The Sin of Adultery
know this next topic is going to be a very sensitive one for many in the Body of Christ. Not only are there many unbelievers who are engaging in this sin and transgression against God, but there are many Christians themselves who are violating and breaking this one specific commandment from the Lord.
With the sexual imagery that is now invading our lives from just about every media outlet, many people are battling serious problems with lust. And instead of getting their sexual needs properly met in their marriages, many people are looking outside the boundary lines of their marriages for sexual fulfillment. As a result, you have many Christians who are out cheating behind their spouse’s back and are literally sinning and transgressing against God Almighty Himself.
I cannot even begin to count the number of Christians I have personally met throughout the course of my life who have regularly cheated on their spouses. I have heard many of the men say that their lower half has no conscious, and if they find a pretty or willing woman, that there is no way they could ever say no or pass it up.
Others are not getting their sexual needs met or fulfilled within their marriages. Communication has shut down for different reasons, and as a result, their love life starts to get shut down right along with everything else. As a result of not getting their sexual needs properly met, many of these men start to wander, and before they know it, they have fallen head first into a hot and torrid adulterous affair.
For those of you who really want to know what God the Father thinks about this particular sin, I will give you some very interesting verses from the Bible letting you know exactly what He thinks about this transgression and why it is so deadly in His eyes.
As with all of the rest of the commandments God has given to us through His Holy Word – these specific verses are being given to us for our own benefit and for our protection. Many Christians I have met who are operating in this transgression on a regular and frequent basis have no real fear of the Lord or any respect for His specific commandments on this issue.
As you will see when I list out the specific verses on this topic, this is a very serious offense against the Lord, and many of His own will becoming in for some very severe judgments on this issue once they depart from this life and cross over into the Judgment Seat of Christ for their own personal judgment with the Lord for everything they have ever done or said in this life, whether it be good or whether it be bad.
Consider the following:
- God has the sin of adultery listed as one of His special 10 commandments – “Thou shall not commit adultery.”
- God says that the sin of adultery will be one of the main sins that will keep you out of heaven. I will give you two verses below that will show you that adulterers will not be entering into the kingdom of heaven. Does this edict include Christians? Can a Christian possibly lose their salvation over this one sin by the way these verses are worded if his transgressions in this area have been deemed to be severe enough by the Lord?
- The Bible says that God hates divorce, but that He will allow one spouse to leave the other within a marriage union if one of the spouses has been unfaithful to the other.
- Back in the Old Testament, the sin of adultery warranted receiving the death penalty by way of stoning if one got caught in it.
- Back in the Old Testament when God’s chosen people, the Jews, were abandoning Him and chasing after other gods – God the Father would call them “harlots and adulterers” because they would not stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him. When God calls you an “adulterer” straight to your face in your own personal relationship with Him, you are being called one of the worse things that He can possibly call you.
I personally believe that there is an “angle” on this particular sin that many Christians are not seeing or realizing. Not only are you hurting yourself, your marriage, your spouse, and your children with this deadly sin and transgression, but you are also seriously hurting and damaging your own personal relationship with the Lord Himself.
Here is the angle that many Christians who are regularly operating in this sin are not seeing:
If you cannot stay true, loyal, and faithful to your spouse, to your marriage, and to your children – then maybe God will wonder whether or not you could ever stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him for the rest of your eternal existence once you enter into heaven.
Satan and one third of the angels could not stay loyal and faithful to God for the long run, and look what happened to all of them – they all got cast out of heaven with no chance of ever being able to make it back in again.
The Jewish people back in the Old Testament could not stay true, loyal, and faithful to the Lord in all of His dealings with them, and again, look what happened to all of them as a nation and as a people near the end of the Old Testament. God called them harlots and adulterers, pronounced judgment on them, and tells them that they will be dispersed to the four corners of the globe until the end of time where He would then bring them back to Israel and re-establish them as a nation.
I believe that marriage, and the vows and promises that go along with it, are taken very, very seriously by the Lord – and from there, He will personally watch you as to how you handle the sanctity of your marriage, how you treat your spouse and children, and if you will be tempted to stray and cheat behind your spouse’s back.
Too many people end up taking their marriages for granted after a certain period of time. I believe marriage, and the close personal relationships that should develop between husband and wife, and between parents and their children should only be second to their own personal relationships with the Lord. It should be God, family, and friends – and in that order!
Family – with a beautiful wife or husband, and with one or more beautiful children, are the greatest blessings and treasure that God can bestow upon you in this earthly life next to Him, His Son Jesus, and His Holy Spirit. And yet as great as this blessing and treasure really is, there are so many people who are willing to discard it, sever it, and cheat on it once they hit a few minor speed bumps in the marriage.
To those of you who are married and are either thinking about committing adultery behind your spouse’s back, or if you are already doing it – study the wording, the tone, and the straight forward messages that are coming out the verses I will list below. Study these verses very, very carefully. Once you read these verses, you will have been properly warned by God Himself through His Word, and you will know, without any other possible interpretation, exactly what God the Father’s opinion really is on this issue.
Bottom line – if you are having any problems in your marriage, commit your life and your marriage back into God the Father’s hand, and ask Him to help heal, restore, and straighten out any thing that needs repairing. Be guided by the Holy Spirit as to what steps you should be taking on your end to get the marriage back on solid ground with you, your spouse, and with God. Tackle your problems and issues head on, operating under God’s knowledge, guidance, and wisdom.
Jumping into any kind of an adulterous affair will only make matters worse, and eventually could lead to the complete destruction and dissolution of your marriage if your spouse ever finds out about it. The pain you will cause your spouse and children will be extreme, traumatic, and possibly fatal and final if the transgression has been deemed to be severe enough by your spouse.
If God has completely severed His personal connection to Satan and one third of the angels due to their infidelity and rebellion against Him, and if He will allow a full marriage union to be completely broken, severed, and dissolved if one of the spouses becomes guilty of committing adultery – do not tempt the fate of your married life for a few moments of fleshly and carnal pleasure. The gamble and the risk is simply not worth it – either for you, your spouse, or your children.
Now on to some very interesting verses from Scripture as what God really thinks about this specific sin and transgression.
1. Thou Shall Not Commit Adultery
Without question, the very first verse to be considered has to be the command God the Father gave Moses when He was giving him the 10 commandments – where one of the specific commandments was: “Thou shall not commit adultery.”
When God the Father goes to the length and intensity to meet with this one man on the top of a mountain to personally give him 10 specific commandments engraved on a tablet of stone – you know that each one of these specific commandments should be taken very, very seriously.
These 10 commandments should not be trifled with or taken for granted in any way, shape, or form. And with God the Father Himself personally writing on a tablet of stone “thou shall not commit adultery,” you know we are dealing with a very serious warning from the Lord on this issue.
Bottom line – adultery is forbidden territory for any Christian to be crossing over into and should be avoided at all costs. If it is not, and you do not pull out of it within a reasonable length of time and get this sin confessed and forgiven under the Blood of Jesus, you will have to face the Lord for a personal judgment on this issue when you meet Him face to face at His Judgment Seat.
Here is this powerful one-line command given direct to us from the mouth of the Lord Himself. This is coming from the verse where all 10 commandments are being given to Moses:
And God spoke all these words, saying: “I am the Lord Your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage. You shall have no other gods before Me … You shall not commit adultery …” (Exodus 20:1-14)
When God the Father tells us that we should not be committing adultery, this should be the end of the discussion. God says what He means and means what He says!
2. Adultery is a Sin
Since God is commanding all of us in the above commandment not to be committing adultery – what this now means is that if we do it, then we have now committed an actual sin and transgression directly against Him. So not only are we hurting ourselves, our spouse, and our own children with this kind of unfaithfulness, but we are also hurting, grieving, and sinning against God Almighty Himself.
