Forgive and Forget

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Over the years, one of the things I have seen numerous Christians have a problem with, was letting fully go of some of the sins of their past.

And not only could they not let fully go of some of their own past sins, but they also could not let go of some of the sins from others who were very close to them such as their spouses, parents, children, and some of their close personal friends.

They knew God had fully forgiven both them and their other friends and family members due to the blood that Jesus has already shed for those sins on the cross, but they still had a very hard time in letting all of them fully go.

They would constantly keep bringing up the past on both themselves and others, and would just keep harping on it and not let it fully go.

As a result of not being able to let the sins of their past fully go, they ended up with a very negative type of thinking in their minds and thought process, and thus were not very pleasant to be around with due to all of the negative energy they were carrying around on them. I am sure most of you know Christians who are still doing this on a regular basis.

I have really seen this occur in many marriages, where one or both spouses keep bringing up the sinful past of their spouse, even though they know full well that God has already fully forgiven their spouse for the sins that have been confessed and repented of.

I have heard many of them say they can forgive their spouse for what they had done in their past, but they just can’t forget about it and let it fully go.

As a result, this causes them to hang on to the sins of the past, dragging both them and anyone else who may be close to them down into this negative and morbid type of thinking.

For those of you are still doing this with the Lord – either with yourself or someone else you may be close to – there is one very special, powerful verse that is back in the OT on what God will want you to do with any sins that are not only in your past, but also any sins that may be in the past of people who may be very close to you like your spouse, parents, and any of your children or personal friends.

Bottom line on all of this – the blood of Jesus Christ will cover every single sin that a man or a woman will ever commit in this life with the exception of the sin of blaspheming the Holy Spirit.

The blood that Jesus has already shed for all of us on the cross will thus fully wash away every single sin that we have ever committed in this life.

If a person has fully confessed out their particular sin against the Lord and has fully repented of it, then the blood that Jesus has already shed for them will wash them fully clean of this particular sin and this sin will then be fully forgiven by God the Father.

And if that sin has been fully forgiven by God the Father, then we need to let that sin fully go and not keep harping on it and keep bringing it back up, either for ourselves if the sins were ours to begin with, or if the sins were in the past of someone else we are close to.

As Christians, we already know all of this. However, there is one more verse that you really need to add into this mix so you can get the full effect of what God the Father will be asking you to do on any past sins you may be dealing with.

In our article titled, “God Will Forgive All of Your Sins,” we give you many of the main verses from the Bible on how God will fully forgive you of your sins if you will just confess them out to Him.

But there is one special verse in that mix that I wanted to draw out for you and put in this article if there are any of you who are still battling with this kind of nagging problem with the Lord. And that one special verse is telling us that in addition to God fully forgiving us of all our sins, that God will also not remember any of our sins once He has fully forgiven them.

God will obviously always have full memory of every single little thing that we have ever done in this life since His knowledge and memory of all things is completely perfect.

But what this verse is telling us is that if God is no longer going to want to remember any of our past sins once they have been fully washed away by the blood of Jesus, then we need to do the exact same thing for both ourselves, anyone else who may be close to us, and any strangers who have trespassed against us.

We too will obviously never forget the sins of our past since our memories will store everything that has ever happened to us.

But what God wants us to do based upon the wording of this special verse is to let those sins go and not keep bringing them back up for either yourself or those who are close to you.

This is now water under the bridge and we do not need to keep reminding ourselves or others of these forgiven and forgotten sins, since this is how God now views our past sins and mistakes.

By constantly dwelling on these past sins and mistakes and throwing them back in the faces of those who are close to you will just make it that much harder to get over them and get on with the rest of your life in the Lord.

As we explained in our article titled, “Letting Go of Your Past,” there just comes a time where each Christian has to let the baggage of their past go, which will include all of their past sins.

You cannot keep holding on to some of these past sins. If you do, you will end up carrying around a 50 pound anchor around your soul which will end up driving you and everyone else around you nuts.

This is way too much negative energy to be carrying around on you, and this kind of excess baggage has to be cut off. It is not, it will severely hamper your walk and your divine destiny with the Lord.

This kind of negative energy will also affect and contaminate anyone else who may be close to you. And before you know it, no one is going to want to be around you, as most people do not want to be around this kind of negative energy. It is just too draining and oppressive to be around.

