demons Attached to Them
Years ago when I found out that the Bible was the real Word of God to all of us, I literally tore into it so I could find out exactly how God was wanting us to live in this life for Him.
And as I studied and started to put things together, there were several things that were jumping off the pages at me as to what God would be looking for from each one of us.
This is one of the main reasons my brother and I wanted to put this kind of website together, to show people what some of these basic areas were so they would then know what to try and develop with the Lord.
And some of those main areas are exactly what some of these bad-behaving Christians are not doing with the Lord.
Now I will go into each one of these 5 areas under the captions below so you can at least have an understanding as to why some Christians are not spiritually growing and changing as they should in the Lord.
5 Reasons Why Some Christians Behave Badly
1. They Have Not Established a True, Good, Personal Relationship With the Lord
The first major thing that will jump out at you when you study the Bible from cover to cover is that God is calling each man and each woman He has ever created to come into intimate fellowship with Him.
In other words, God wants to establish a good, strong, intimate, personal, love relationship with each person He has created.
The fact that God the Father would send down His only and only begotten Son Jesus Christ down to our earth to go through the most bloody, barbaric, and brutal death known to mankind when He came down here, all just to be able to get us back to Himself, shows us more than anything else how much God and Jesus really do love all of us.
As such, God now wants to take this scenario one step further. He wants each one of us to press in and draw close to Him so we can start to establish this kind of good, strong, intimate, personal relationship with Him.
What I have found with some of these bad-behaving Christians is that they may say they love Jesus and have a very good relationship established with Him, but their bad actions are not lining up with what they are telling everyone else with their mouths. In other words, they are talking the talk, but they are not really walking the walk.
No sooner do they get out of church and they are back home verbally and physically abusing their spouses and children at home. They are back out continuing to have affairs behind their spouse’s back. They are continuing to cause trouble at work by spreading false rumors and malicious gossip on some of their fellow workers.
If these people really had a good, close, intimate, personal relationship with the Lord, then the Lord would also be very close to them.
And if God is very close to them, then He would be convicting and correcting them very quickly when they start manifesting this kind of unacceptable bad behavior – just like good parents will quickly correct a child who is starting to do some bad things that would be considered unacceptable.
The fact that God is not trying to correct some of these people shows me one of two things:
- One, He has either tried to correct them before, but these people are not accepting His constructive criticism and conviction because they do not want to admit they have anything wrong with them in the first place.
- Or two, He cannot even begin to reach them in the first place because they will not be open to receiving any kind of correction and conviction from Him because they already have too much pride operating in them.
But in either event, this shows they may not really have that close of a relationship with the Lord. If they really did, there is no way they would be acting out with these kinds of bad behaviors.
If you really want to spiritually grow in the Lord and be truly sanctified by the power of His Holy Spirit, then the first step is that you have to establish a very good personal relationship with the Lord.
This is the absolute first step for every single Christian. Many Christians have not established good personal relationships with the Lord for various reasons and as a result, there is very little if any true spiritual growth occurring in their lives.
Jesus is the vine and we are the branches. Just like the branches draw their life from the vine, we have to draw our life from Jesus. And the very first step into being able to draw Jesus’ divine life into us is by establishing a good, close, personal relationship with Him.
There is no other way. There are no other shortcuts you can take to achieve true spiritual growth in this life. And many of these bad-behaving Christians are missing this very first important step.
2. They Are Not Operating in a True Full Surrender With the Lord
Another major reason why many of these bad-behaving Christians are so out of control with their fleshly actions is that they are not walking in a true full surrender with the Lord.
As we have already explained in our detailed article titled, “The Full Surrender,” the second thing that God is going to want from you is for you to come into a full and complete surrender of your entire life so He is fully free to guide you into the divine destiny that He already has set up for your life.
Unless you first come into this full surrender with God, He is not going to be working full force in your life to lead it into the specific directions He will want it to go in. And if God is not working full force in your life, then you may not make much spiritual growth in Him because the Holy Spirit is also not working with you full force on the inside.
If you want to get God to start moving full force in every area of your life, then you have to make a complete and full surrender of every part of your being and every part of your life over to Him. Again, this is all fully explained to you in our article titled, “The Full Surrender.”
Many of these bad-behaving Christians are not walking in a true full surrender because they do not want anyone telling them how to run their lives, which will include God Almighty Himself. They know if they enter into this full surrender, that God will be coming after a lot of their bad behavior patterns, and many of them do not want to give up this kind of bad behavior since they are actually feeding off it.
Christians who are out living very sexually promiscuous lifestyles are receiving a certain amount of sexual gratification from it. They know what they are doing is wrong in the eyes of God, but yet they still keep on repeating the same kind of behavior over and over again because of the sexual pleasure and gratification it is giving to them.
So the second main reason these Christians are not making any improvements in their bad behaviors is because they are not walking in a true full surrender with the Lord.
If they were walking in a true full surrender, then God would be leading them through the Holy Spirit. And if they were being properly led by the Holy Spirit, then there is no way they could continue to stay in these bad behavior patterns, as the Holy Spirit would be leading them right out of it.