By not being willing to stay true, loyal, and faithful to our spouses, I believe God Himself is hurt and wounded when He sees this kind of transgression occurring in a marriage – and I have to wonder if He is wondering if that adulterer will also forsake and abandon Him sometime in the future if they could not stay loyal and faithful to their original marriage vows and promises.
The very first verse I will list below is telling us that the person who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it will be counted as an actual sin. In other words, if God is telling us as one of His 10 commandments that He does not want any of us to be committing adultery, and we know that, and then we go ahead and violate and break His command anyway – then this transgression will be counted as a sin against us. And then if we do not see the errors of our way on this issue, confess this sin out before God and receive His forgiveness for it, then we will be judged accordingly for this transgression at the Judgment Seat of Christ when we die and cross over.
Here are 3 very good verses on sinning willfully against the Lord, and what the consequences could be if we do not get this sin and transgression dealt with very early on with both God and our spouse:
- “Therefore, to him who knows to do good and does not do it, to him it is sin.” (James 4:17)
- “Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God,” for God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.” (James 1:13)
- “For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 6:23)
Notice in the second verse that it is telling us that God will never tempt us with anything that is evil and not right in His sight. If God is telling us not to be committing adultery, then this means He will never lead or authorize us to even consider committing any kind of an adulterous act behind our spouse’s back.
I have come across some well meaning Christians who actually thought that God was leading them into the adulterous affair they had fallen into. Their marriages had severely deteriorated over the years, but instead of going direct to God and committing the marriage back into His hands and ask for His guidance, knowledge, and wisdom on how to heal and repair the broken marriage, they assume they now have the right to look for and find happiness in the arms of another lover.
And then it happens as the last two verses are telling us – some kind of death will end up occurring as a result of this sin. Either the other spouse finds out about it and files for divorce because of the transgression, or the spouse will try and stay in the marriage to give it one more chance, but now their faith and trust in their spouse has been severely shaken, and sometimes it will then take years to get that same level of trust built back up into the marriage, if it ever does.
Again, this specific command from the Lord not to be committing adultery is being given to all of us for our own good. For those of you who have been on the receiving end of it, you know what kind of extreme pain and heartache this kind of sin will cause, and the damage that it will do to the love, faith, and trust of the marriage.
3. Abstain From Fleshly Lusts Which War Against the Soul
When people commit adultery, they are usually doing it for one of two main reasons. They are either trying to find true love in another person and are out looking for an actual love affair, or they are doing it for just pure lust, sexual gratification, and pleasure.
Many adulterous men I have met are out chasing other women behind their wife’s back, and the only reason they are doing it is for the challenge and thrill of being able to get another woman to go to bed with them. They make no bones about it. They are not looking for any kind of true love. The only thing they are looking for is immediate gratification of their sexual and lustful desires.
To many of these men, it is nothing but a game, and they do not care who they hurt or wound in the process – whether it be their wives if they ever find out about it, or the women they are seducing into their lustful, carnal, and primal world.
To any Christian man or woman who is out committing adultery for the pure lust and sex of all of it, study the wording in these next set of verses very carefully. The very first verse I will list is telling us that we have to try and abstain from fleshly lusts that will war against our souls. And one of the fleshly lusts that it is definitely referring to is the temptation to want to chase after other partners for the pure sex and lust of all of it.
The second verse then puts the icing on the cake when it tells us that any man who attempts to join himself sexually with another woman considered to be any kind of a harlot before the Lord – that he will become as “one body” and “one flesh” with her.
God is telling us in this very intense verse that our physical bodies have not been made for sexual immorality, but have been made specifically and solely for Him. This is why God will not condone any kind of sexual activity outside the bounds of holy marriage. Our bodies have only been made for the Lord and the one that He will want us to marry in this life – they were not meant for anyone else.
This second verse is also telling us that God is wanting us to literally “flee” from any kind of sexual immorality. In other words, run for the hills if you are ever faced with the temptation of it.
Here are two very strong verses on this issue:
- “Beloved, I beg you as sojourners and pilgrims, abstain from fleshly lusts which war against the soul …” (1 Peter 2:11)
- “Now the body is not for sexual immorality but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body … Do you not know that your bodies are members of Christ? Shall I then take the members of Christ and make them members of a harlot? Certainly not! Or do you not know that he who is joined to a harlot is one body with her? For “the two,” He says, “shall become one flesh.” But he who is joined to the Lord is one spirit with Him. Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from God, and you are not your own? For you were bought at a price; therefore glorify God in your body and in your spirit, which are God’s.” (1 Corinthians 6:13)
This second verse is a real mouthful! With our physical bodies now being the temple of the Holy Spirit Himself as a result of our conversions to the Lord, God simply does not want any of us getting contaminated and tainted by sexually joining forces with any other people outside the bounds of holy marriage.
This verse is very graphically and very strongly telling us that we have now become members of Jesus Christ – and as such, God does not want us becoming members with any harlots!
So not only are we sinning against ourselves and our own spouse when we commit adultery, but we are also sinning directly against God and the spiritual union that we now have with Him as a result of having the Holy Spirit living on the inside of us.
If more Christians would consider this angle of an adulterous act – that our bodies now belong to the Lord, and that any kind of adulterous act with another person will be contaminating our spiritual union with the Lord – I think more Christians would think twice before engaging in any type of adulterous behavior.
I believe the way the Lord is wording some of these verses, that any kind of an adulterous act with another is also a form of defilement in His eyes, and that He is deeply grieved and hurt when He sees any of His own engaging in it.
4. The Mouth of an Immoral Woman is a Deep Pit
These next four verses will add perfectly to the ones just listed above. These next verses are giving us major revelation from the Lord for those who like to chase after women who are considered immoral – women who have no qualms about sleeping with whoever they want and not caring if these men are married or not.
Even though God is telling us in these verses what will happen to men if they fall into the beds and arms of these kinds of immoral women – I also believe this same principle applies to women falling for the wrong kind of immoral men – who again, have no qualms about sleeping with whoever they want too, with all of it being for their own sexual gratification and pleasure.
These kinds of immoral men and women are your fatal attractions. Watch what the Lord has to say about these kinds of people, and what these kinds of people could end up doing to your life if you should ever fall into their traps and snares:
- “The mouth of an immoral woman is a deep pit; he who is abhorred of the Lord will fall there.” (Proverbs 22:14)
- “My son, give me your heart, and let your eyes observe My ways. For a harlot is a deep pit, and a seductress is a narrow well. She also lies in wait as for a victim, and increases the unfaithful among men.” (Proverbs 23:26)
- “Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, do not stray into her paths; for she has cast down many wounded, and all who were slain by her were strong men. Her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death.” (Proverbs 7:25)
- “For the commandment is a lamp, and the law is light; reproofs of instruction are the way of life, to keep you from the evil woman, from the flattering tongue of a seductress, do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids. For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread; and an adulteress will prey upon his precious life. Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned? Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared? So is he who goes in to his neighbor’s wife; whoever touches her shall not be innocent … Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; he who does so destroys his own soul.” (Proverbs 6:23, 32)
Notice the first three verses are telling us that an immoral harlot is a deep pit, and that many men have fallen into her pit and have had their lives totally ruined and destroyed as a result.
The third verse is telling us that many “strong men” have been “slain” by her and her ways. We all know what happened to Samson. God anointed this man with probably one of the greatest physical strength anointings that any man may have ever received from Him – and one woman by the name of Delilah was able to find the source of that strength and completely take it away from him in a matter of minutes. One woman accomplished what a whole Philistine army could not do. If that is not perfect proof of what a fatal attraction could do to your life, I don’t know what is!