For those of you who are still having a hard time in fully letting go of some of your past sins for either yourself or someone else who is close to you like your spouse or parents, even though you know God has fully forgiven either you or that someone else, really study and meditate on this one very special and powerful verse I will now give you. Again, this verse is back in the OT and many Christians are not aware of this particular verse. Here it is:

“I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake; and I will not remember your sins. Put Me in remembrance; let us contend together; state your case, that you may be acquitted.” (Isaiah 43:25-26)

When God is using this kind of extreme and intense wording in a particular verse, this means He wants you to really grab a hold of the revelation and knowledge that is in this kind of verse.

And if God is no longer going to want to remember any of your past sins, then you need to do likewise with both yourself and others in your life. And constantly thinking about and bringing up your past sins, or the past sins of others who are close to you, is not abiding by what God is doing for all of us in this verse.

Another verse that will go hand-in-hand with the above verse is one that we keep quoting in some of our other articles, but again, it is worth repeating for this article. Once again, here it is:

“AND WHENEVER YOU STAND PRAYING, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father in heaven forgive your trespasses.” (Mark 11:25)

Notice this verse starts out with the key words – “And whenever you stand praying.” Not only does this verse give us a very dire warning that God will not forgive our own trespasses if we do not forgive what others have done to us, but it adds one more thing in it that we may not even be able to get any of our own personal prayers answered with God since it starts out with the specific words, “And whenever you stand praying.”

Get your prayer life shut down with the Lord, and you will get your whole walk and divine destiny completely shut down with Him as well until you can learn how to abide by this specific command from the Lord.

This is a very serious statement being made by the Lord to all of us and is nothing to mess around with if you have every intention on wanting to fully complete your divine destiny for the Lord in this lifetime.

Again, life is just way too short to be constantly thinking about all of the negatives of your past, especially if some of the sins of your past or other’s past have already been fully forgiven by the Lord. This is why I have named the title of this article, “Forgive and Forget.”

Not only must you fully forgive both yourself and others for their past sins and mistakes, but you must also learn how to forget them, which means to let these past sins go and not keep thinking about them or keep bringing them back up and throwing them back in other people’s faces.

As I said at the top of this article, I have seen many married couples do this with one another over the years and it really causes a lot of stress and strife in the marriage as a result.

The above verse from the Lord on how He will not remember any of our past sins that have been fully forgiven is really a major piece of revelation, and it is something that every Christian should try and do as best they can with both themselves, those who are close to them, and any strangers who may have hurt them in the past.

If any of you are still having a hard time in letting go of some of your past sins due to the guilt that you may still have with some of them, or due to the seriousness of the actual sin itself, just ask God in prayer to help you get a grip on this and break this kind of stronghold off you by the power of the Holy Spirit. God will do this for you if you will just simply ask Him in prayer.

Conclusion

I know some Christians may have a hard time in doing both forgiving and forgetting on some of their past sins or the sins of those who may be close to them.

If you have just caught your spouse cheating on you in your marriage and they are really sorry for it and have gone before the Lord to both confess and repent of this sin, it may take a while for you to both fully forgive and fully forget this kind of heavier transgression, since the sin of adultery cuts right into the heart, love, and trust of a marriage.

But over time, with the help of the Holy Spirit, you will be able to fully forgive your spouse if they are truly sorry for it and are truly remorseful for doing this to you. Wounds can be fully healed by the Lord and marriages can be fully restored if both people will work with the Lord during the healing process.

I have seen the Lord fully heal and fully restore many marriages where one of the spouses was caught cheating on the other.

This same principle will also apply to what others outside the marriage may have done to you such as a drunk driver killing one of your family members.

These kinds of heavier trespasses against you will not be easily forgiven and forgotten at the outset. But again, over time, the Lord can help heal your wounds and show you how to fully forgive these kinds of people so you can get on with the rest of your life and complete what He has in store for you.

For those of you who may be still having a very hard time in forgiving and forgetting some of these heavier kinds of trespasses against you, we have a very special article that will show you how to deal with this.

The title of this article is, “How to Handle Negative Feelings When Wronged by Someone Else.” Just click on the blue link that we have the title of this article on. This article is at the bottom of the Sanctification Section.

I will now leave you with two more good verses that will add more to the above two verses. Both of these verses have to do with learning how to let fully go of our past, which will include all of our past sins and transgressions that were made against the Lord. Here they are:

  • But Jesus said to him, “No one, having put his hand to the plow, and looking back, is fit for the kingdom of God.” (Luke 9:62)
  • “Not that I have already attained, or am already perfected; but I press on, that I may lay hold of that for which Christ Jesus has also laid hold of me. Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, FORGETTING those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead. I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:12)

These two verses by Jesus and Paul perfectly say it all. The first verse from Jesus is Him flat out telling us that we are not fit for His kingdom if we keep looking back and dwelling on our past.