3. They Are Not Reading and Studying Enough From the Bible
Once I found out years ago how powerful and divine the Bible really was, I became very surprised as to how many Christians were not regularly feeding off it to any significant degree. A
nd again, this is one of the main reasons we have started up this kind of website, to show people how much incredible working knowledge there is in the Bible, and how this divine knowledge and revelation can literally change your whole life for the better.
One of the things I have found out about the Holy Spirit is that He will become very active in your life if you will spend some kind of regular quality time in the Bible trying to learn as much as you can.
The Holy Spirit needs something to work with in order to cause any kind of true spiritual growth to occur in your life and that something is knowledge.
And the knowledge that He needs to work with is knowledge that comes straight from the Bible.
If you want to spiritually grow in this life beyond what you ever thought was possible, then you have to read and feed from the only and only source that will give you the kind of knowledge that will cause this kind of spiritual growth to occur in the first place.
Bottom line – if you do not read and study from the Bible on any kind of regular basis, then the Holy Spirit will not have anything to work with to change you into the kind of person that God wants you to become in Him.
I have had quite a few Christians tell me over the years they did not need to read the Bible, as the church they were going to was giving them everything they would need to spiritually grow in this life.
Needless to say, many of them were in one mess after another because they did not have enough of the Word in them to keep them out of trouble, as their pastors and priests could only cover so much in a once-per-week sermon.
Many of the bad-behaving Christians I have met in my life had very little Bible knowledge in them. And the ones who did, they were just flat out refusing to listen to and obey God with what He was telling them to do through His Word.
You can read the Word all day long, but if you do not seek to fully understand what God is telling you, and then seek to implement these divine truths into your daily walk with Him, then nothing is ever going to happen and you will make very little if any true spiritual growth in this life.
The truth can only set you free and make you into a better person only if you know what these divine truths are, and then get these divine truths worked into your daily life with the help of the Holy Spirit.
So the third main reason many of these Christians are behaving so badly is because they have either not spent much time reading from the one Book that can give them the knowledge that will change them for the better – or they have read from the Bible, but they are flat out refusing to obey what God is telling them to do through His Word because they do not want anyone telling them what to do or how to live their lives once they are outside the four walls of their churches.
4. They Are Not Being Properly Sanctified by the Holy Spirit
If there is one major secret that really jumped out at me once I started to study the Bible, it was in the area of sanctification.
In the Sanctification section of our site, we have an article titled, “Sanctification.” In this article, we give you all of the main verses from the Bible to show you that this is really something big that God wants to do with each one of us.
Once we become saved and born again through Jesus Christ, that is just the beginning. Once we accept Jesus as our personal Lord and Savior, we will immediately receive the Holy Spirit. He will literally come on the inside of us to take up residence in our human spirits.
And once the Holy Spirit is on the inside of us, one of the greatest things God wants to do with each one of us is to sanctify us, to make us into a better and more holy people. He wants to set us apart and consecrate us unto Himself. He wants to transform us into the express image of His Son Jesus.
However, this sanctification process is a two way street.
God needs your full consent and full cooperation before He will begin this type of deeper work within you. The Holy Spirit will be the One to sanctify you to the degree that God would really like to get you to in this life. But this is something that you will really have to want, as God highly respects your free will in this area and He will not push this on you unless you really want Him to do this with you.
If there is one major reason why some Christians are not changing for the better and making much spiritual growth in their lives, it has to be because they have never entered into a true sanctification process with the Lord.
Unless you get into the Bible to seek out the knowledge that will change you for the better, and then work with the Holy Spirit and His divine power to get these divine truths worked into your mindset and personality, then nothing is ever going to happen in your spiritual life with the Lord.
If the Holy Spirit starts to transmit and impart His divine love into your personality as one of His 9 fruits, but you refuse to operate on that love with your words, actions, and deeds to others, then nothing is ever going to happen.
If the Holy Spirit starts to impart His self-control in you as one of His 9 fruits so you will have His power to clean up your foul speech and the way you talk to others, and you refuse to change the way you speak to others, then again, nothing is ever going to happen and you will never change into the kind of saint God wants you to become in Him.
In our article titled, “Sanctification,” we give you a good sample prayer that you can use to get you into this realm with God, along with some pointers as to what to look out for once the Lord starts to do this kind of deeper work within you.
Again, I cannot shout out this particular secret loud enough. It is is the Word and the Spirit working together that will change you into the kind of saint that God wants you to become in Him in this life.
Seek after the knowledge you will need to change for the better from the Bible, and then work with the Holy Spirit and His divine power on the inside of you, and then you will change for the better – and it can happen right here in this life to some appreciable degree.
Every single, bad-behaving Christian I have met in my life has not entered into a true sanctification process with the Lord.
And if they have not entered into a true sanctification process with the Lord, then the Holy Spirit is not going to be working with them on the inside to clean them up. And they will thus stay stuck right where they are at, never having the inner strength on their own to change themselves for the better.
And from there, they will just keep repeating their same bad behaviors, contaminating everyone around them with their toxic personality qualities.