Notice some of the very strong and intense wording that the Lord is using to show what a fatal attraction like this could do to your life:
- For by means of a harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread
- She lies in wait for her victim and increases unfaithfulness among men
- An adulteress will prey upon his precious life
- Whoever commits adultery … destroys his own soul
- Her house is the way to hell, descending to the chambers of death
When God uses the words that this kind of fatal attraction “is the way to hell” and that anyone who crosses over with her “destroys his own soul” – He is giving all of us a maximum intense kind of warning!
God even goes so far as to throw in a couple of very intense statements when He says that can a man take this kind of fire to his bosom and not get his clothes burned, or can he try and walk on hot coals without getting his feet seared?
I have met many men and women who have been horribly burned by other lovers who were just playing them for the sex they were able to give them. Once these types of players start to tire and bore of you, they will then trade you in for their next new conquest, and you will then be left with either broken hopes and dreams if you are not married, or your own marriage will be left in a state of total shambles if you were doing this as an act of adultery behind your spouse’s back.
Again, God has given all of us more than enough fair warning of the dangers that could lie just around the corner with this sin with the way that He has worded all of these verses.
5. God Will Be Judging All Adulterers
Not only will adultery get you in trouble in this life with both the Lord and your mate if you start cheating on them – but you are also going to get into big-time trouble with the Lord after you die and cross over to meet Him face to face for your own personal judgment.
Some men and women are so clever and so good at keeping their adulterous behavior from their spouses, that they will literally go their entire lives never getting caught or even suspected of cheating by their spouses. However, our life down here on this earth is for just a very short period of time. Sooner or later, we will all depart from this life, and when we do, every single of us will come before the Judgment Seat of Christ for our own individual personal judgments.
The very first verse I will list below will tell us that God the Father will be judging all fornicators and adulterers in this life – no exceptions. The last two verses I will list are both telling us that adulterers will not be entering into the kingdom of heaven. Are these two verses talking about Christians as well as unbelievers? Is it possible for a Christian to lose their salvation if the adulterous behavior has been deemed to be severe enough by the Lord?
In the Current Issues section of our site, we have another article titled, “Can a Christian Lose Their Salvation?” In this article, I give you several good verses that will show you that it might be possible for a Christian to lose their salvation if any of their unconfessed sins are deemed to be bad enough and severe enough by the Lord.
With God listing the sin of adultery as one of His specific 10 commandments, with God stating that the house of a harlot will lead to hell and the destruction of one’s soul, and with God listing the sin of adultery as one of the sins that can keep you from entering into heaven – I would not want to be tempting my eternal fate with the Lord on this issue.
As I stated at the top of this article, maybe God is wondering if you cannot stay true, loyal, and faithful to your spouse and to your marriage vows and promises – then maybe you will not be able to stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him for the rest of your eternal existence once you enter into heaven.
Satan and one third of the fallen angels all lived up in heaven with God initially, but they could not stay true, loyal, and faithful to Him for the long run. As a result, they all got cast out, and they will never, ever get another chance to get back in again!
We obviously will not know for certain whether or not the sin of adultery, if deemed to be severe enough by the Lord, can possibly cause someone to lose their salvation. But with the way all of the above verses have been worded, along with the tone and intensity of some of the wording in these verses, I would not want to roll the dice with the Lord on this issue, thinking that He will turn a blind eye and not really care about it if you decide you want to start playing the field behind your spouse’s back.
Carefully consider the wording in these next three verses:
- “Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but the fornicators and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4)
- “Do you not know that the unrighteous will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived. Neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor homosexuals, nor sodomites, nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners will inherit the kingdom of God.” (1 Corinthians 6:9)
- “Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, licentiousness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19)
Notice the last verse says that those “who practice such things” will not be getting into heaven. The words that those who “practice” such things – is that possibly referring to a Christian who engages in adulterous behavior on a regular and frequent basis, with no remorse, and no intentions on confessing this sin out before the Lord for His mercy and forgiveness?
6. Blessed is the Man Who Endures Temptation
I will leave you with one last very consoling verse on this whole issue. As I said at the top of this article, as a result of the sexual onslaught that we all have to face on an everyday basis with what is coming at us from just about every possible media outlet, many Christians are battling serious problems with lust.
This next verse will tell us that blessed is the man who “endures temptation” – and if that man can endure any kind of temptation by staying out of it, he will then have been “proved” to the Lord and will thus receive a crown of life.
When God is using the word “endures,” to endure temptation, He is letting all of us know that we will all have to face a certain amount of temptations in this life to want to try and cross over into forbidden areas. It is not the temptation that will cross our path that will cause us to sin and get us into trouble with the Lord – it is what we do with that temptation and how we act and respond to it that will cause us to fall and sin.
Many men will have very pretty and seductive women that will cross their path in this life. Adam and Eve had the one tree they were supposed to stay off in their perfect garden. But instead of “enduring” the temptation and not giving in to eating any of the fruit that was on it, they succumbed to the temptation with the help of Satan, and as a result, they fell and lost it all.
Though Satan was the one to initially set the ball in motion by trying to convince and persuade them to eat off this forbidden tree, God still held Adam and Eve personally accountable and responsible for their treasonous act.
In the same way, none of us will be able to blame anyone else before God on our day of judgment with Him if someone else may have seduced us into having an adulterous affair with them. God will hold all of us personally accountable and responsible for succumbing to any of these kinds of heavier temptations, no matter how much someone else may have tempted and persuaded us to cross over with them.
For those of you who are battling any kind of heavier temptation on issues such as these, grab a hold of the wording in this next verse:
“Blessed is the man who endures temptation; for when he has been proved, he will receive the crown of life which the Lord has promised to those who love Him.” (James 1:12)
Life is rough with all of the temptations, trials, and tribulations that we all have to face from time to time. But God has made it very clear through His Word on how we are to handle these types of adversities and temptations. He expects all of us to become good soldiers and overcomers in Him – no matter what life, hell, or the devil may try and throw our way.
Conclusion
For those of you who are engaging in this sin on a very regular and frequent basis, I will leave you with one last warning.
All of the above verses are telling us exactly what God’s opinion is on this issue. There is no other spin or interpretation you can try and put on any of the these verses. They all mean exactly what they are saying.
Adultery is a sin and transgression direct against the Lord Himself, and this sin will eventually be judged either in this life or the next life to come if it is not dealt with down here by going direct to God, confessing it out as a sin, and asking Him for His mercy and forgiveness. This sin can be fully forgiven. This sin is not any type of blasphemy against the Holy Spirit.
No matter how long you have been operating in this sin, no matter how many lovers you have had behind your spouse’s back – there is still total forgiveness, healing, and restoration for you in your own personal relationship with the Lord.
God will fully forgive you if you are truly willing to come before Him with a repentant heart, be willing to admit the errors of your ways, and be willing to confess this sin out for the sin and transgression that it really is before Him.
However, for those of you who do not want to give this sin up for whatever your personal reasons may be, realize that all of the above verses have given you more than enough fair warning. You will not be able to plead ignorance on this issue before the Lord on your day of personal judgment with Him. Even unbelievers and heathens know that adultery is some kind of sin and transgression that will do nothing but eventually bring death to their marriages, to their spouses, and to the children in the family.
Per the article we have titled, “Can A Christian Lose Their Salvation?” – the sin of adultery is definitely listed as one of the sins that will be able to keep you from entering into heaven. Whether or not the verses on this issue are referring to sinning adulterous Christians who are stubbornly and steadfastly refusing to pull out of this sin in this lifetime remains to be seen.
But by the way these verses are being specifically worded by the Lord, I would not want to roll the dice and take my chances that the mercy and grace of Jesus Christ will cover me for this transgression if I have stubbornly refused to pull out of it within a reasonable length of time down here on this earth. And not only will you be gambling with your eternal fate with where you may end up at once you die and cross over, but you are also gambling with the fate of your own marriage should your spouse ever find out about it this side of heaven.