The sooner you can let go of your past and all of the sins in it, the sooner you can enter into your true calling with the Lord and complete all of the divine missions and assignments that He has in store for you in this life.

Stay bound up in your past, which will include not being able to let go of some of your past sins, and you will stay stuck and grounded in your divine destiny with the Lord until you can learn how to get those heavy chains broken off you.

Notice that Paul uses the specific words in the second verse above of “FORGETTING those things which are behind.” Again, this is why I have used both the words of forgiving and forgetting in the title of this article.

Once you have properly dealt with those past sins with the Lord, then you can fully let them go and move on with the rest of your life.

Again, I have seen too many Christians over the years continue to wallow in the sins of either their past or some of their loved one’s past – and most of them have ended up totally miserable and completely shut down in their personal walks with the Lord as a result.

This should not be happening to any Christian since we all have the power of the Holy Spirit on the inside of us to help us get a grip on this kind of a problem and get it broken off our backs.

As we have showed you in our other articles, God will eventually be evening out all of the scores – and that will include anyone who has seriously trespassed against you in this life.

Vengeance belongs to the Lord, not to us. Every believer and nonbeliever will eventually be coming before the Lord for a final judgment, and any unconfessed sins and trespasses will thus be coming before Him at which time He will then appropriately and justly deal with them.

As a result, we can let all of our confessed and forgiven sins fully go not only for ourselves, but for all of those who are close to us in this life.

We do not need to keep bringing up those past sins and mistakes and disrupting the unity and harmony of our households and our personal friendships.

Again, if God is willing to let all of our past forgiven sins fully go to the point that He will no longer want to remember any of them – then we need to do likewise with both ourselves, our family and friends, and any strangers who may have hurt us in the past.

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  1. I’m a 28 year old mother. Last night I was about to go to sleep and I was battling severe anxiety and depression because I had not been praying to God or trusting God. My relationship with God has been a yo-yo the past year and the last few months I’ve just decided to wait on the issue of whether or not to continue believing or not. I have a counselor telling me I might also be bipolar. That’s when I really got upset with God. I didn’t understand why he would give me a mental illness and then expect me to thrive in an environment like this. I was so hurt. But I came to your website, googled something as I cried, “I feel like I have a grudge against god and I don’t want to”. Beautifully written articles. I feel like the void in my heart is filling up with his love. The author explained things to me in a way that I could not only take the grudge away but understand the necessity of suffering and the knowledge about Adam and Eve. I love this website. I am a psychology student. I spend hours trying to do self therapy but nothing works. The answer is God.

  2. I’m on my way forgetting my sins and I already forgive everyone who hurt me,and also I’m on my way forgiving myself..Our Lord God Jesus Christ please help and guide me with my new beginning,to make a new best version of myself .and I know that you’ve always do that. Thank you papa Jesus for everything and I love you,We all love’s you.

  3. My ex wife and I focused our life on our children and never understood what a husband and wife role is. Communication was very poor with us and therefore divorced after 25 years married. My ex has passed on last year from cancer and I never got to sit and confess my ignorance of what a marriage is about and how to treat each other. I daily mull over my ” would a, could a, should a. Sinerioius. I feel guilty and sad we could have talked over this. Thank you for helping me understand this a little better.

  4. How can I forget everything? All those years i thought she was different but then ,. She told me … she did that to me… i dont know what to do how to feel how and what to react i dont know the best and the right thing to do i dont know where to start i dont know what i should do to this heartache ,i cant describe how anger runs in every veins here in my heart… but i think and I believe that there is no other way but God alone…. so please pray for me.

  5. What about sin that was committed that some people that were related to the ones you sinned with could be hurt and damaged if they knew. Some people don’t know what their spouses did and I was involved. Is it my duty to go and tell on them years later and destroy families if I don’t know how the reaction will be or is that evil for evil. I have repented to God and my family and spouse knows but I am wondering if I am responsible for the other parties involved.

  6. The difficulty comes in when the same individual keeps reoffending, and is not remorseful, gets in the pattern of expecting you to forgive while they continue on in self/ego behavior. They want forgiveness and reconciliation with out any responsibility.

  7. what a nice and powerful word. i have forgiven my friends

  8. god just give me a forgiving heart.

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