Is Monogamy The Only Marriage God Approves?

Marriage controversy: The bible support other forms of marriage other than monogamy

From Billy Hallowell at the Blaze:

“Three professors with intricate knowledge of the Christian Bible came together to pen an article in the Des Moines Register this week intended to challenge that perception that the holy book only supports marriage between one man and one woman. This assertion — one that is, quite naturally, overtly controversial — will likely spark a plethora of discussion and debate.”

“As academic biblical scholars, we wish to clarify that the biblical texts do not support the frequent claim that marriage between one man and one woman is the only type of marriage deemed acceptable by the Bible’s authors,” the scholars wrote.”

These three professors claimed that, to say that the bible only supports one man and one woman marriage amounts to lack of understanding of the scripture, and that such teaching was born out of the attempt to condemn gay marriage.

They claimed that many polygamous biblical figures were blessed by God, despite the fact that they had two wives, and even went further to give cases of where God allow people to marry even in situations that are not considered to be normal; like when a lady is raped by a man, the man is allowed to be married to the lady Deuteronomy 22:28-29.

The case of David after committing adultery was also quoted, when God said; “I gave you your master’s house, and your master’s wives into your bosom. … And if all this had been too little, I would have given you even more” 2 Samuel 12:8.

With all of the above points, Avalos, Cargill and Atkinson concluded that the bible supported much more than one form of marriage.

The major point that these writers and their supporters must understand is that marriage was instituted by God and not man; hence, He has his own idea of what marriage has to be. In fact, Adam, the first man was not even aware that he needed a wife, it was God that thought that it was not good for him to live alone, and then made Eve available to him.

Just because God knew that issues like this will come up, right from Genesis chapter 2 he said,

For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother, and be joined to his wife; and they shall become one flesh. – New American Standard Version (1995)

The writers should note here that the bible says ‘wife’ and not ‘wives’, if it is the original plan of God for man to marry more than one wives, the bible would have said so, at least in one portion of the book.

The fact that God allows it does not mean that He was happy with it, and does not mean that we should walk into it when we already know the truth.

In the Deuteronomy God allows divorce because of the hardness of the heart of the people of Israel, it will be foolish to then conclude that God wholeheartedly supports divorce.

Father, open our eyes to behold your truth, acknowledge, and do it.

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  1. Stephen Tannis - December 5, 2013 at 5:30 pm

    I enjoyed your opinion . And although I do indeed support your opinion and have read many countless scriptures of one man to one wife , all throughout the bible , I still consider King David and King Solomon to be great and Holy men of the bible in the old testament and envy the fact that they had many wives and that God approved of this lifestyle , and it was perfectly ok . Both for the wives and for the man.
    I am Christian . And a faithful husband of 20 years . And yes the devil tempts and the flesh is weak . It is a constant struggle to fight the good fight every day . I must put on my armor of the Lord every day before I leave the house . Through His grace comes righteousness and discernment . I submit to God’s rule for His children that one man for one woman and the two become one flesh . But what I would like to know , is when did the rule change . I think I would have been quite capable of living like King David , maybe not with 8 wives and 300 concubines , but perhaps with 3 or 4 wives .

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