The pain this particular transgression will cause in a family unit once it has been found out and exposed is extreme and traumatic. For those of you who have been on the receiving end of it, I am sure you can testify that it is one of the worse pains that you can ever feel or experience in this life. It feels like someone is taking a knife and just ripping and tearing the inside of your guts right out of you.
And not only will this sin and transgression personally tear your spouse apart, but it will also severely hurt and wound the children in your family if you have any. They will feel hurt and betrayed, and the entire underpinnings of the family unit will be shaken to its very core. Adultery, when fully exposed, will be a spiritual earthquake that will hit a family with full force, and no one will get out of it without receiving some type of emotional injuries and scarring.
So not only are you sinning against your own body with your body being the temple of the Holy Spirit, and not only are you sinning directly against the Lord Himself in your own personal relationship with Him, but you are setting up the rest of your family for a fall of the worse kind if they ever find out about it.
There is simply no upside or advantage for wanting to remain in this sin. Sooner or later you will be called out on it and exposed – either in this life or the next to come.
God will eventually have your hide on this transgression. God will only give you a certain amount of rope to run with and a certain amount of time before He calls you out on this and pulls you in for some type of judgment.
And not only are you tempting your fate with God and your marriage, but you are also tempting the fate of your physical life. We just recently received an email from a man who was living in a very good and wonderful marriage. However, for whatever his personal reasons were for it at the time, he ended up having a one night stand with another woman.
As a result of crossing over into forbidden territory even for just that one time, he ended up getting infected with AIDS. And to make matters worse, not knowing that he was infected with AIDS, he ended up infecting his wife with it. Now they are both going before the Lord asking Him for His mercy, healing, and forgiveness on the situation.
One of the things you will find is that the liberal media is not reporting on how rampant and prevalent sexually transmitted diseases have now become in our world today. We now have many more kinds of sexually transmitted diseases than we have ever had before. And new and different types of strains are developing all of the time. And in many of these strains, there are still no known cures.
In other words, if you get infected with some of these different types of strains, you will have it for the rest of your life, and in some of these cases, you will end up dying and leaving this earth much sooner than maybe the Lord would have really liked. I wonder how many Christians are departing from this life before their time would have really been up in the Lord as a result of the deadly consequences that arose from crossing over into this sin and transgression?
With all of the different types of strains of sexually transmitted diseases that are now out there, you are literally playing Russian roulette every single time you decide to cross over with another partner. You will be sleeping with everyone else they have ever slept with in their past, and all it will take is for you to end up being with the wrong person at the wrong time.
You are literally entering and playing in a land mine field every single time you decide to cross over to engage in this sin – never knowing when one of those land mines will go off and explode right in your face – thereby possibly ruining and destroying your marriage, damaging your personal relationship with your children, severely affecting your personal relationship with the Lord as a result of sinning directly against Him, possibly endangering your own salvation with Him – and then to top it off, possibly infecting yourself with a sexually transmitted disease that will have no known cure!
When you really chew on all of the above negative consequences that can occur with this sin – there is simply no upside or advantage to wanting to remain in it or cross over into it in the first place other than the quick, immediate, sexual pleasure and gratification it will initially bring. But is all that temporary, fleeting, and passing sexual gratification really worth all of the negative and destructive consequences that this sin can unleash in your life?
Any Christian with half a brain who knows God and understands His ways and His commandments, should never, ever tempt their hand with Him by being willing to cross over this kind of forbidden territory. There are simply too many Christians who are engaging in this sin with no fear of the Lord and with no fear of His commandments and judgments on this issue.
God knows exactly what He is doing. Since God is totally and completely perfect in His nature and personality, then He completely and perfectly knows what is in all of our best interests much better than we do.
And when God the Father goes to the extreme length to personally engrave a specific command on a tablet of stone in that He does not want any of us committing adultery – then you know we are dealing with a very serious issue and command from Him – and this command should never be taken lightly or for granted – no matter what the rest of the heathen world may try and tell us with its refusal to want to accept any kind of moral absolutes in their life and how they want to live it.
Our God is a very loving, merciful, and caring God. He has nothing but our best interests at heart with all of the specific commandments He has given to us in how we are to live in this life. These commandments are all being given to us for our own good and for our own protection.
God is giving every single one of us perfect knowledge and revelation on this issue from all of the above verses. However, the ball is now back to each and every Christian. All God can do is tell you from His Word what He is expecting from each one of us on this particular transgression.
Adam and Eve were given total free reign by God to abide by His one specific command to stay off that one tree and they could not do it. As a result, they brought down severe judgment not only on them, but the rest of the human race that would follow after them. Sin of any kind will always have some kind of negative consequence and repercussion to it, and the sin of adultery is no exception.
Once again, God the Father has given us some very good advice and insight from His Word as to why this specific sin and transgression is so deadly in His eyes.
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Can a man be forgiven of Audltery? How can I find my way back to Christ and God? I am lost and it has taken some time to get to this point. We have been separated and all, but I still broke my convient with my wife and God. And to make matters worse, I did it with three women in the last 6 months. My wife and I we separated while living in the same house and while I moved off to Texas. I have done the one thing that will surely end my marriage for good even though my wife says she may want to work out hte marriage, but she does not know yet that it was with three different people, basically one night stands. I have been back slidden for serval years but I knew better. Now, I have lost my salvation and my marriage. I understand that i can not remarry and that is ok, but can I regain salvation and if so how?
I am so empty and now I can definitely understand what God and Jesus means about adultery being a sin against ones body and I will never be the same, and will never be an honorable or respectibale man and father again, and I fear I can never regain my salvation and have hit an all time low. I truly never thought I could have done this type of thing, but I have and it was multible times and i fully am aware that I now must pay the price here on earth and apparently eve nwith my salvation.
If you can give me some guidence (I fully understand that I am unworthy and that I should have asked before I did anything, but unfortunately I never consulted anyone and my wife warned me and I failed to listen) on if it is possible to regain salvation and if a marriage can ever be restored in God’s eyes and made honaorabe in God’s eyes after I commited such a sin and action against my wife, my body, and my God? Please give me the truth, even if there is no hope.
Thanks,
Gary
I knew about adultery, but reading these versus has scared me to death. I am a Christian, married to a non-christian and have experienced some strong issues in my marriage because of it. I committed adultery but have repented and asked for forgiveness and will NOT be doing it again. I do not have any children just a husband. Reading these passages that have been posted suggest that there is no hope for an adulterer. You commit adultery and that is it, you are doomed to an eternity in hell. What about God’s love, forgiveness and mercy?