5. Some of Them Will Have Demons Attached to Them
As a result of some of these bad behaviors being more on the extreme side, some of these people will end up drawing demons after them. And once the demons have attached to them, they will then try to make these bad behaviors even worse than what they already were.
Christians who are living in very sexually promiscuous type lifestyles can easily draw demons of lust and perversion. And once these kinds of nasty and foul demons attach to them, they will then have a harder time of trying to break away from it. And from there, they may need a full scale deliverance once the demons have been attached to them long enough and have become solidly entrenched in their lives.
Again, as we have said in many of the articles in our Spiritual Warfare section, demons cannot make you do anything against your own free will.
They can plant their evil thoughts and suggestions in your mind, and also give you the desire and compulsion to want to do their evil bidding, but each person can still resist them and not act out on their evil suggestions.
Just because a demon is trying to get you to commit fornication does not mean you have to do it. God held Adam and Eve totally accountable for eating the fruit off the one tree He told them to stay away from.
Even though it was the devil who tempted and persuaded them to do it, they still had their own free wills and they both could have easily said no to the devil. As a result, God held them both totally accountable and He will do the same with each one of us.
For the most part, Christians who are acting out with these bad behaviors are not going to be able to use the excuse that the devil made them do it once they appear before Jesus at His Judgment Seat in heaven.
They will have to answer to the Lord for everything they have said and done in this life, all of the good with all of the bad. And the excuse that the devil made them do it is not going to be washing with the Lord on most of these bad actions and behaviors.
I will end this article with three thoughts.
1. When it comes to Christians who are acting out with some of the above bad behaviors, you can classify them into one of two groups.
One is the group that is full of so much pride and arrogance, they will never accept any kind of constructive criticism from either God Himself, or any other Christians God may send across their paths to try and help get them straightened out.
They are bound up in their own tunnel vision and they do not see they are doing anything wrong, even though all of the above bad behaviors are going directly against God and His Word.
They have already found enough reasons to justify this kind of bad behavior and that is why many of them will never change throughout their entire lives.
2. Then you have the second group.
This group does realize that what they are doing is wrong, but they have been behaving like this for so long, they no longer have the will power to change themselves for the better.
This bad behavior has now become a mental and emotional stronghold, and they will now need the power of the Holy Spirit to get this bad behavior broken off their backs and taken out of their personalities.
To those of you who are in this second group, realize that there is nothing that our all-powerful God cannot do.
If God was able to change and turn the apostle Paul, then He can change and turn anyone else as well, no matter how bad your behaviors have been over the years.
If you have been in these bad behavior patterns for a long time, and you have not been able to get them worked out of your personality, we can recommend three very good articles for you so you can see how to get God to move on your behalf.
God will work through the power of the Holy Spirit on the inside of you to take out these bad behaviors, but it will really help if you knew what to do on your end to help facilitate this kind of a deliverance.
Please read these three articles, as they will each give you the steps you will need to take with the Lord before He will move full force to clean you up on the inside:
The last article will show you how God will roll up His sleeves and get right down there in the trenches with you to pull you out of these bad behaviors.
You can be totally set free from these bad behaviors if you will realize they are bad and unacceptable in the eyes of God in the first place – and then be willing to work with the Lord for an actual deliverance.
3. To those of you who are living and/or working with any bad-behaving Christians, the first thing we would recommend is to see if they would be open to receiving any kind of counseling from the church you go to if they are not open to listening to you.
If your spouse is out of control with how they are acting and behaving, sometimes they will be open to working with a good Christian counselor if they are remorseful and repentant enough and know they have some problems that need to be dealt with.
However, if you are dealing with a bad-behaving Christian who is the first type mentioned above where they are never wrong and would never be open to any receiving kind of good Christian counseling, then all you can do is keep praying to God that He make a very heavy move on them. Sometimes it will take God making a very heavy move on them like He did with the apostle Paul before they will be able to see the errors of their ways.
Some of these people will literally need to be knocked off their high horses by God Himself before they will be able to see how wrong their behaviors have been over all of the years, and how they have severely mistreated all those around them. And again, if God can knock the apostle Paul to the ground and change and turn him for the better, then He can also do the same thing with every single, bad-behaving Christian.
Your job is to pray for these people behind the scenes, as God is going to be the only One who will be able to reach them and change them.
In the meantime, if you are living very close to a bad-behaving Christian, do not let their bad behaviors and actions stop you or deter you from progressing further on in the divine call and plan that God has set up for your life.
Do not let their threats and condescending put-downs knock you off the path that God has set up for your life.
Realize why these people are the way they are, and then get on with the rest of your life and fully complete your divine destiny for the Lord. Sooner or later, God will be dealing with all of them on the trouble and chaos they have inflicted on all those around them.
Professional athletes have a very common saying that helps to keep them focused and on their game, and that saying is – “KEEP YOUR EYES ON THE BALL.”
The ball is Jesus and the perfect plan that He has set up for your life. Keep your eyes on Jesus and the perfect plan that He wants you to be walking in on a daily basis, and everything else will eventually be taken care of by Him, including any bad-behaving Christians you may be living with or working with.
So do you know any Christians who behave badly? I would start off by praying for them before sending them this article. 🙂