To you Dear brother in Christ that has been with 3 women in the last 6 months I want to assure you that you have not lost your salvation from committing adultery. You must understand that Christ died for every sin “EVERY SIN”. The only sin that can not be forgiven is “Blasphemy OF THE HOLY SPIRIT” Matt. 12:22-32 Blashemy of the holy spirit means to give up your salvation to cast of the holy spirit that dwells in you. Repentance is the key for forgiveness of Sin. You have stepped into a Attack that will seem as if it will surly take your life. I can speak with direct knowledge on this subject as I to had an affair that lead to the women my mistress becoming pregnant and now having my child. My Dear Friend you are not divorced yet possibly you must confess your sin to God understand the filth of the sin you have committed and GOD will forgive you. If your are divorced or will be divorced you still have forgiveness and you will not loose your salvation…. REPENT The Greek Word to repent means to BURN YOUR HOUSE DOWN & EVERYTHING IN THE HOUSE.Totally turn your life around do not go back into you house “House being your Sin” Remember Lots WIFE in Sodom & Gomorrah she turned to look back upon that sinfully city… Romans 8:38 nothing can separate the love of Christ. The Women at the Well John 4 1:42 Christ after speaking this women about having 5 husbands and being with a man currently that was not her husband ( 5 marriages and having an affair) he offers her forgiveness. Also she being a reject of a person (In the Worlds EYES) lead and inti group of people to Christ.NO you cannot loose your Salvation over your Sin you will however pay consequences for your actions. Despise not the chastising of the Lord whom he correcth he lovet.Proverbs 3:11. Left unrepeated, unconfessed you will not prosper and your life will be held in the state of your sin. Great things can come from rejects and repented sinners, looks at Davids life. David had affairs, Lied, Murdered…. A man after Gods on heart
My husband has left me twice this year for a women, he was driving truck with his old partner he was fired. He told me she was gay!!!! then I found out that was a lie and he left to be with her, he told me that she lets me be me, after 18 yrs am total devastated this is not the first time and I should of known but I trusted him, this is how dumb I’m I would fine her underwear in his cloths and wash them I asked him and he was such a good lair he would say oh they just got mixed up I feel so very stupid. So now I will be on my own and I know it will be only God’s grace that will get me thur this mess.
I am scared, sorry, i feel like the worst woman in this world, i married my husband at a very young age, i was 17, we had a kid at at 16. Along our young marriage we encountered many problems and i cheated. The very same moment i cheated i ran away to find my husband to tell him what i had done, my husband couldnt beleive what i did. He forgave by the Grace of God. I repented and even babtized in the waters and changed. I felt forgiven, however i held feelings for the man i committed adultery with, exactly one year later my husband left to get his citizenship, i was doing so good until i decided to randomly find out how the man i cheated with was doing, it was the worst mistake i ever made! I ended up awakening those old feelings and once again i cheated, i feel disgusted of myself, i feel damned, and i am so frightened, i dont want to do this ever again! I love God, my Husband, and my son, i want to keep my family, but i feel like a hipocryt, how do i tell my husban i cheated with the same person again? He forgave me once, i doubt he will do it again…. i asked God for forgiveness, but will he forgive me after falling for the same sin AGAIN! I just want God to forgive me, i removed all contact with that man again, if he ever tries to talk to me again i dont want to ever respond, i just want to leave this life of sin, and do what it takes for God to forgive me, for the 2nd time, is there any hope? Am i still going to be punished, i am so hurt, my heart, mind, soul, and concious feel so dirty, i dont ever wanna fall again, i want to be forgiven, will God forgive me again? I am so scared, ive been talking to God, ive promised i wont do it again, im trying to remedy what i did by fasting and leaving and changing anything that will keep me away y from his forgiveness, am i headed the right direction? i just wanna do what is right in the eyes of God, will he forgive me again?
First I would like to say this information has truly been a blessing to me. I would like to share a part of my life & pray that me being true will help others in their struggles. In my life I have been married twice. When I got married the first time I went through mental and physical abuse during this time I was not saved and all I knew is that someone else could love me better than the man I married. I knew it was wrong to cheat but i didnt know how wrong. I met a man that I thought was going to love me for life and I ended up divorcing my 1st husband for him. This man almost destroyed my life and I eventually wised up and left him. A few years later I met the man I am married to now and through him I was drawn to Jesus Christ and have been walking with Christ every since. I also discover the love I was looking for in a man will never be like Christ love for me. The Lord used my current husband to save me from hell and suddenly it was like our roles were reversed. I was serving God with all my heart and my current husband started having an affair while i was pregnant. I forgave him andthought things would get better but things got worse. My husband has walked out of our marriage every year of the five years we have been married. He is gone now and I believe there is another woman again and has been each time he has left. I know what the bible says about unfaithfulness in marriage but it also says this is not how it was in the beginning and God hates divorce. I dont have the desire to retaliate because vengence is not mine but God’s.I pray for my husband everyday and that is all I can do for him. I know that he has to be the one to want to change. This has tore my family apart. Him and his daughter live with his parents and my and our 3 year old son live in the apartment. This really hurts because he has chosen to live a separate life and this is not a very good example for our son. At this time all I have is God and He has kept me through these trying times. I want to encourage all to love God first and He will teach you how to love yourself.
Ok, I am struggling with all this.. Good write up with the clear understanding that adultery is sin. On the flip side there an way out of this sin. Just “ Repent and ask for forgiveness” and as you read above, you go out and do it again. But hold on, Just repent and ask for forgiveness. Not to be a pill, but I am lost on what to do…
Currently my wife has fallen to the adultery, not once but many times. I read and see that God approves divorce. On the other hand, while the innocent party may have grounds for divorce, God’s preference is forgiveness and reconciliation. “My vote is forgiveness and reconciliation”, one thing I have no dought about is the wife he provided me. My wife and I are now currently separated and it only been about 40 days.. She contacted me today and now on the trend to come back. Now I lost on how to accept her back. (in a heartbeat not a problem).. I know it is domed to happen again if we don’t get God in our life to follow. I don’t know how to lead her down the correct path. (will the path I believe in).. Worst part I can’t see or hear God wisdom and I keep asking. Don’t know if I blind to hear it or I just don’t understand. I going to pass this web page to her. But as I read, one hand say .. bad and stay away, the other hand says OK, just repent and Its all ok..
FYI – The wright up is outstanding. Thanks
I have found a lot of my questions on this subject answered in this article. The one that I have pondered on the most is adulty in the marriage blashpemy againest the Holy Ghost? I find your explination in line with the word of GOD and I can agree with you. Have faith in GOD my fellow christians ask GODS forgiveness and he will lead you in the way of peace and heaven.JESUS knows what it feels like to be betrayed and his love is eternal for us. I ask daily for forgiveness just because I Love GOD, I believe it is part of my worship of him and I thank him for it constantly in my heart.
To Bob C, I cheated on my husband once, while we were having major problems and i right away told him. He forgave me and i promised him and God i wouldn’t do it again. Our relationship became stronger. Well he has been out of the country for 3 months and i did it once again after 1 year with the same man, we aren’t having any problems this time other than distance. I love my husband with all of my heart. I never wanted to hurt him. I had never been with any one else other than my husband and the man i cheated with. i don’t know that i should tell my husband again, i don’t think he will forgive me a second time, but i know i don’t want to do it again. i removed contact with the other man again. i told him i love my husband, my son, and i didn’t want to lose my salvation. I am very honest about my repentance. I hope your wife is as well. I promise you infidelity is not something i enjoy or have fun with. i believe its a weakness that only the devil enjoys. He always wants to destroy what God has made. Of course it is our choice, i take full responsibility. My husband and i worked through our marriage and remained strong only because we turned to God, but i slipped when he left. I didn’t continue to fight the battle against the devil and stepped a little away from God. He immediately took advantage of it and look at what i did, i know i could have stopped but i didn’t. I think the only way you and your wife will work it out is if you both truly give your life to God. But be careful, don’t give your life momentarily, by only weeks months, or even a years. Do it 100% every day of your life, for the rest of your life. Give it all up and fallow him, he will guide you and he will talk to you. Help your wife find God. It will be hard, the devil will attack, he is evil and is only doing everything to kill, rob, and destroy. But he is damned, and already lost the war, he is only trying to take our souls with him. Whether or not you return with your wife, don’t let the devil take her soul or yours. Fight and withstand it all for there will be battles that only God will help you overcome. I pray everyday that he helps me to never again fall. My husband does’t know i did it again, but i know i stopped for the love of my husband, son, and GOD.
God Bless You All
Let us not forget that this is a spiritual warfare we are in. Satan is against the Word of God and anyone connected to God, satatn wants to destroy. No matter what you are going through or what your situation looks like, obedience to the Word of God is the final answer. Seek The Lord for His truth. This way you are 100% sure you are not operating in your feelings and emotions. Please remember that God forgives us time and time again for our sins and He still loves us the unconditionally. I am not saying it is ok to keep on sinning because its not. But it is not our place to hold a grudge against anyone. We must give it to God and let Him fix it. When you are engulfed in your situations and circumstances, this is a distraction from satan to keep you from doing God’s work. It will cause you to be ineffective in your witness to others. So please use wisdom and be careful. If you are commiting adultery please hear me when I say this: When you are really ready to stop doing so you will stop. With God’s help we can do anything. Please stop giving satan so much credit in your life. Stay in your Word and in through God’s Word you will overcome. True relationship with God changes everything! Seek God instead of your emotions and you will find Him. Seek Him with all you heart. God bless you all!
I believe it is truly all about repentance. To repent is to turn away from your sin – completely turn away. You also have to acknowledge that it is sin and that without Christ we don’t have the strength to do it.
My husband has been involved with his former high school sweetheart/fiance for the past 5 years. We’ve been married for 45 years. She came back into his life 5 years ago and told him that she was so sorry for breaking up with him and has regretted it all her life – has always loved him and wanted him back. He fell for it. When I found out about it a few months later he repented and asked forgiveness. I forgave and we went to counseling and worked very hard on getting our marriage on track. 2 years later he fell into it again and for the last 2 years has been playing in this relationship. I found out about it last December and we’ve been on a roller coaster ever since. He is a spirit filled Christian who satan is trying to take down. He has been a strong prayer warrier and has held board positions in church. Now although he goes to church he wants no part of being active. He refuses to let go of this woman (supposedly no sex – just ‘friendship’). He says he no longer loves me – and his feelings for her are too strong to let go of. For the past year he has told me over and over that they were finished only to have me find out that it was all lies and they never stopped. The lies are amazing – and I just keep believing him because I want our marriage back so badly. The 2 years we were in counseling were the best years of our marriage. We did everything together – he became my best friend.
Now I am just asking God for wisdom. Am I enabling my husband in his relationship with her by staying with him? My daughters say I am. They are so disgusted with him.
I read all the comments here and feel badly for all of us involved in this horror. Thank you Cheryl for your comment – that really sums it all up. Yes of course God forgives – but until you are ready to accept that forgiveness and turn from your ways you will never find peace. My husband has no peace and knows he never will until he gets this woman out of his life. I love him and been committed to stay and pray for/with him until that happens. I’m not sure if I can continue to do that – it will only be by God’s grace, if it is His will.
To Cora:
Amen! My heart goes out to you in themidst of your situation. I want to encourage you to continue to seek God until you recieve an answer from Him. God is ALL POWERFUL & if God wanted to move your husband out of your life for good, He would have already done it. Remember that we have to trust God even when it hurts and doesnt make sense. Our struggles will be a testimony for someone else if we persevere till the end & God will be the one to get the glory! I know that your daughters are tired of seeing you go through this, but this is God’s business. Dont stop praying for your Husband & dont allow this to keep you from working for God. I am without my husband as well and it gets hard sometime because our son is 3 years old. But it only pushes me closer to God.Stay faithful to God and your marriage. God honors our obedience. May God bless you sister.
This is a demonic attack on families, men and women who fall into this sin are weak in multiple ways, they are first and foremost spiritually weak, and they have given into their flesh and desires. As victims of this sin, it’s important to let go and let God have the spouse or mate who has allowed this level of betrayal. The most important thing that can be done is PRAY for a person who is dealing with this issue, most of the time their pride wont allow them to release the sin, it requires deliverance from the Lord. This sin erodes the ability to love which is why a person can continue to function in it. The person who participates in this sin only cares about themselves and the person they are involved with. It’s best to move on with life and ask God for strength and healing for yourself the person that has been betrayed. Also teach your children that this is wrong and that nothing about this sin is their fault, especially daughters when it comes to their fathers betrayal. Remember the enemy is attacking families and destroying marriages, its up to both the husband and wife to pray and fight for their family. One person praying and fighting is not enough. LET GO OF THE THE PERSON AND LET GOD HVE AND DEAL WITH THEM. Move on with your life and trust that God will Bless you with someone better that is faithful and loyal. When the enemy has a person they have to be willing to turn to God, you can pray all night and day, but the reality is it’s free will choice to choose God over sin. Christ is the ultimate gentlemen, he doesn’t force himself on any one.
I Wrote on November 23,11 what had happen to me, then I was given this from a friend. This could’t be said more beautifully, This is written in the Hebrew Talmud a Jewish companion of the first five books to the Torah.
It says: That God counts a women’s tear’s and men are to be warned to make sure that they do not cause their wives pain. (Baba Metzia 59)
God Bless all of you and no matter what God will see us through this.
My ex was a deacon in the church.We divorced,he remarried 3 days after our divorce was final to the woman he as cheating with. She may want to monitor his internet activity,he had a problem with porn,also.He is her 3rd husband. He is now a pastor in a church in FL..What does God think of such a thing…I ask for counseling he told our pastor at the time I was not interested (he Lied). I apologized for my part in the divorce and ask for forgiveness..I feel that our pastor should have tried to do more,he saw business cards of my ex at funeral homes,knowing he also was a pastor,and told his church members he didn’t think that was right…What do you think of this?????
I Think Cora spoke quite well on this subject, her advice was well said on obedience to God. However I think its pointless to hold on to a man that has moved on emotionally and physically in a marriage, and at some point a woman has to question her self worth & morals and let go and let God deal with a man who is capable of committing this horrific sin against his family. Unfortunately a man capable of these actions no longer loves God, his wife or his children and until he or she fully surrenders to God nothing will change for them. The best thing that any one affected by this can do is move on with their life in the Lord trusting in him completely, having all faith in him and allowing God to guide your steps. God won’t fail, God won’t never leave you nor forsake you, God won’t hurt you. Remember that greater is he that is in you than he that is in the world. To God be the Glory in your lives, Jesus has the victory and what satan meant for your harm God has for your good, all that we go thru is necessary for making of us to be the son’s and daughter’s God wants us to be.
I am convicted in the eyes of the Lord, and cannot forget that I have committed a sin against God and my wife. I am recently saved, but I cannot say that for I have a problem with my fleshly desires. The enemy tells me that I am casted out of heaven for the major events of sinful desires I had put onto myself. I am trying to get back up and continue my walk with God, but my transgressions keep me unfocused and out of place. I would like to confess of my sins, and declare that God is my saviour. I am broken and a wanderer. I am lost and can no longer declare my ways as a witness to the light that was once shown to me. I can not show others who are lost along with me for I would be a blind leading the blind. I just want to know that when I ask God to replace the old and give me the new that I am accepted forgiveness. I fight off temptations daily, but I have fallen into many. I ask the Lord for forgiveness today, January 6th, 2012, and help me to leave my old ways alone for they are no good to me and especially to God. If you, who are reading, please forgive me for I have sinned against Our Father. I am afraid, and I am lonely due to the entrance that I have given the enemy back into my life. I ask that you who are reading this, pray for my guidance back into the life God created me for. So that I may take up my cross, get my sight back and seek those who are lost. Thank you all for your time to hear my story. Amen
To Michelle:
This is not about what we think, it’s about what God says & His will being done in our lives.
To Jeff:
I will keep you in my prayers. i want to encourage you to seek God daily for guidance through prayer and reading your Bible. I commend you for being man enough to admit your short comings. When we confess with a sincere heart this is when The Lord steps in to help us out of the mess we have created and back on the right track. May God bless you and give you a made up mind tp want to do what is pleasing to Him. Men have a big resposibilty and the only way to be able to uphold being responsible is with God leading you on the path He has chosen for you.
Michelle,
The bible says the only way we are free to marry someone else is if our spouse passes away. What you are saying about God blessing us with someone else is not biblical at all. Please be careful with your choice of words because our souls are at stake. My husband has walked away but my prayers wont stop for Him because the Bible says pray without ceasing. So whether my husband is praying or not, I know God hears my prayers and honors my obedience for keeping my promise to Him and my husband. if he chooses not to obey God that is between him and God.As for fighting for the marriage, this battle is no longer ours but God’s and we must allow His will to be done & we cannot move until God says so. Yes when you say let go, I agree with that because you still have to live your life and allow God to handle the spouse. But I dont agree with letting go of the marriage. When you have God’s love in your heart you dont give up. Please Read 1 Corinthians 13 when you have time. No disrespect but we MUST obey God and not our emotions. Remember God hates divorce!
I am terrified to read about the consequences of adultery. I cheated on my wife with a pastor’s wife, both of our marriages were in trouble, I felt neglected in my marriage because my wife was focusing her whole attention on our two kids,and I don’t blame her for that… we never or hardly ever went out on dates alone since we don’t have relatives where we live, the communication was already broken, when I met this other girl, there was immediately a spark between us, very strong chemistry and she said pretty much everything I wanted to hear and so did I for her….needless to say, we fell in love with each other, my wife found out about my infidelity not too long ago, and because of God’s mercy…she has decided to stick around with me…and show me GOD’s love…I’m having a really difficult time dealing with this problem, I feel unworthy to go to the LORD, not only because of my sin but also because I’m still in love with that person…my wife does not deserve anything I did to her, she has been a great wife to me…I have two kids and she has three, at one point we comtemplated the idea of divorcing our spouses and getting married, but we are both aware that we are stepping out of GODS will, I don’t want to be responsible for destroying a pastoral ministry and destroying my youth group (since Im the youth leader) many times I have asked GOD “why I didn’t meet this girl when I was single” I know the answer is simple…because it was not HIS will..I’m at the bottom of the pit right now…I can’t stop thinking about this other girl, everything I do or see reminds me of her…I don’t want to end up divorcing my wife loosing her and my two children, I feel so ashamed of myself and I’m also heartbroken because I fell in love with her…my wife is devastated and I have been thinking about seeking professional help for us….I know I have to let the other girl go…It’s just so hard because of the way I feel for her…
I have read all the scriptures concerning adultery and I knew it was wrong, but when my teaher suduced me,as a teenager, or the confidence to tell anyone , worse my parents, because I thought they would blame me I never had the innner strength to stop myself. He was married then and although there was no enjoyment I kept on letting him use me, then I faced an embrassing situation and it ended. I eventually got married and had a very traumatic life, I was a agin found myself in an adulterous affair,I wanted to stop but it was as though a force greater than me was bounding me to do this. People found out at church and they made life so difficult that I left. I am not going to church now, but it really worried me in view of what the scripture says. I AM NOT IN ANY SEXUAL RELATIOSHIP NOW and for the first time i feel that the force has left me. I have confessed my sins and repented. Tonight I found this website and that is what you said so I AM FORGIVEN.I cannt tell you all my sufferings mentally and physically, and the broken relatioships and even my son’s illness and the impact upon my life. All I can say is God has been gracious and merciful to me I am still alive. The man I had the last relationship with has told people and now he got my telephone nummber and I feel that he wants to make life more difficult for me. Iam asking you all to pray for me so that I be healed from the demonic hold of mental illness which started at the end of my first affair and is now plaging me again it has also taken over my son’s life.
To Rhonda – read the conclusion again and find hope there. I feel that I am suffering the consquencies of my sins, but I also believe in the forgivness of God. I compounded the misiries of my life by following bad advises, listening to actual people and being drawn by thses unknown ‘forces’ and circumstances to do things that were just not rational.My life was as if it was caught in a whirlwind of good and evil and evil triumphed. I have become ab social reject because I am forced to return to live with my exhusband, however there is no sexual contact between us, to make it worse my son is mentally ill. I am asking you all to pray for us.
to Manny- Take your thoughts captive as it says in Corinthians, the pain of sin is too great, please stop before it is too late. Please hold me in your prayers.
Martha
Time to be honest here. Yes you did mean to hurt your husband. Maas soon as you pursued that relationship you were saying, “I want to do what I want and I
Really don’t care who it hurts.” To say this type of thing a second time is just not true. You are clearly doing what you want to do and your love (love being an act of the will) is self deception. People that commit adultery almost always say that they didn’t want to hurt anyone. Th truth is that they don’t care. When you saw that person again and felt those feelings started you could have left then but you decided not to leave. You stayed and in your heart you knew exactly what was going to happen.
I didnt want to hurt anyone, the man i cheated with began as a friendship, i developed feelings for this man, it started when i had marital problems, my husband hit me, but i know i have to fight for my marriage, i know i love my husband, i love my son, but most of all i love God, i will give up all desires for the love of God…..if i didnt care i would simply have an affair and act freely upon my feelings for that man, i would not worry about fighting against such evil act, its a spiritual war within me, only God knows what i truly feel, & yes i know i could have walked away, but i didnt because unfortunately im a sinner, i was spiritualy weak, but also i could have continued and let go of all my feelings but i decided to fight against myself and stop…. i pray i dont fall again, im scared to do so, i dont want to lose my family, i dont want to lose my salvation. dont wish anybody such horrible situation.
Martha I understand I just prayed for u. Yes Paul we did what was wrong and we regret it so much, the pain of sin cuts deep, and only those who hav experienced it knows the terror and torment.Yes maybe we wanted to hurt the one who hurt us, we looked for comfort in the wrong places. Yes we should have taken our pain to God, but show us some love, show us some understanding,hold us in prayer, give us some encouraging words so that we will not fall into this type of horrible sin again. look at it this way, if we did not come to a realization that we were wrong do you think we would put our story out for u all to read?. In my case I realize I had an undignosed illness which made me do the things I – BIPOLAR DISORDER. Is it a generational curseor is it witch craft, I do not know, but I wish if I was normal. I PRAY THAT IT STOPS WITH ME.
PRAY IT STOPS WITH ME MEANING THAT IT IS NOT PASSED DOWN TO ANYONE ELSE IN MY FAMILY OR MY SIBLINGS FAMILIES. Dear Lord help us.Amen
The reason you keep on going back to the persons you had an affair with is because of the soul ties that were formed. Until those ties are broken its a continued cycle. Seek deliverance and ask God to sever all ties and be set free. I mean All. Remember you caught in the soul web of all the people your adulterous partner slept with. If you struggling with temptation, call your pastor or praying friends to pray with you and RUN the opposite direction. Its unfortunate that technology has made it easy for old flames to connect. If you can’t control yourself, stay out of it.
Jeann – Thanks for your words of encoragement, everyone of us on this site which are struggling with the memories or the temptation needs all of your encouragement and prayers.May God our Father bless u.
I just looked the posting ‘ Death and Life is in the power of the tongue’ and I will read it fully later.Thank God for you Mike this website has been a blessing.
My daughter who I thought was a Christian began an adulturous affair with an assistant principal where she worked as a teacher in the Spring of 2009.We had no knowledge of this affair until the end of July 2011. She began telling me that she could no longer have sex with her husband as she no longer had feelings for him. We loved her husband and felt God had real plans for his life. Then she came in daily crying to me saying that her husband was going to leave her. They were building a large home and he was working hard to pay for that. Then one day in the Spring of 2010 I went to her house and she told me that he was moving out and selling the home.That was strange to us as two weeks before he told me they were moving into the new house in two weeks. Anyway, she played the victim to me and my husband and said the failure of the marriage was her husband’s fault. She came up with some massage parlor tickets, etc. and blamed her husband for the demise of the marriage. In the meantime my daughter completely changed. She had a breast implant. Was making other bodily changes, etc. In the summer of 2011 we discovered that she had begun an affair with a married assistant principal at her school. His wife said the affair started in the Spring of 2009 as he cut off sexual affairs with him then. She hired a detective and found proof of the affair. His wife also said he has gambling issues, a deep seated need to engage in pornography and raied the question about his sexual preferences. That he needs to engage in sexual talk, etc. My daughter has two beautiful children who my husband and I have takn care of since birth. Shortly after we found out about the affair my daughter arranged for other child care and she and her husband no longer let us see the children. She says this is for the children’s protection.My daughter has begun a campaign first to discredit her adulturous’ partner’s wife, then to trash her family. She is continuing to try and play the victim. We miss our grand children who we have taken care of since birth and worry about our daughter’s relationship with this man. I have heard terrible rumoms about them being caught in church parking lots having sex, him verbally stimulatig her in front of others, her texting pictures of her breats, etc. We don’t know how is best to connect with the grand children. We can go and have lunch with them at school but it is awkward. Does anyone have any suggestions about how to deal with the children in this situation. My daughter won’t let them come to our house. She is caught up in an explicit sexual encounter with this man. He was brought before the District about havng an affair with a student. We are worried about her and her children. I would appreciate any Christian advice.
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Oh my, this is hectic Sandra. Take it to the Father our Almighty Yahua (God). Unfortunately her actions will impact her children. God has given children to us as a reward and blessing and expects us to take care of them according to His will as in His Word. May Yahua our Elohim hide them under the shelter of His wings. Pray for the children, not soulish prayers but declare His Word upon the children, His Word accomplishes what He has set out to accomplish. May Yahua give you strength as grandparents and wisdom and revelation. As for your daughter, she’s caught up in a deadly game. Read Prov 1 – 5 to her. Yahua’s Word does not return to Him void and faith comes by hearing His Word. I pray that she heeds the voice of our Elohim, repent and turn to Him. She must make a choice. Choose life or Death, blessings or curses. May you have peace that surpasses all understanding knowing our Father is in control.
Why is it that i feel like there is a kurse over me
I was born and raised without a father, he abandoned my mother at 7 months pregnancy
My mother later met another man and i lived through domestic violence from as far as i remember until the age of 11
During those 11years i was molested by an uncle, moved from school to school 2-4
@Manny…… please understand, I am not judging you, for the Word says, judge ye not, that ye be judged. Athough you may not like hearing what I have to say, its not meant as judgment of you in anyway. Know this, I love you in Christ as my brother and by our Lord’s command, found in His’ Word, I’m required to do so. Be ye notified, if the spirit of adultery, which satan has cast upon you both, still remains currently active in your life (mind,body,soul,spirit), I believe through the power & wisdom of the Holy Ghost, that you need to immediately step down from your position as the acting Youth Leader/Pastor of your church. And that’s whether or not you still remain actively involved with your Pastor’s wife. I pray the Lord will continue to convict you and in return cause a great desire inside your heart, to seek complete deliverance from this satanic spell. I pray the Lord will give you the strength & courage to follow through with gaining complete & utter deliverance and I pray He will help you re-build & re-gain the LOVE & CARE you once had for your precious wife. I pray He will strengthen & comfort your wife & children and place a spirit of forgiveness in their hearts. This tragedy, which satan is proud of, can become a slap & spit upon his face, if you choose to follow the voice & path of our Lord Jesus Christ. With hard work and continual commitment from you, to lead & live a 100% Christian way of life, I believe you’ve been given the opportunity of turning this travesty into something you & your family could look back upon with a spirit of thankfulness, giving God all the Glory. That is all up to you! We do have a choice in our life of circumstances & situations. Its not all destiny. Its been said, life is a lot like a card game. You are dealt a hand of cards, but you have no decision upon or choice of what they are. But once they’re dealt out, you have the choice of picking them up and playing the best hand you possibly can. The cards have been dealt, you picked them up and you chose to play your first hand this way. But even now, after seeing your BIG mistake, the game isn’t over and you still have a lot of choices to make. Now its up to you again to choose which cards you’re going to play and whether or not you will keep making the same mistake. I pray that you and your family will become stronger, wiser, closer and that each of your heart’s will be filled with an abundance of love for each other. I plead the Blood of Jesus over this situation and each and everyone of them alike here today and in all the victory, to GOD BE ALL THE GLORY! Amen……
@Cora……… Amen! Amen! I know how you feel and I feel the same about my wife. I pray the Lord strengthens you and increases your faith, in believing that ALL things are possible through Christ Jesus. I will continue to remember you in prayer. Don’t let the doubters or those who are weak in faith, bring you down or steal your blessing. If the Lord has promised you victory, claim it in the name of Jesus! If He has promised you victory, you can take it to the bank! He will not & He can not, let you down! He has never let me down and He has always kept His promises. God bless you……
@Sandra Odom……… I’m sorry to hear about your situation and I know it must be hard. I pray for the Lord to move in a way that will reconcile your family back together. Regarding your grand-children, check with your local county chancery court and ask about your right-to-visitation as a grandparent. Most states have laws in place to help assist with these type situations. I felt to mention this to you for the possibility or opportunity, to not only gain the relationship back with your grand-children you lost, but to possibly shake & move your daughter into realizing the kind of choices she has chosen to make in her life. I hope & pray for the best and may the Lord keep & shelter those precious children in His mighty hands. God Bless You & Your Family………..
Murphy do u have a word for me?
How do you approach a Christian woman who has been involved in an adulturous situation. One which is ridden with adultury, ponography, gambling, etc.
Cheryl
I agree with what you are saying about praying for our marriages and I know God hates divorce, but when the enemy has taken a person’s mind and heart and they are fullengaged in the sin of adultery and they are not willing to yield and surrender, I believe it is time to let go and the word of God says that if a spouse chooses to end the marriage due to this sin, that God will allow it. I deeply respect your determination to keep praying for your spouse and marriage and I pray that your prayers are answered. But as for me and my house we will serve the Lord and move forward and not wait on a man who has failed and turned his back on us and God. I see no point in going on with that. If a person has made their choice to dwell in sin and not turn to God you can pray until your last breath but it ultimately is a choice and a point of acceptance and I have reached mines. Adultery erodes the ability to love, a man that doesen’t love you isn’t going to return and turn from his sin. But God won’t fail and he won’t committ adultury on me and my children. God won’t fail like man has so many times over. I pray for all who have committed this sin against their wives and husbands, may God have mercy on them and their souls for such a destructive wicked demonic sin that kills and devestates!!
@Murphy, Your wisdom and depth is such a blessing, please continue to encourage people as I can see and feel the Holy Spirit in your words. Whatever has happened in your life has truly drawn you closer and given you such profound depth in the Lord! May you continue to seek the Kingdom of God and do his Work thru encouragement and building up of God’s people in their time of distress. I thank God for adversity for it has as well grown my family up and closer to the Lord. What the enemy meant for harm, God set us up for it to be for our God. Remember your set back is your set up for your come back in the Lord. Thank you Lord that I’m not what I use to be and I’m striving & yielding to the Lord to be the woman of God he wants me to be. God won’t leave us nor forsake us. God sticks closer than a brother. I will continue to fight the good fight of Faith! I plead the Blood of Jesus over every part of my life and I trust God to do exactly what he said he would do in his word!! Thank you Lord for the Victory in you!! The enemy has no dominion and has to flee!! Trust God and EVERYTHING WILL BE MORE THAN ALRIGHT!! BLESS HIS HOLY NAME!! TO GOD BE THE GLORY IN ALL OUR LIVES!!